Pregnancy after Miscarriage

• 04-16-2009 6:26 PM

  Pregnancy after Miscarriage Mark as Not AnswerMark as Answer... Reply Contact I was wondering if there were any other ladies out there that experienced a pregnancy after miscarriage. I had a miscarriage July of last year and just found out that I am almost 4-5 weeks pregnant. I am sooooo excited but scared at the same time. Did anyone else experience this and if so what got you thru the hard times? I work as a nurse and am worried about going to work this week and pushing and pulling immobile patients. I don't want to make the same mistake as before and tell my co-workers prematurely but I don't know how not to tell them when I am going to need their help with surgical patients. Any advice would be greatly appreciated? Give your opinions PLEASE!!! Thanks, Shonna

• 04-17-2009 8:10 AM

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  macaela3114103 Joined on 11-19-2008 Posts 1,097

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact I completely understand,  I had 2 m/c last year one march 11th and the other July 22nd.  I would have to say that it would be wise to let them know that you are pregnant and will need help, especailly if they know what you have already been through they will completely understand and just express how you feel about it.  That way you make it clear that you are happy but scared and just want this one to make it.  I am happy to report that I am 27 weeks and 3 days preggo so hang in there and dont stress yourself out and I wish you the best of luck.  (((HUGS)))

• 04-17-2009 1:17 PM

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  Xavier'sMommyLV Joined on 10-11-2008 Las Vegas Posts 515

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact Hi Shonna. First, congrats on the new pregnancy. How awesome for you. 2nd, so SORRY for you about the m/c. I had two of them in 2005 before I had my son in October 2006 and I am 30 weeks pregnant with a baby girl due June 22nd. My first pregnancy I was soooo very excited and told everyone at work, and when I lost the baby, I then had to go around and tell everyone about it, and I'm sure you know that was really hard. Do you know what caused your m/c? I would see your dr ASAP and see what she/he says. Personally with my son and with this baby, I waited until I was at least past the 3 month mark (12 weeks) before I told anyone other than my immediate family. I don't think that you doing your normal job would be anything dangerous. My doctor said pretty much whatever you were doing before is fine, at least until you get to the point where you are showing and then you have balance issues. I think working on med/surg should be fine for you. Sending you sticky baby dust!! best wishes.

• 04-17-2009 5:05 PM

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  	Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Mark as Not AnswerMark as Answer... Reply Contact Thanks for both of your replies. All the encouraging words are so helpful and only makes me know that it is possible to have a normal pregnancy following a miscarriage. Hopefully all the prayers and baby dust helps...LOL. Thanks again Ladies & I'll be sure to keep you posted on my progress! Shonna

• 04-17-2009 5:07 PM

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  Shylandia292 Joined on 04-18-2009 Posts 1

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact First thing I am very happy for you and I hope that eveything works out this time. I had a miscarriage a year ago so I know the pain. Anyways I would only tell a selected few. Ones that you know won't tell and that will support you. I would keep it under warps until you have made it past your first 12 weeks. I am a nurse also and I know that the work can be something different but you must be careful. Good luck!!!!

• 04-19-2009 8:11 AM

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  jackie1337969 Joined on 04-05-2006 Posts 3	Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact I am 46 and had a miscarriage in January 2009. I am trying to get pregnant now, and I am so worried that I will also loose this one. I was told that my chances are higher because I am in my late 40s. They scare you so much for everything. I had my lst child as 43 with no problems, but tons of worrys due to all these stastics.

• 04-21-2009 4:54 PM

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  Cookiethief2 Joined on 12-18-2006 #1 5/17/06 #2 6/11/07 #3 12/18/09 Posts 977

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact I hope that everything goes well with you!!  I just wanted to let you know that I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks about 4 years ago(june 2005), got pregnant 3-4 months later and have a perfectly healthy almost 3 year old.  When she was 4 months old, I found out I was pregnant again! My second daughter was born 13 months after my first, also perfectly healthy(she's almost 2 now).  I just found out 2 weeks ago that I am now 6 weeks pregnant with our third,due in December.  I am expecting a healthy pregnancy, but I am still very nervous about a miscarriage.  I know how devastating it was and I never want to go through it again.  I just wanted to let you know that I've had 2 pregnancies, back to back, right after a miscarriage. :)

• 04-30-2009 5:28 AM

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  shanane3291944 Joined on 03-13-2009 ozark al Posts 171

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact I hope that all goes well..I lost my 1st pregnacy at 10 weeks my second pregnacy at 37 weeks followed by 2 healthy pregnacies and my 5 th pregnacy at 19 weeks..And they had another healthy pregnacy.. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with twins. And i am still paranoid daily that something is gonna go wrong..but worrying all the time will only cause stress which isnt good for you or the baby just take each day at a time..Luckily for me with my last pregnacy they were able to find out what the cause is and now im on medicine to try to prevent any problems..

• 04-30-2009 8:01 AM

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  Carmen2145605 Joined on 03-23-2009 Posts 105

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact Hi Shonna, I am sorry for your loss. I loss my baby boy Mason in 2007 at 18 weeks due to incompetent cervix. I am a relative private person anyways, so I had told my my co-workers that I was pregnant at 15 weeks. I thought I was put the clear. I am too a nurse, so with this pregnancy, I only told my manager and asked if I could work in a low impact area or take on another role. Yes people will ask why, but it is none of their business. I am 25 weeks and no one at my job knows that I am pregnant except for my manager a good friend. I have just been to afraid to tell. It really doesn't matter right now anyways, because I have been on bedrest since 19 weeks and wasn't showing alot before then. I already work PRN and people just think that I am focusing on school and taking time off. I have a cerclage and was placed on bedrest at 19 weeks due to cervical shortening. So just see if your manager can adjust your schedule or see if their is another area in your department that can accommodate you until you have the baby...your job has to do that under FMLA and disability laws if your doctor writes that. Take care and wish you the best! Carmen

• 06-08-2009 2:32 PM

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  MamaJunebugJones Joined on 05-21-2009 EDD 1/28/10 Posts 192

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact Hi, congratulations.  I'm sorry for your previous loss.  I have had two very early first trimester miscarriages (one before and after the birth of DD) and my last pregnancy ended in a second trimester loss at 23 weeks.  I am now almost 7 weeks along but will not have my first prenatal appointment until June 22.  I understand; I often feel scared and nervous too.  I am a CNA and also have some trepidation about working; I've only told my charge nurse and a few co-workers as I am keeping it on a "need to know" basis.  As for other nurses/CNAs asking for my help with inappropriate tasks; I just tell them that the charge put me on "modified duty due to health reasons."  That seems to suffice.  Good luck!

• 06-18-2009 10:35 PM

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  Mary030905 Joined on 07-17-2004 Expecting #4...Whoa Baby! Posts 144

  Re: Pregnancy after Miscarriage Reply Contact Hi!  I see you haven't posted in a while.  How are things? I had a m/c in February of 08, and conceived again almost 2 cycles later.  That pregnancy was a healthy one and John was born the following year (his due date was the one year anniversary of losing our baby). I just took one day at a time.  It was very scary at times, especially as I got closer to the time that I lost the previous child.  But I just concentrated on the current pregnancy and spending as much "quality time" with the baby as possible.  I didn't want to waste a second in worry or dread.  I thought that if I did happen to lose that pregnancy also, that I would've wanted our time together to be as peaceful and happy as possible.  So I prayed A LOT!  And I just tried to have a good pregnancy.  There are certain songs that make me think of the baby that I lost and every once in a while, even still, I'll listen to them and grieve a little.  I also have a box that I keep tucked away.  It contains, among other things, a book that my other kids and I were reading at the time and a positive pregnancy test result signed by a doctor - just things that I'm holding onto to acknowledge his little life.  He was still part of my life, even if we had each other for only a brief time.  I struggled with guilty feelings when I became pregnant again, like I didn't have a "right" to be happy about a new baby so soon (nonsense, I know!).  And so acknowledging my lost one's life as its own separate thing really helped me to deal with some of those feelings.  The new baby was in no way a "replacement", but another brand-new blessing. As far as talking to people about it, I totally understand why you would want to wait a while.  I HATED having to tell people "thanks, but no thanks" when they congratulated us, because they had heard about the baby, but not about the loss yet.  Ugh!  On the other hand, I have a really hard time keeping my mouth shut about these kinds of things, and I tend to blab it to everybody right away.  Some would probably say that's not too smart, and I can't disagree, I guess.  But sometimes "joy" outweighs "smart".  :-)  Either way, it is a very personal decision and you're the best judge of when's the right time. Good luck with your pregnancy!  I hope you come back to tell us how you are!