New Here and Scared

• 06-29-2008 5:20 AM

  Kimberly2670453 Joined on 02-21-2008 Wisconsin Posts 924

  New Here and Scared Reply Contact Hi everyone. There doesn't seem to be much activity here, but I need to write anyway. Just this past week, I was on MCsupport feeling sort of "stuck" because we are allowed to try again, but decided not to yet. Then last night, DH, in the moment, decided to try. So I won't even know anything for a couple weeks, but I am really nervous about it. So a little background... We have 2 DD's, 8 & 5, mine from previous marriage. We had an accidental pregnancy last fall and mc'ed on Sept 30th at 4 weeks. Then we conceived on first try in February, but mc'ed at 7 weeks. We are moving from PA to WI in 8 weeks, so right in the middle of all of the early tracking that I will need, we'll be leaving. I know that stressing isn't going to help anything, and I just have to relax about it, but it's easy to KNOW that! I mostly have to concentrate on packing and getting ready to move, but now every time I lift something a little bit heavy, I am going to wonder if I shouldn't be doing it. First day of last period was last Saturday, so we may be too early still, so I may even be worrying for nothing. But, I tend to conceive easily... was on the pill with both dd's. I have been pretty depressed about not being pregnant. I was in the October 2008 group, and they are all at the point where they are finding out the sex, etc. Sorry, this is pretty jumbled... I just have a lot going on in my head. Oh, and my girls left yesterday to spend the summer in VT w/ dad. I guess in a sense, that's good because they were heartbroken in March, so if I am sick all the time, they won't be around to figure it out..... But already I miss them terribly. DH is getting ready to go to work, and the house is so empty. Don't know what I'm going to do with myself all day.....

• 06-29-2008 6:33 AM

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  AmyAlden22 Joined on 08-18-2005 Posts 150

  Re: New Here and Scared Reply Contact Hi Kimberly. I know exactly how you feel. I mc first in December, then again in March. I also have a healthy dd at home, and was flabbergasted that this was happening. I scheduled lots of testing and went in on April 18th to have 11 vials of blood drawn to look for everything. I was nervous, because I had been told absolutely not to try before this appt, but we had a few instances that were unprotected and low and behold, one of those little vials of blood told us we were pregnant again...a mere 5 weeks after the 2nd mc. They told me to right away begin taking 2000mcg of folic acid and await the test results. A week later, when they came back in, I found out I have a genetic mutation that they are finding to be very common among women with multiple pregnancy losses. It keeps the body from absorbing folic acid and vitamin B the way it should which can keep the baby from developing or lead to other complications like neural tube defects. It can't hurt anything to begin taking extra folic acid in addition to your normal prenatal right now in case you are pregnant again, and definitely ask your doctor about it next time you see him or her...see if they can test you for the MTHFR mutation, who knows? Anyway, the point of all this rambling is that I am now nearly 15 weeks pregnant and all is well so far. I have been a nervous wreck and it is hard to keep yourself from feeling too optimistic, but you realize that you can carry another baby and have it be healthy and have confidence in your body again. The best thing you can do for yourself at this point is cry when you need to, relax, and leave it in Gods hands to do what he will. I always check this board, so if you need to talk again, don't hesitate to post. Amy

• 07-02-2008 10:05 AM

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  Lisa2896380 Joined on 07-02-2008 Posts 7	Re: New Here and Scared Reply Contact Yup I'm 8 weeks now and can't believe I have come so far. We had three miscarriages before all before 8 weeks andfinally we found out it was antibodies fighting against the feotus, I now have medication to combat them. I'm very excited and try not to be fearful. I've given it over to God and just counting down the days. Hope to chat again. Lisa

• 07-03-2008 8:49 AM

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  Elaina2880171 Joined on 06-09-2008 Bowling Green, KY Posts 12

  Re: New Here and Scared Reply Contact Congratulations Amy and Lisa and here's to hoping that you have an "uneventful" and long pregnancy :-) Kimberly, I will continue to keep you in my prayers as you wait out the two weeks to see if your husbands "attempts" work. It has been 4 weeks since my m/c was confirmed and I still have not had my first cycle. I think I we are going to TTC right away. Good luck to all of you!