Help feeling like a ticking time bomb

• 12-06-2008 1:56 PM

  StevestonMom Joined on 12-06-2008 Posts 3

  Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact Hi Ladies Im in real need of support. Im 23 weeks and have gone from a 1.4 cm cervix at 21 weeks to vertually un messuarable with my cervix opening at the internal oz. Im so scared. I had a cerclage at 21 weeks although its holding , things seem to be getting worse. This is my second pregnancy and thank god i have a beautiful 4 year old girl who keeps me sane. My husband is also very supportive. I need to hear about positive outcomes!! I just need to know its possible. I feel like one minute im fine and the next minute I could break down in a mental break down. Please give me tips on how I can hold it together these crucial weeks. I really want to make it to 32 weeks but according to the nurses and doctors they dont think this is possible! Please help!!

• 12-06-2008 2:35 PM

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  Rebecca3029336 Joined on 09-12-2008 Posts 25

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact Hey there, I kinda know how you feel. Don't listen to the doctor's and nurses. All you need to do is focus on things being positive. When I was at my 20 weeks I had the same thing with my cervix, but I also had an infection. So a few weeks later we found out it was just beacuse of the infection and my cervix is a bit longer now. I took a whole month off for bedrest. And am now back on it due to unexplainable contracting about a month ago, but I some what know how you feel. Just try to keep your cool, and relax about things. I know it's hard, but ignore what the doctor's and nurses say and stay positive, and stay off your feet as much as possible. I'm sorry that it has been soo hard on you, but look up and I wish you, and your family nothing but the best!!! Take Care!!! -Rebecca

• 12-08-2008 8:17 AM

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  joymarie Joined on 10-10-2005 Ava Jade 5/23/06 Isaac Lee 12/26/2008 Posts 135

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact I am sorry you are having to go threw this. I think you should go read the other post that is on here. I went from 4+ cm at 20w to 1.3cm at 23w with no warning. I could not get the cerclage. I too was open at the inernal os. I was still closed on the outside thats why they didnt do the cerclage cuz it wouldnt help the inside and I was at that point in my preg that they really dont like to do them. I was on bed rest from 23w-34w. Well  I am about to be 36w on Wed and I am still preg. I have been off bed rest for almost two weeks. I have been cleaning, shopping, puting up christmas stuff, going on walks and all that stuff as normal. Still no baby! lol There is hope. There also was a girl on our board (DEC 08) that was put on bed rest the same week as me and she made it to just about 39w. There is hope. I felt like a time bomb for a couple of weeks then I kept going back and things were the same. I just prayed that God would give me peace. FYI too I have a nephew that was born at 28w and he is a perfectly healthy 7 year old now. :) So there is hope, it will all work out. :)

• 12-12-2008 7:35 PM

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  StevestonMom Joined on 12-06-2008 Posts 3

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact Hi Joymarie Thank you so much for your email. it really is a god send. Im now 24 weeks and feeling a bit more confident. I was so shocked that this happened to me. Especially after having such a great pregnancy last time. Not to meniton its christmas time. I think you are amazing. I have read through all other posts and everyone gives me such inspiration to go on! I got a bit of positive news the other day, I had another ultra sound and things seem to imporove a bit. Ill take whatever i can get! I am starting to believe that I can do this and everything will be okay. ThaThanks to everyone who responded . Your kind words and inspiration are getting me through this. My husband is leaving the city we are currently living in to take a job in another city. We will be a part and I know your husband Joy is deployed . You seem so strong. I really hope I can muster up even a margin of your strength Joy!! chat with you soon Sajida

• 12-12-2008 7:39 PM

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  StevestonMom Joined on 12-06-2008 Posts 3

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact Thanks Rebecca i really appreciate your support and kind words. Im feelling a bit more like my self now, if that is possible. Its such a shock when this first happens to you. Im starting to feel more positive about things.Im sure there will be good and bad days. I think I will be more relaxed as time goes on. Thanks for the great advice. Sajida

• 12-12-2008 8:09 PM

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  Rebecca3029336 Joined on 09-12-2008 Posts 25

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact No problem!!! Just keep all that in mind, and yes you will have good and bad days. Mostly good. lol Oh yeah, but everytime you go back into the doctors just think positive. That's what I do, I go in thinking positive and about 90% of what he tells me is positive. I'm still trying to fight off this Group B Strep, and I have to remember to take my iron...which reminds me....lol but other then that everything is good. It's all thnx to the bedrest. So keep it up and I can't wait to hear what your doc says!! Good luck!! And Happy Holidays!!! -Rebecca

• 12-12-2008 8:42 PM

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  joymarie Joined on 10-10-2005 Ava Jade 5/23/06 Isaac Lee 12/26/2008 Posts 135

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact No problem! Thats what we are all here for!! Take it one week at a time. I would recomend investing in netflix or something like that! lol No sappy movies! lol How old is your other child? Sorry I have really bad preg anmesia (I cant spell). Oh and just a lil update. I had a dr appt yesterday and I am 2cm dilated. They think I will go in the next two weeks. Thats right around chirstmas! I have been walking and everything and still NOTHING! I had some contractions today and started to walk and then they went away. Watch me go to my EDD and end up in another c-section! Ugh............ Figures I spend 11w down and then nothing! lol Well I am happy he is still in there better than out too early.

• 12-29-2008 9:48 AM

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  HootchyMumma Joined on 11-17-2008 Westchester, NY Posts 34

  Re: Help feeling like a ticking time bomb Reply Contact Hi I am only 12 weeks pg but am v.high risk and likely to need bed rest. So anyway I was breaking the news to my Aunt over the phone at Christmas that I am pg and explaining all the complications to her. She reminded me that my cousins wife gave birth to their daughter at 23 wks, 6 days. She was in the NICU for 96 days, but today she is a normal healthy 7 year old. She does need glasses and has Dislexia, but so do a lot of full term babies so nothing out of the ordinary. Just take it easy, follow Dr's orders and know that medicine has come a long way in the last decade and that a good outcome is possible even if you delivered right now.