Thank goodness I'm not alone! I knew other people had sexual issues as well, but I'm relieved to find that there are intimacy issues like what I'm having too. I had to agree with almost everything you said Marlayna...he used to grab me all the time, now it has to be me initiating even a nicer kiss than a peck...doesn't feel like he's as excited as I am, even though he wanted this more than me to start...get worried he might seek elsewhere, but trust him. All of those things were so what I'm feeling I wanted to cry! I even told him that I felt ashamed of my body right now....not because of the normal "i'm such a cow" pregnant complaints (i'm only 21 wks and just starting to really show), but because it reminds me how unattractive I am for him right now. He actually didn't say that, but come on, when you are used to getting non-stop attention and then it's gone, who needs to? His thing (that I can decipher from cryptic responses and half answers!) is that it feels weird. Well, yeah, it feels weird for both of us...it's THAT much of a turn off that he won't even try anymore? It's so ironic how my feelings have changed though...I didn't really care much up until a couple weeks ago about having sex....just too tired, I guess, no sex drive. I would try to make sure he got satisfied at least once a week. Now that I can't get it, I think about it every day, several times a day, and I'm trying desperately not to slide down into depression. I just have to keep in mind that this too should pass. It's just scary to think "what if it doesn't?" A big part of it for me, I think, is that I was used to feeling so empowered by my sexuality. I knew I could turn him on, and then please him. Now I don't have that confidence, and it's a huge dip to my self esteem. Some friends of mine said to dress up nice and go out, and that might temp. make me feel better about myself...but when I know that I'm going to go home and not "get any", how does that end up doing anything besides making me feel worse in the end? And trying to just be intimate without sex just makes me frustrated over what I'm not getting...it's just even worse! I want to feel great about my body and all the wonderful changes going on...I swore I wouldn't be one of those self-conscious women. Little did I know that the influence would come from outside of myself but yet so close to me I can't avoid it. Goodness...do all of us here feel so alone? At least we know it's not just us! Good luck gals.