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Last post 09-22-2008 6:08 AM by tjm5506. 2 replies.
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  • 09-12-2008 8:07 AM

    • tjm5506
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    Whats new?

    haven't been on here for a while and its been pretty slow.  i haven't had any real issues with BM b/c we just don't interact with each other very much since DH is living overseas.  I'm about to move over there.  So we don't get to see the kids alot just whenever he gets to come back to the states then we get them.  In Jan when he came back she sent an email to DH telling him i need to stop calling them weekly and i can't pick them up by myself b/c she can't deal with my rudeness.  I never thought i was rude i even asked my coworkers to read the emails before i send them to ensure they were neutral and civil.  It was all about the kids and making sure they knew they were still apart of our lives even though their dad lived so far away.  (we are military)

    Since then it has gotten better.  I guess she was just angry when she wrote that email and very insecure.  I did stop calling and only email if SD emails me.  In June i went down to pick them up by myself b/c DH was in the states for a conference and took some leave.  So yeah she went back on her word about me never picking up the kids unless he is there.

    I think her biggest thing is she feels like she is always on trail as a mother by me (i don't do things to one up her i do them b/c i think they will be fun for the kids) She doesn't want the kids to like me and i guess she is afraid that they will like me more than her which is crap but whatever.  i would never say bad things about her to her kids.  i figure they will find out when they are older.

    Well just recently found out she moved to FL was in GA.  she is splitting with her DH so divorce number 2.  but no more homeschooling issues b/c she actually got a job and put the kids in public school.  which was great news since we were worried about their education.  The divorce wasn't too big of a surprise just wondered when.  but i still feel bad for the kids having to go through this again.  they have a brother from that marriage.  thats about everything in a nutshell thats been going on so far this year.  oh yeah she finally paid DH back from the money she stole after their divorce.   

  • 09-16-2008 7:07 AM In reply to

    Re: Whats new?

    tjm5506:
    I think her biggest thing is she feels like she is always on trail as a mother by me (i don't do things to one up her i do them b/c i think they will be fun for the kids) She doesn't want the kids to like me and i guess she is afraid that they will like me more than her which is crap but whatever.  i would never say bad things about her to her kids.  i figure they will find out when they are older.

    i've felt that bm was afraid ss would like me too much.  i know it's hard to see your child like someone you hate...my 3 yr old likes her & it kills me at times...especially when she's being a total @ss to dh.  other than that little hitch, it sounds like life is going well for you.  are you moving to Africa or am i confusing you with someone else?

  • 09-22-2008 6:08 AM In reply to

    • tjm5506
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    • Joined on 02-21-2007
    • Kentucky
    • Posts 118

    Re: Whats new?

     

    Yes thats me. We will be there for 2 years and then hopefully back to the states and somewhere close to the kids so we can start regular visitations again. It has been pretty good not a lot of drama.  But i think thats going to change b/c of her divorce coming up.  She is already broke and says she has no money for gas to go to her NEW JOB (lets see how long she stays with it) but of course just last weekend she took a 2 hour drive to orlando without her kids to party.  But whatever she only gets child support from us and nothing more.  She still owes DH money but until she gets on her feet again we aren't going to see that paid off yet either.
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