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Confused on which way to go, on again off again

Last post 07-18-2008 7:33 PM by Cyn 7707. 1 replies.
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  • 07-17-2008 9:56 AM

    Confused on which way to go, on again off again

    I found out yesterday, as the title of the forum says, unexpectedly pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years now. We live 2 hours apart. We have talked about my moving back to his town but that gets as much focus depending on how mad we are. When we are together we are fine. When we are not, we fight constantly. In my shock I told him that I would move back if he married me. In his shock - he said it's basically too big of a leap for him to get married, even though he has constantly said to me he is going to marry me one day. Although he said I could move back to his town and live with him. What complicates matters is that I have two kids with my ex who live 8 states away and see them twice a month. I feel that if my boyfriend is not willing to make a commitment to me, then I am better off going to live around my other 2 children. My exhusband and I are very friendly and feel I would have an actual support system with him. Then I also get to not only raise my baby but be able to once again share in my other 2 daughters lives every day. Any advice?
  • 07-18-2008 7:33 PM In reply to

    • Cyn 7707
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    Re: Confused on which way to go, on again off again

    I am sorry that you both are in this position, even if your bf doesn't know he's yet! Honestly, my feeling is that if he won't marry you within the foreseeable future, I doubt that he'll be willing to make all the sacrifices that come with being a Dad.  He may completely change his priorities once he knows that you are pregnant....you just never know how a man will react. Ask yourself this: If he's unwilling to commit(really commit, now-not in 3 years!) when you weren't pregnant, would you be comfortable staying if he wants you just b/c you are pregnant? Things change, the 'new' wears off the idea, and the weight of responsibility of a baby sets in, and some men(and women) cannot handle it. Good luck to you all, in whatever is decided.

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