Advice on Anti~Depressants..

• 05-16-2008 9:42 PM

  K1mb3rly2819375 Joined on 04-27-2008 Posts 299

  Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact My doctor is a first year resident and says that she will not put me on any medication for depression until this baby is born. I can not stand sitting here getting mad at my son for stupid things or if I color with the wrong pencil and just stupid things like this. I dont know what this disorder or depression is but it is driving me insane. My husband says I am stupid and everything else because of the way I act and that I am the weirdest person he has ever met and in a bad way. I dont know what to do. I do not feel loved. I do not feel cared for. EVER! I have no friends. No one calls. No one emails. My own father wont talk to me and my mom barely does(* AND I LIVE WITH HER!*). I have no one. And my son just babbles. I feel so alone. I hate being pregnant. I really do. I love the baby. Just not anything that comes with it!!!! What am I supposed to ask. What could this disorder or depression be classified as?? Where am I supposed to turn??! I just want out. I want to be alone...

• 05-17-2008 5:19 AM

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  sjcush Joined on 09-19-2006 Posts 73

  Re: Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact Find a different doctor.  Postpartum depression can happen anytime during pregnancy and during the first year of your baby's life.  There are safe options for medication during pregnancy.  And your doctor is foolish for not putting you on something even though you are pregnant.  In general people perceive the risks from medication to be greater than the risks of depression...and the truth is the risks of depression can be much worse! Good for you for recoginzing the signs and talking to your doctor about it, but maybe find a psychiatrist or different OB that can help you.  As well as medication, things that can make a big difference is 1) getting enough sleep 2) exercise 3) having some one to talk to about it!  Maybe if you can get some good information from a doctor/psychiatrist your DH could be more understanding once he is educated.  Depression is something I like to compare to an uninvited guest at your doorstep...you don't want them there, you never know when they'll show up, and they just stand there yapping away and you just want them to LEAVE!   Hang in there and I hope you can find the help you need!

• 05-17-2008 8:01 AM

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  K1mb3rly2819375 Joined on 04-27-2008 Posts 299

  Re: Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact My doctor that was with me for my last pregnancy is leaving in June and I just transfered to this new doctor. My husband is going to college this fall so I might get a doctor there. Its really hard and I dont want to find a different doctor. I am just worried and tired of my anziety and everything else upsetting everyone around me. All I could do is ask to see my old doctor before she leaves and ask her for her oppinion.

• 06-24-2008 5:28 PM

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  narelle2703612 Joined on 03-04-2008 Posts 4

  Re: Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact hi im a mother of 2 beautiful girls 8years and 6years and am 33 weeks preg with my third. i suffered depression with my last pregnancy and was not on anything i was put in to hospital becbecause my baby was not growing because i was so stressed out although i have a great partner i had no other support at all my baby was born very small and very stressed out as well the first three years with her were hell it was around that time that i started takeink anti depressents and 6 years later am still on them like you i did not want to be crappy around my beautiful girls this pregnancy has been a dream because i am still on them my doc said anything under 100mg a day is safe and baby will have no side effects it is more important for you to be happy and be able to cope with everything another thing i found play group a great place to meet other mums and build a great support network. do it for yourself and your family and get on somthing i swear you will feel soooo much better hope all goes well. (the tab i am on is for preg and breast feeding mothers and has been on the market the longest wich means they no the most about it it is called dothep)

• 06-28-2008 3:24 PM

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  Bellas~Mama Joined on 10-28-2005 Massachusetts Posts 73

  Re: Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact depression isnt something that should be ignored at any point in life, but certainly not during pregnancy. If you have insurance, I would call them and ask them to refer you to a mental health professional that has experience dealing with pregnant women. YOU need to be ok for your baby, and your son. there are many safe anti depressents that you can take while you are pregnant like Prozac, Zoloft and Wellbutrin....... you also sound like you need a friend, someone to talk to, to listen when you just need to cry. Reach out to those around you, tell them how you are feeling, whether it seems silly or not, they may realize there is something going on. If your doc wont help you, I would go to your old doc and ask them for a referal to a new doc that may take your needs and concerns into consideration....... HUGS honey... pregnancy is one of the hardest things a woman has to do (IMO) and how you FEEL should ALWAYS be a priority....... if you ever want to talk please pm me and I'll give you my email address, and MSN screen name. I'm a SAHM to a 3 yr old dealing with depression, so I know how you are feeling........   ~Jamie~

• 08-23-2008 5:20 PM

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  Mandie3008063 Joined on 08-19-2008 Posts 1

  Re: Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact Hi! I am in my first pregnancy and was on Lexapro for a year and a half. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I quickly stopped taking my Lexapro, as a result of abruptly stopping my medication I started waking up with panic attacks and sad feelings all day with strange worring thoughts. I contacted my therapist and obgyn, they said to continue taking my lexapro and the baby will be fine. Since I am such a worry wart I called a research facility and was told that Lexapro was found not to have no absolute increase in birthdefects. The only thing that was found was that the babies have a slight chance of irritability when they are born for a day or two. So, bottom line was to get myself feeling good again with this medication because without it the stress and anxiety I was feeling could cause major problems of their own. So, my advice to you is take something if you can and enjoy your life again! I also see a therapist and she is wonderful! I have been where you are and know that lonely, scarey feeling. But please know there is a way out! You can be happy again and you deserve it!

• 09-06-2008 10:39 AM

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  tikiblee Joined on 09-06-2008 Maryland Posts 2

  Re: Advice on Anti~Depressants.. Reply Contact Hey there - I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. I myself have been through three bouts of depression in the past 5 years or so - the last one being the worst. I can totally understand how alone you feel. Even with a loving husband supporting me, I felt worthless, anxious, confused, like i'd completely lost myself. Depression is a serious illness - it put me in the hospital the last time. There is no way I would consider getting off my meds (ever) because I know I am a much better wife and a much better mother to my unborn child than I would be without them - and I could never take the risk of allowing myself to get so low again. I did switch from celexa to zoloft because my OB was more comfortable with that particular drug. I recommend going to see a psychiatrist and getting his/her professional opinion. As someone else said, the risks to the baby of an unhealthy, stressed-out mother can be worse than the risks of an antidepressant. My heart goes out to you- I hope you find the help you need. There are also plenty of therapists and free support groups out there that could really help you not to feel so alone. The best thing you can do is try not to isolate yourself - it only perpetuates those feelings of lonliness.