Mother of four now and can't seem to be there for everyone of them, Please help.!

• 08-24-2008 12:06 PM

  Lorena3021927 Joined on 08-24-2008 Posts 1

  Mother of four now and can't seem to be there for everyone of them, Please help.! Reply Contact Hello I'm new to this site and just had my fourth child last year. Before this fourth child I still felt tha I was able to be there for my other two including my new born, but now with my fourth child it has all changed I feel so guilty all the time for not being able to strecth my self through out the day to be able to give them all the attention that they all deserve. I have one child in high school shes a ninth grader, another in fourth grade, and my other two are one and two years of age. I was just wondering if there was any experience moms out there with some experience with some of this problems that may be willing to give me some advice and help please. Thank you ahead of time for your support moms.

• 08-29-2008 10:06 AM

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  Lisa2262275 Joined on 04-01-2008 Colorado Posts 7

  Re: Mother of four now and can't seem to be there for everyone of them, Please help.! Reply Contact Hi, I'm so sorry for the rough time that your having. To be honest, I'm not sure how much advice I can give you, you see I have one little girl and another baby on the way so I have no personal experience with what you going through but I would like to offer you some encouragement. I was one of 5 children and we were all spread apart in age as well and to be honest I'm not exactly sure how my mom did it, she was a single parent from the time I was 9 and I was in the middle of the 5. I'm sure there were times that she felt like you do and I know there were times that maybe we wish she had more time for us as individuals but the important thing in my eyes was that even though she may not have had enough time, she always had more than enough love and none of us ever felt left out in that respect, she had a special relationship with each of us and that's what was important. Just remember that even though you may not have all the time/ patience in the world you'll always have enough love for your children and when they look back on things that's what that remember and appreciate most. Good luck and hang in there. Lisa

• 09-20-2008 10:02 AM

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  Julie2452 Joined on 10-16-2007 Mom to 2 boys, 3 girls, and 5 angels in N. MI Posts 20

  Re: Mother of four now and can't seem to be there for everyone of them, Please help.! Reply Contact I know it's been a while since you posted this, but... I am a mother of five. Ages 8, 7, 3, 1, and 3 months. I know how you feel!!! You just can't be there for everyone like you want to be and it's a terribble feeling. I hate it. I love all of my children dearly, but it's so stressfull when you are being pulled in five different directions. My advice for you is to drink lots of coffee so that you have enough energy to keep up!Lol What I try to do is this, after we eat dinner we go around the table and talk with the older kids about their day. What they did, highlights, or lowpoints, plans for tomorrow, just anything that's going on in their lives. My younger ones go to bed at 8 so I sit and snuggle them and read books, then put them to bed. Then we play a game with our older two. Just something like a board game, cards,or video games even. Get into what they're interested in. It's the only way to stay active in their lives. You could even start putting notes in the lunches of your older two now and then, just letting them know they are loved and thought of. You'll find that there are lots of little ways to make a big difference. Even just 10 minutes here or there. Good Luck.