New here & need some advice

• 06-17-2008 2:52 PM

  Kristi2912445 Joined on 06-17-2008 Posts 3

  New here & need some advice Reply Contact Hello, everyone I wanted to first off introduce myself. My name is Kristin and I'm 28 years old. I have two wonderful children ages ten eleven and three. I recently found out that I'm pregnant with my third child. I'm pretty happy about the pregnancy. I just told my fiance and well he isn't so happy. He says we have our hands full already and that I should have an abortion. I've had an abortion before and believe me I'm not proud of it. I don't see that we have any reason what so ever to justify killing this baby. He tells me that if I decide to keep the baby he can't make me any promises as to our relationship. I don't expect any promises but am I asking to much for him to try and be supportive. I have know one to talk to and I'm so stressed. Its not like I can just pick up and leave with my two kids. I'm a SAHM and I run a small business from home. I don't have any family in the ares and very little money since my fiance is the sole provider. Last night I poured my heart out to him telling him how I feel. Its like he has no concern for the amount of stress I'm dealing with or the emotions that I'm feeling. I try to tell him how I feel and he just says I dont want to talk about it. How do I get him to understand that its not easy just to walk into a clinic get an abortion come home and act like everything is all ok.

• 06-18-2008 12:47 PM

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  Football Mom Joined on 06-18-2008 Kansas Posts 53

  Re: New here & need some advice Reply Contact First of all, let me say that I absolutely do not believe in abortion. That baby you are carrying may be the one that God created to discover the cure for cancer. In fact, he may have created you to be the strong mother that can raise this child. His plan is so huge that none of us can comprehend it, but I assure you that if God brings you to it, he will bring you through it. As far as your fiancee, I am wondering why you have an eleven year old and a 3 year old with him and he still hasn't married you? Does he have any intentions whatsoever of doing so? Sweetie, I feel for you, I can't imagine how trapped you feel. Do you have anyone that you could call who could help you get out of there? Parents, pastor, friends? As far as I am concerned, this looks like a no win situation for you. I have no respect for any man who would coerce someone into having an abortion. I am sorry if this sounds preachy, but at age 39, I no longer see the world through rose-colored glasses and I have decided that life is too short to sit around and wait for your situation to improve, or for people to make up their minds. This life is yours, and you need to get out there and live it.

• 06-18-2008 12:58 PM

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  Kristi2912445 Joined on 06-17-2008 Posts 3

  Re: New here & need some advice Reply Contact Well my fiance and I have been together for five years. My eleven year old is from a previous relationship. I really dont know why we haven't got married yet. We talk about it all the time but when it comes down to it we just dont have the money. I've always wanted a wedding with friends and family. In any other situation my fiance is very loving and gentle. He is a wonderful provider, father, and fiance. We normally get along great and overall have a terrific relationship. However, this is putting a huge strain on us because we dont see eye to eye. He says I'm crazy to want another because we can hardly take care of the two we have. We live paycheck to paycheck and he doesn't see how a 3rd child is going to help our situation. What confussed the heck out of me is when I got pregnant with our three year old we were living with his parents. We moved 8 hours away from our home town to help his parents run their resturant. We had no job, no insurance, and had one bedroom to share between myself, fiance, and oldest son. How was our situation so wonderful then that he could justify having a child? Our situation is so much better now. We have a four bedroom house in a nice neigboor hood with good schools. He has a good career going for himself, I'm working part time from home. I just dont get it at all and its driving me nuts.

• 06-29-2008 8:48 PM

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  jacobpapp Joined on 08-19-2007 Posts 69

  Re: New here & need some advice Reply Contact You are SO right, you can't go and just kill this innocient baby. You can make it without your fiance. Move back home with your parents. Your fiance will have to pay child support. If you are not going to love this baby and raise it in a good home, than give it to a family who wants to be parents. DO NOT ABORT this baby. You fiance will probbably never get excited. Oh well, men come and go. Your own flesh and blood dont.

• 06-30-2008 1:01 AM

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  mummy2an_angel Joined on 03-03-2006 Praying 4 My March09 Miracle to STICK! Posts 488

  Re: New here & need some advice Reply Contact I hope you choose not to abort..  I watched how it is done on Youtube, and it is brutal.. They are torn apart, alive.. In pain.. But all that horrible cruel stuff aside, Any man who threatens the relationship if you DONT kill your baby, is a Loser Goof... straight up.. My sisters Fiance, tried talking her into getting abortions, with both of their Beautiful children, now aged 3 1/2 and almost 2.. He never threatened the relationship in anyway tho.. My sister jus Laughed in his face, when he said she should get an abortion.. She jus laughed.. and was like "Are you joking?" and never even THOUGHT about it.. Then with her second.. same thing.. Now HE completely regrets ever suggesting that, every morning when they get up in the mornin, and ask Daddy to makin them some cereal, or toast.. and asking him to take them to the park, etc.. He feels horrible.. Anyway. I hope you make the right choice .. I think Im so sensitive when it comes to abortions because I just lost my little Angel at 10 weeks along and it was the most heartbreaking thing I have EVER experienced in my entire life... I would do ANYTHING to have that baby, I should be almost half way now, over 17 weeks.. but im not..