OT Question

• 10-07-2009 9:12 AM

  DScully92 Joined on 02-09-2006 Posts 903

  OT Question Reply Contact Allright here goes.  My dh has been out of work most of the year.  He is in school for law enforcment, but no place in florida is hiring nor will they put him through the academy.  We just got word that 5 agencies in IL are hiring and will put him through the academy and pay him while he does it.  This would require us to move from FL to IL.  We looked at prices up there and everything is a lot cheaper than it is down here.  He would be making more than we ever made combined and putting less money out.  The thing is ALL our family lives in Florida.  Do we make the move for our family and a better opportunity even though it means leaving out extended family behind or do we stick it out and hope that things  change down here?  I have a list full of pros for going, and only 2 cons (the cold and lack of family).  I do have a best friend who lives out there with kids the exact same age as mine.  What do I do?  TIA ladies :)

• 10-07-2009 10:24 AM

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  bales3137173 Joined on 11-22-2008 Finland Posts 252

  Re: OT Question Reply Contact Personally I would go for it.....Judging from the fact that its been a year your DH is out of work (mine is going on his 4th month and its tough!!) and that you say there are more pro's than con's..Id go for it :) Men need to work and feel like men, well that is what im figuring out living with an unemployed man.....If this is an opportunity that seems like it will work...I would go for it..

• 10-07-2009 11:07 AM

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  Cali Girl Joined on 08-16-2004 San Diego Posts 610

  Re: OT Question Reply Contact I say go for it too!! I totally understand what you mean, we talked and agreed that if DH could find better work out of state after exhausting efforts here, we would move. It would mean leaving my parents who have always lived close by and I'm extremely attached to them (I'm their only kid and have their only grandkids!). And leaving behind his parents and brother and his family (our kids only cousins). It would be very hard living away from them all but we have to take care of and provide for our own kids so if that's the route we had to go we would do it. I love my parents and his but unfortunately that doesn't pay the bills. With the computers, phones and skype I know we'd still be in constant contact with them all and with a better job we could prolly afford vacations to come visit them and have them visit us too! Sit with DH and hash out the pros and cons. You're in my thoughts and prayers!!

• 10-07-2009 11:58 AM

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  Crystal548031 Joined on 10-05-2004 Colorado Posts 2,297

  Re: OT Question Reply Contact I say DO IT DO IT DO IT!!! We were both from the same small town of 1300 people and had alllll of our family there....we up and left a year ago when DH joined the ARMY.....It was such a great choice...not only for the Job but also because DH now knows what its like to take care of his family without anyone else to fall back on. Ya its hard leaving the ones you love behind but it makes the time you do get with them matter even more. Also made us ohhh so much closer...when ya first get somewhere ya only have eachother. Good luck!!!!

• 10-07-2009 1:12 PM

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  Dawn429 Joined on 12-29-2008 NM Posts 532

  Re: OT Question Reply Contact I say do it also.  You have to do what is best for your family.  All of my dh's family lives here and half of mine and we rarely see my dh's family.  So it wouldn't matter if we moved away.  On a side note, you said one of the cons is that it is cold.  There are agencies here in NM that are hiring and it is not as cold as IL.  Cost of living here is cheaper than FL.  Just a thought. :)

• 10-07-2009 1:40 PM

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  lifeismagick Joined on 07-22-2008 Ontario Posts 1,293	Re: OT Question Reply Contact  I also say go for it.  Being close to family is great and you will miss them but your kids have to come first and if you can provide better for them by moving then that is a good choice.  Discuss it well with your husband and together you will come to a choice that is best for your family.

• 10-07-2009 11:35 PM

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  LukiesMama Joined on 11-18-2008 Altoona, Pa Posts 2,044	Re: OT Question Reply Contact  I agree. I would go. It would be so hard for me to leave my family too but if it meant my baby would have a better life and we wouldn't be struggling than I would totally go. But ultimately it is up to you and your husband so, like was said, talk it over real good and I'm sure you will make the best decision. Good luck and keep us posted!

• 10-08-2009 5:22 AM

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  melissa291536 Joined on 01-01-2004 Jersey Shore, NJ Posts 358	Re: OT Question Reply Contact Go for it...its about what you can do to give your family a better life.

• 10-08-2009 6:02 AM

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  Kimberly2670453 Joined on 02-21-2008 Wisconsin Posts 3,000	Re: OT Question Reply Contact  We picked up and moved to WI from PA for DH to go to school.  I think if it is what's best for your family unit, go for it!

• 10-08-2009 7:16 PM

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  kibaie Joined on 08-05-2008 Ontario, Canada Posts 649	Re: OT Question Reply Contact I say do the move. It'll be good for your family, plus like you said you'll be making quite a bit more money, you can afford to put money aside to visit home, and the visiting will be that much sweeter because of the time apart. Plus there's always the phone and internet to talk to them. Either way. good luck with whatever you choose.

• 10-09-2009 10:46 PM

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  kyjane Joined on 10-13-2008 Silver Spring, MD Posts 388	Re: OT Question Reply Contact  I say go for it!  My DH has been out of work for over a year and a half and my experience is that the longer they stay unemployed the worse they get!!  LOL!!  Embrace the opportunity to have a better life for your family!!  :)