Worried my baby won't have a father

• 07-10-2008 10:31 PM

  Laura2876834 Joined on 07-11-2008 Posts 1

  Worried my baby won't have a father Reply Contact That is only one of my fears but probably the one that I will have to deal with the longest...I am almost 4 months pregnant with my first child and have not told my parents yet because I am scared to but have finally decided that it woud be better to just go ahead and tell them instead of continuing to stress about it. I knew the father of my baby had one child when we started talking almost a year ago and had heard rumors of a few others that belonged to him on the way. Well i found out today that atleast one of those rumors was true, he had another child about three weeks ago... When I originally told him that I was pregnant he said that he would be there for me and for our baby. About two weeks ago he asked me what I wanted him to do, I told him I didn't know because well I don't. I don't even know if I want this guy in mine or my childs lifes at all, and I know that I don't want to count on him to be there and then him not be....This is way to stressful...any advice???

• 07-11-2008 6:41 AM

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  AmyAlden22 Joined on 08-18-2005 Posts 150

  Re: Worried my baby won't have a father Reply Contact Oh dear! I knew a guy like this from my home town. Several babies were born, and some he claimed, others he didn't but everyone knew they were his. He continued to have relationships with women meanwhile secretly cheating on them with others and although not apparent right away, he definitely did not respect any woman...let alone the mothers of his children. Being a mommy is hard enough without your worry about the dad taking away from the time you need to spend thinking about your new baby. If I were you I would simplify things. Tell your parents, seek their support, and leave this man. You can do this better alone and make better decisions for your family without someone who has no respect for the sanctity of procreation.

• 07-13-2008 7:51 PM

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  UberBiz Joined on 06-08-2004 Maywood, NJ Posts 34

  Re: Worried my baby won't have a father Reply Contact I totally agree. Get the support where you know you can get it: your family. Don't count on the guy to do anything for you, especially if he already has multiple children from multiple women. After me and my daughter's father split, I found out he was getting married, that girl had a baby, and then about a year later, he had gotten kicked out and was with a third woman, and she just had a baby as well! So, within 3 years, he had 3 kids by 3 different women... I'd rather him NOT be in my daughter's life, but he is - every other weekend and he pays child support (sometimes). The point is, don't stress about the guy - you're pregnant, so do what you gotta do for you and the baby and F-him if he runs the other way, kwim?

• 08-13-2008 4:06 PM

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  Tsharra2891783 Joined on 08-13-2008 Posts 6

  Re: Worried my baby won't have a father Reply Contact 1st off tell you parents dont wait. I dont know you or course but thier gonna want to be part of that childs life. 2 i hope thier the only ones your hiding it from and not the doctors make sure your getting you prenatal care so you can have a healthy baby. And try to stay positive as much as possible dont let him be part of your worries. Both of my kids father have other kids and it doesnt worry me not one bit. #2 here I already knew he had kids but we werent plannign on adding to his clan either this was totally a suprise. I hope he holds his word on being their for you but make sure you hold you ground with him also.