Why is it that once you get married, people think you've somehow lost all your independance, single skills, and your ability to think for yourself??? Last time I checked, I still had my own brain to think with, my own arms and legs to do things with and a very good knowledge of home repair skills!!!
People (IE: My mom, FIL, MIL, and DH) seem to think that just because Rick broke his arm, that now we have to hire someone to come in finish our kitchen remodel! HELLO!?!?! I am PERFECTLY CAPABLE of doing drywall, sanding, spackling, texturing, and painting!!! Just because I have a husband doesn't mean that I spontaneously forgot how to do all those things!!! In fact, since I got married I have actually learned more about all those things because DH and I have been doing them together! Granted, I may not be as good at them as DH is, but I can still do a very good job by myself, without help!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!
I seriously just want to scream at the top of my lungs! You know that saying "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything?" That's what I want to tell them!!!
And here's another thing - my FIL is really good at spackling, painting and every other aspect of home repair, but will he come over and help? Nooooo - because from what I gather, he doesn't want to! So my MIL & FIL are too busy to get off their butts and come help us meanwhile my Mom, who feels the same as they do, has been over EVERY weekend since Rick broke his arm helping with whatever she can and she has Fibromyalgia to boot! So she's in no position to help us yet she is and Rick's parents are capable of it yet they won't.
I've had enough of everyone telling me that I can't do it when I know I can! I need people to tell me that they believe in me and that they will help in whatever way they can. I don't need them to follow through with their help, but I need to hear from the people who love me that they don't think I'm useless! That's kind of the message that they're sending to me and I've had it. If it was something I had no knowledge of, yeah, I could understand where they're coming from, but it's not! I have my own knowledge of home repair plus if Rick would just be in the room with me I would have his knowledge too!
Sorry this is such an angry sounding post, but that's where I am right now. It might be a good thing because all this anger is very motivating and I'm using it to get sanding & spackling done tonight after work.