Discipline...HELP!

• 05-20-2009 1:41 PM

  Taryn453015 Joined on 07-08-2004 Mississippi Posts 5,449	Discipline...HELP! Reply Contact Jaylyn is SO bossy. I feel like I have lost my grasp of discipline. The mother who said she would never spank her child has resorted to spanking, which doesn't work...putting her in room, which doesn't work because she throws toys and throws huge tantrums...and taking things away, which doesn't work. She seriously does not care when she is in trouble.

• 05-23-2009 10:33 PM

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  rosiebird Joined on 01-02-2006 Posts 2,279

  Re: Discipline...HELP! Reply Contact Awesome book to read ( in all of your spare time... hahaha) "Your Four-Year Old" by Ames and Ilg. It will help you understand this better. I read it the other day (it is very short and easy to read) and it really helped. Hard to summarize, though. Yeah, spanking ain't gonna work with these'uns. I think it is something about this particular subset of kids... chinese year of the rooster and then the regular zodiac fish... how weird is that? bird-fish... of course they are at odds with the world! Quinn does NOT listen to anyone but himself. He does whatever he wants regardless of the consequences. It is soooooo hard. But the book at least helps one to understand. Good luck, Taryn.

• 05-31-2009 8:23 AM

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  Melanie05 Joined on 11-30-2004 Posts 2,087

  Re: Discipline...HELP! Reply Contact Oh my goodness!  I could have written this myself!  My daughter is the same way, bossy as heck!  I've been having discipline problems too. I am definitely a spanker, but soon before she turned four it stopped working.  Plus, she fights me when trying to get her into position and it turns out to be good workout for me but not much for discipline.  And yea, the sending them to their room doesn't work for anything but getting them out of our hair for us to calm down from being ticked off. What I've found works wonders is a time-out.  I put my daughter in a corner with no toys or decoration or anything around her, nothing to distract her.  I keep her there for 5-10 minutes, depending on the infraction that got her there.  Some would say that's excessive, but the shorter times didn't work.

• 11-05-2009 10:10 AM

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  RitaandJoey Joined on 07-20-2004 Posts 4,617	Re: Discipline...HELP! Reply Contact Better late then never. :) For joey the only thing that works is timeouts. I litterally have to sit in his room with him on his bed. If I were to just put him somewhere he will just get up. But I make him sit on his bed. And tell me he is sorry for whatever it is he did. Has she gotten any better?