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• 04-23-2008 7:28 PM

  crystal2816490 Joined on 04-24-2008 Posts 8	help Reply Contact I am not sure what to do if i should give this baby up or not everyone has a diffrent oppion and they all want me to do something to do something diffrent.please post me commets

• 04-23-2008 8:02 PM

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  nicole6651 Joined on 01-26-2005 Jesus is Lord Posts 403	Re: help Reply Contact Giving a baby up for adoption needs to be your decision and not that of others. Its something that you will have to live with for the rest of your life. I think it can be a wonderful thing if you want to do it(baby goes to a loving home and well taken care of). However, if you don't want to give up your baby, it will be hard to live with for the rest of your life.

• 04-24-2008 9:52 AM

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  LaurieF81 Joined on 03-27-2008 San Diego Posts 502

  Re: help Reply Contact I don't know if moms ever want to give their baby up for adoption.  Sometimes, they really really want to keep the baby, but it's just not the best choice for the baby or for them, and adoption is the best answer.  It's never an easy thing to give a baby up for adoption.  It does have to be your decision, you shouldn't let other people decide for you.  But you have to look at your life and the baby's life and how a baby would change everything, for the good and the bad.  And make the best decision for you and your baby.  It's ok to listen to other people's advice, suggestions, and opinions, and take that stuff into consideration, but you should still ultimately make your own decision.  It will be something (good or bad) that you live with for the rest of your life.

• 04-28-2008 8:47 PM

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  LeannHope Joined on 03-13-2007 Ariana (10-25-02) & Angel Blake (11/9-12/25 2007) Posts 763

  Re: help Reply Contact I just have to say that I admire your courage for thinking about giving your baby up for adoption. My husband and I lost our son to a rare diseas on Christmas day 2007.  We are now in the process of trying to adopt a baby. We are meeting with an agency next wednesday and are hoping that after our profile is done someone will pick us to adopt their child. Also we are not able to have anymore children because the rare disease that our son had is genetic and could possibly happen again. Good luck with whatever you decide and also you should know that your baby already can feel your love. Good luck and please update us what you decide.

• 04-28-2008 10:21 PM

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  crystal2816490 Joined on 04-24-2008 Posts 8

  Re: help Reply Contact I am sorry about you son I am not sure about puting the baby up. If i do that I would like to do a closed adpotion. I don't think that i will be able to get the peteral rights severed with out a fight and I think that I might want to keep the baby. I have wanted a baby for a while. I am not sure that i can do it by myself finacial. I am not sure what to do my mom is helping me and I am usure of everything but i do want to give birth. Mostly I think that i am going to deal with the changlles that this baby is going to bring.

• 04-29-2008 5:53 AM

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  LeannHope Joined on 03-13-2007 Ariana (10-25-02) & Angel Blake (11/9-12/25 2007) Posts 763

  Re: help Reply Contact First off, I want to say that this is the most difficult yet courageous thing you will do in your life. I can tell how much you love this baby already and if you decide to keep the baby, I hope that you have the financial support as well as the emotion support you need. If you do decide to go with adoption, I agree that a closed adoption is probably best for you. My husband and I have agreed that we would like a semi-closed adoption. We as the adoptive parents would send an update with photos to the agency and then the agency would forward that on to the birthmother. That way the birthmother is still able to see her child but there is no physical connection. I can’t even begin to  imagine the thoughts in your head right now. Does the baby’s father have any say it what happens? I was not sure if the baby’s father was still around. What about your mom what does she think? What do you see yourself doing in 5 years? Can you see yourself financial stable with your child? Have you contacted any agencies just to talk? Can I ask how far along are you? I just want you to know that I am on this board almost every day and if you want to talk to me, you can always send me a PM. Just click on my name and it will let you send me an email or private message. I am here to listen to you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that with time and prayer you will be able to reach a decision.

• 04-29-2008 5:07 PM

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  crystal2816490 Joined on 04-24-2008 Posts 8

  Re: help Reply Contact I am not sure where I will be in five years but i want to get into accounting. I think that i t would be better then what i have been doing. I have been taking care of the elderly. I have been a cna for the last 3 years and i was doing privite care before that. I want to keep the baby and my mom and her husband are willing to help me until I don't need the help anymore she really ok with it as far as i can tell and her husband would be a great role modle for this child. I am not sure about the birth farther he was in my life then he left me in a strange town while I was at work we had moved down there to be close to his friends and then he didn't like the changes that i made in my life and wanted to go home so he took are money and left. I really don't know who to talk to. I am afriad that i am not going to be able to have the baby go to 8 or 9 months theres a history of miscarages in my family and my sister just misscarred a couple of months ago. I don't want to get a couples hopes up and then miscarrey. I am about 6-7 weeks by the way. thank you for listing.

• 04-29-2008 8:23 PM

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  LeannHope Joined on 03-13-2007 Ariana (10-25-02) & Angel Blake (11/9-12/25 2007) Posts 763	Re: help Reply Contact I sent you a pm. Keep your head held up high and have faith. God will give you the right decision.

• 04-29-2008 8:35 PM

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  Heaven2645919 Joined on 04-30-2008 Posts 2

  Re: help Reply Contact I am praying for you and your baby. But I know what it's like to be dwelling on giving the baby up for adoption, but I decided to keep mine. You think you can do it and then you give birth and you just feel complete. Just because there is a history of miscarriages doesn't mean you will; just take care of yourself like taking the prenatal vitamins, eating right, & going to your check ups. But GOD has a plan for you and your baby so it's in his hands and when the time is right you will know what to do.

• 04-29-2008 9:08 PM

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  jacobpapp Joined on 08-19-2007 Posts 69

  Re: help Reply Contact You know that GOd doesn't give us more than we can handle. If you want to keep your baby, there are ways to work it out financially. Tell God your hearts desire, ask him to make a way . You know that God is ALWAYS there and listening when we talk. If you listen, he will talk to your heart. You sound like you would be a wonderful mom. I dont think you know how difficult it will be to hand over your baby for some one else to raise and you never get to see him, smile, laugh, play, tell you he loves you, etc. Take your time in making this decision. DONT LISTEN to other people, follow your heart and ask God to help you.

• 04-29-2008 10:09 PM

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  crystal2816490 Joined on 04-24-2008 Posts 8

  Re: help Reply Contact I think that I am going to keep the baby I really don't know how were going to make it one day at a time and with gods help. I am unsure of myself and a little unsure of my walk. it definely hasnt been what it should be and I don't know why god is so faithful to me when I haven't been to him. I asked god to help and this is the situation I have and I am happy to be home with my mom and mabey to see my friends well see though I am not sure if i can see them they know my ex and i don't want him to know where i live. I gusse he's disapperd agian. that wasn't a big surprise. So thank you for all your thoughts and prayers I apprate them and let me know if you would like prayer for anything.

• 04-30-2008 9:00 AM

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  jacobpapp Joined on 08-19-2007 Posts 69

  Re: help Reply Contact YOu know God will see you through. One day, or minute at a time. Even though you are unsure of your walk, dont worry. All you need to do is ask the lord to forgive you for not walking with him. Tell him you need  him to carry you through all the hard times. See Even when we are NOT faithful to the lord, he is to us because he LOVES us unconditionally so much. He is always there, no matter what. The bible says, Children are a GIFT from god. It is true.Focus on your walk with the lord and your baby. Dont worry about those friends. They will come and go, but God is always faithful to his kids. In the book of matthew it says that we are the lords responsibilty.  Are not two sparrows sold for a small coin? Yet not one of them falls to the ground without your Father's knowledge. ... So do not be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows." Matthew 10:29-31. Just remember, Jeremiah 29:11 says; He knows the plans for your life, to give you a hope and a future. Stay with your mom, let her help you as much as possible. You will be a great mom.

• 04-30-2008 11:48 AM

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  crystal2816490 Joined on 04-24-2008 Posts 8	Re: help Reply Contact i sent u a pm too

• 05-13-2008 8:03 PM

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  Tiana2853872 Joined on 05-14-2008 Posts 3

  Re: help Reply Contact I am so sorry that you are in this situation. But I can honestly say from experience that I know that when a mother gives her child up for adoption it is because she loves him/her that much. To give up what you want in the best interest of you chid is unconditional love. We adopted our almost 2 year old son and I can honestly say that I have so much respect for his birth mother. I know why she gave him up and I know that it was because she loved him and wanted more for him then she could provide. We are looking to adopt again (hopefully through private adoption versus agency this time) and I want you to know that I am more than happy to talk with you more and we would love to be condsidered if you make this choice. It is the hardest decision you will ever have to make. And God has a plan for you and your baby and he will show you what it is. Blessings, Tiana

• 05-13-2008 9:19 PM

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  crystal2816490 Joined on 04-24-2008 Posts 8	Re: help Reply Contact Tina i am glad that you were able to give a child a good and loving home. I am going to rasie this baby so i am sorry but i wouldn't be able to help you