what to do!!!

• 01-30-2009 6:11 AM

  Cheryl3226996 Joined on 01-23-2009 New Jersey Posts 568

  what to do!!! Reply Contact I found out about 3 weeks ago that I am pregnant with my frist. I feel like ever since I told my husband the good news he doesn't want to touch me anymore. I mean I still get hugs and kisses, but I think we have only had sex twice in the past 3 weeks which is not like us. I just want to know how normal this is, and if this is going to last for the next nine months. I have tried talking to him about it, but the only thing he tells me is that he is just very tired. I just don't think I can stand that for the next few months.

• 01-30-2009 8:56 AM

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  macaela3114103 Joined on 11-19-2008 Posts 1,097

  Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact Unfortunantly it is very normal especially for the first.  Step into his shoes, he is just as scared if not more so than you are and he doesnt want anything to go wrong or hurt the baby.  Try to have him go with you to your fist appointment and talk to your dr about it in front of him.  Also pull some reading from the enternet about sex while pregnant.  That also helps as well.  Keep in mind to though your changing down there as well and it can be alarming for him cause he can feel the difference as well.  Just give it some time and like I said try to make him aware that sex is ok during pregnancy unless told other wise.  There is an article I cant remember where I found it at if I do I will let you know,  but it says that the motions of sex often rockes the baby to sleep but once all is over that the baby will usually wake up from the heart beating so fast.  Good luck and hope that it gets better soon.

• 01-31-2009 1:56 PM

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  rocky3228186 Joined on 01-31-2009 Posts 16	Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact we are 6 weeks pregnant and have sex once since...I (husband here) am feeling a tad apprehnsive about sex...because it is our first and because Im well-endowed so Im not sure if sex can be thee same as before....what do you think? thanks

• 02-02-2009 5:31 AM

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  ELSIE2947748 Joined on 10-15-2008 Posts 4

  Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact Am 34 weeks prego, and by God's help my first. I lost 3 of my previous prego before this one and each of it, we were always having normal sex. But ths last one, My husband refused to have sex as soon as I missed my MP, for the fear that we might lost this one again. Although there are no medical proves that sex can be dangerous in early prego, I just discovered that this pregnancy has stayed till now as we refused to have sex at-all in the first 3 months. Don't get upset that your husband does not want to disturb his baby, that's because he can't afford to take a chance or gamble with it for the 5minutes pleasure. That shows the depth of love he has for his unborn baby. Understand with him, you can get him into it as much as you like once you are tru with your first trimester. Cheers!

• 02-12-2009 7:58 AM

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  Hope3041865 Joined on 01-22-2009 SD Posts 16

  Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact Rocky, that's a pretty normal first time Dad concern. My fiance had the same concerns. I would recommend doing some research and maybe even talking to the OBGYN about your concerns. If you're still not comfortable, try doing some other things to stay sexually connected with your wife. It's pretty common for a woman to start feeling un-sexy during pregnancy, so don't forget to make sure she knows you still thinks she's sexy and beautiful.

• 02-12-2009 5:26 PM

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  rocky3228186 Joined on 01-31-2009 Posts 16	Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact thanks for the reply....did your husband ever come around to being able to be intimate...did you even want to...is he akso wll-endowed (is that what is was worried about) I do still try to make sure she feels sexy and beautiful...that she is....thans again

• 02-13-2009 10:21 AM

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  Hope3041865 Joined on 01-22-2009 SD Posts 16	Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact He is well-endowed, and that was part of the issue. He did come around as soon as he realized how well-protected the baby is in there and that he wasn't going to hurt me or the baby.

• 02-14-2009 6:24 AM

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  rocky3228186 Joined on 01-31-2009 Posts 16	Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact thanks.....

• 03-05-2009 11:27 AM

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  Rebekah79 Joined on 03-05-2009 Wisconsin Posts 459	Re: what to do!!! Reply Contact good answer hope :)