dh was able to get ss so he could at least go to school...or so we thought. because of bm's car situation, we were meeting ss at 10pm (grr). bm & dh#2 work near each other & rode together to work. bm got off & took the car home. ss packed his stuff in the car & went back to the job place to meet us & give the car to dh#2 who's going home. ss drives up & he's stoned. dh & i were so pissed, bm claims he wasn't stoned when he left (in all fairness, ss was really late so it's possible he got stoned after leaving her & before meeting us, but she'd lie to cover his @ss so who knows). that night was hell because he was up all night. i think he had drugs on him, but by the time i realized that, i couldn't find anything. the next day i had to meet with a counselor & the alternative school guy...ss couldn't keep his eyes open, i was humiliated! because we needed dh's signature on a paper, they suggested we skip the day because ss would only be there for 1 class, if that. damn it, that's another day of school missed!
that night was an open house at the school, but it was more of an informational meeting because there were so many new students. my 3 yr old was acting up, so i took him out & dh stayed. dh said ss kept falling asleep...exactly what'd happened to me earlier in the day. it wasn't until then that he understood how humiliated i was. dh counted ss falling asleep 14 times in 45 minutes. bm showed up for this late as always, she missed it all. then she was trying to show the guy who runs it that she's involved & caring. honestly, dh#2 couldn't get her out of there! it was irritating for me because i knew he had to be thinking we were a bunch of idiots. ....but ss went to school the next day! at this point, it's friday & he went 1 day out of 4. then bm wants him back in drug central...not good to let him go to her house for the weekend, but bm couldn't understand that. she finally agreed to NOT leave him alone all weekend. she worked 7-4 on saturday, but dh#2 would be around....in reality, dh#2 worked too he just didn't mention it.
on sunday, dh is on his way to pick up ss and he gets the call from bm saying ss isn't coming back to our house, she's going to sign him up for "regular" school near her home. dh & bm have words and dh says he's coming to get ss ~ he's fed up as this has been going on for 3 yrs. bm tells dh not to come because "he [ss] won't be there." so once again she's hiding him.
i called the school to let them know ss probably wouldn't be back. ss is now attending a regular high school (which makes no sense since he can't catch up on his classes because he's too far behind) and says it's okay. his issue is not showing up or doing home work...none of that will change because bm & ss haven't changed.
ss is coming this weekend or at least that's the plan. we'll see. i hate that because my 3 yr old has really been taking it hard that "my Corey" isn't here. he cried for days, now we've had 2 days without tears & ss is coming back so the tears will start all over again.