why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site?

• 05-09-2008 12:35 PM

  vic Joined on 05-07-2008 Posts 4	why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact I have visited this forum for several times and posted some messages. I found that parenting is definitely considered to be not a man's world. That is, looking through forum it seems to me that men don't exist in all this process... Do you think they are? :)

• 05-19-2008 9:42 AM

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  dg.pryde Joined on 05-19-2008 Vancouver, BC, Canada Posts 3	Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact well this is like the only topic started by a male on this site lol.

• 05-27-2008 11:13 PM

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  Alaska Megan Joined on 05-25-2008 Posts 9

  Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact Men are very important to the healthy development of a child. I wish this site were more directed towards PARENTS equally, since it is called Parenting Weekly, but the sad truth is that nowadays we don't have as many men who are willing to do the job of father; many are absent completely (or almost completely) by choice or custody situation, or they are absent because they are working long hours and are uninvovled. There are many great men out there who do the right thing and are wonderful fathers. My husband will be one of these when our little one is born! Your kids are very lucky to have a great man like you who is able and willing to do the job of FATHER. ;)

• 10-31-2008 12:16 AM

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  J2367072 Joined on 08-29-2007 Nairobi, Kenya Posts 1

  Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact Parenting is definitely a job for TWO!! If it wasnt for my husband, I dont think our girls (6months and 8years) would be as "comfortable" with life as they are. He is such a gem and takes care of them fully - I am talking diaper change, bath time, feeding, oohhh i could go on. He is more flexible with his time and therefore spends more time with the wee one at home and she started holding her own bottle at 2 months, started sitting at 4 1/2 and is now weaning so confidently you would think she was a pro. I love that my husband is my partner in all ways, bringing up these girls is a joy and I dont think that I could have done it if he was not involved as much as he is.....

• 06-18-2009 1:53 PM

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  John3438647 Joined on 06-18-2009 Posts 1

  Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact I agree 100% on the importance of the balance in parenting. I just ask that people understand that sometimes, not working the extra hrs is not an option. We are expecting our first child in Feb 2010. I work for a company that has forced Overtime and when I report to work each day, I have no idea what time I will get home from work. Starting at 8am and not being allowed to punchout until after 8pm sometimes 9pm is the way UPS treats their employees. We have a contract stating we are expected to work a minimum of 8 hrs but not more than 9 1/2 hrs. Our union has been unable to hold UPS management to the writings in the contract. With the due date expected in February of our child,, I am more angry than ever that our company feels they have the right to force excessive unwanted overtime on the workers and the Teamsters can do or chooses to do nothing for the workers who pay close to $100.00 \month for their representation. I want to be there when the child is born, ..when the child needs its father, when my wife needs support.....My fear is that it will be a big strain on my wife and relationship when I cant be there during the week when I am forced to work excessive OT. I am at home now due to Phnemonia sickness. HELP ME HANK.

• 06-18-2009 6:29 PM

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  kcpicard Joined on 03-04-2009 Idaho Posts 23

  Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact I understand where you're coming from. I consider my husband one of the best in the world. Even though he only has met our newest daughter for about a week of her life (she's going on 3 months). My husband is a member of the US Army and is in Iraq right now. I fully understand the representation of a father. He isn't here physically but we make sure our children (we actually have 4) know their daddy loves them and wishes he was here with us every day. He was suppose to be home in time for our daughter's birth but sadly got stop lossed, so I guess that's kind of like mandatory over time. haha Except his is a year. I am so proud of my husband and our children understand that daddy has to do what daddy has to do to support our family and take care of us as well as our country. I think you will be just fine. It isn't easy raising children but I do agree it should be 50/50 and in a weird way I think our relationship is 50/50 although I know it is hard on him not being here for everything but we're thankful for what we get together. Families have all different situations, absent dads, absent moms, neither, when I get sad or feel like I need help I just stop and think of how good I actually have it, I have healthy children who have a father that loves them and me, that's more than I can say for a lot of families. I always try to look at the positive in the situation. I know that's not much help to you but if you look at that you do get to come home and see your children at night, on weekends and such it will be okay. I'm sorry that the teamsters aren't helping you, maybe you can look more into your legal options without their help. Sometimes places need someone to get the ball rolling.

• 06-26-2009 1:43 PM

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  rmsandoval7 Joined on 06-19-2008 Phoenix, AZ Posts 54

  Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact Ok I'm not a dad but I just want to respond to John. My husband has forced overtime at work, and while it isn't as bad there have been times when he's forced over into 16 hour shifts for an entire week, and it can be pretty stressful. But I will tell you that even though he's not always here in the evenings, I appreciate everything he does for our family, the sacrifices he makes are priceless, and our two boys will know that he is a great dad even if he isn't home as much as he'd like to be. Just make the most out of the time you have at home, spend quality time with your kids even when they're tiny, read them stories, just be there and you'll be fine.

• 07-08-2009 3:07 PM

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  John3458536 Joined on 07-07-2009 Posts 8

  Re: why parenting is considered to be a women's world on this site? Reply Contact This is a GOOD topic!! Ever since I learned of my Fiance`s....well EX now...pregnancy I have been doing ALOT of research about custody and the rights of a single father. It seems we are a growing bunch, not only in our country, but all over the world! There should be a section here for us...I especially need some guys to bounce off of, if you read my other posts you will see my situation is an AWFUL one. In my opinion, its just a "changing of the guard", we are no longer viewed as just the paycheck anymore, we are able to cook, clean, change diapers and thats all before we go to work! NOW, I have no experience with the diaper part yet, but everything else... absolutley. The tide is starting to turn, and as single fathers may not be the norm yet....its heading that way! 12-5-09 is gonna be here before I know it, I have a rough road till then, maybe then my tune may be a tad different.....BUT until then DADS.....be good and doing good for the kids!!!.........John