i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion..................

• 05-14-2009 4:00 PM

  mandi3398375 Joined on 05-14-2009 Posts 2

  i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact I am 18 years old and i am about 3 months pregnant, my babies dad is in jail, and my parents live in a totally different city then i do, and i have no way to go see them cuz i don't have a car. well yesterday was my babies dads birthday (he turned 29) and i went to see him in jail, he told me that he didn't want another kid because he already has 2, but his other kids are by a different women. He told me that i should go get an abortion because he didn't want another kid, he told me that if i didn't get an abortion he would give me an abortion. i really don't know why he was acting that way he has never acted like that before, but now he's got me thinking should i get an abortion or not, and if i don't is he still gonna be there for the baby. I really don't know what to do.......i came here hopeing for some advice, so please if you got any advice for me please help me.

• 05-14-2009 4:15 PM

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  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Mark as Not AnswerMark as Answer... Reply Contact No man is worth killing your child for, the decision is yours to make. He is in jail right now, when is he getting out? is it soon?? The way he threatened you is awful!!! If you want to go home to your family there is always the bus or a train. Whether you decide to keep your baby or not please don't base your decision on him. I know someone who was recently in a similar situation and she ended up having an abortion. I think you really need to think about what YOU want and remember an abortion is forever. I hope things work out for you. Good Luck!!

• 05-14-2009 4:29 PM

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  SilverNightLight Joined on 04-10-2009 DS #1 3-8-07 ~ DS #2 8-14-08 ~ LO #3 due 12-14-09 Posts 38

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact No man is worth giving up your child, whether or not they are inside or outside of the whomb. The fact that he's making threats to physically harm you should be a wake up call, not to mention that he has threatened the life of an unborn baby. As far along as you are already, an abortion would be painful, not only emotional but physically. If he didn't want another kid than he shouldn't have been having sex with you, or anyone else for that matter. Too bad so sad for him. I would steer clear of him, and his threats should have been told to the guard on duty. He doesn't need to be making violent threats to anyone. If you chose not to keep your child, adoption would be a better choice, at least for the fact that you wont have to live with the emotional pain and guilt of ending a life, I know someone who did chose abortion...She still regrets it. In the end, the choice is up to you, take care of yourself, and your little peanut, they're counting on you mommy! Good luck, and I hope you feel better about the situation soon!

• 05-14-2009 6:23 PM

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  brittany3381503 Joined on 05-10-2009 Posts 141

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact if i were you i would call my mom and have her get you the hell out of there!!! girl you are crazy for staying ..~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no boy should ever treat you like that. he is not a man he is an imature *** for talking to you like that. honey you are also young like me!!! dont ruin your future for a boy. hes not worth it. if i were you i would call your mom and have her get you the hell out of that town before your boyfriend gets out of jail. that is a toxic environment for you and your baby to be in. talk about a restraining order if he says anything like that to you ever again. geez get the hell out of there . your family will help you weather its your mom dad uncle brother , or sister someone will come get you and help you through this . thats what family is for. you chose a good place to get good advice and i know the women around here are more then willing to help to sweety. take care..

• 05-14-2009 7:54 PM

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  tara3094820 Joined on 11-03-2008 Posts 45	Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact you should never stay with anybody who threatens you or your unborn baby because if he crazy enough to to tell you that than hes crazy enough to do it . Get away while you can and dont tell him where your at. please stay safe and keep him away from your baby

• 05-16-2009 11:46 AM

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  mandi3398375 Joined on 05-14-2009 Posts 2

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact i know that i should leave him and i really don't wanna get an abortion, i just wanted to know that i'd have a family but that's out of the question. i thought that everything was good becuase he never threatened me before and he always treated me like i was an angel. i really don't want an adoption, or an abortion. i believe i can be a great parent and that everything will work out for me if i keep my baby. i really been thinking alot about it and i really don't think that i'm gonna get an abortion. i a big believer in God and the bible, and getting and abortion is like killing one of God's children, and one of my children. God would punish me for forever. and i would never be able to forgive myself. so thanks to everyone that gave me their opinion. after i read the comments it helped me realize that i can't do that and i shouldn't let him control my life. So THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

• 05-16-2009 1:02 PM

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  Rowrow Joined on 11-04-2003 Mama of 4 Due with #5 1/20/2010 Posts 246

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact I'm glad you made the choice you did. I can tell you that this man does not love you or even care about you for that matter. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but he is an a$$h*le so you need to stay far far from him. You should report him because they will yank his phone privileges in a heartbeat. You and that baby deserve so much more and one day you will find it!! Good Luck with your pregnancy.

• 05-18-2009 12:05 PM

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  ErinM Joined on 11-20-2008 San Francisco Posts 566

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact   I am glad you decided to keep your baby too! I had a boy convince me to get an abortion when I was 21 after I had already had a 3 year old.  I thought that I really loved this guy and he was the one for me.  Boy was I wrong.  Going through with it was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever done.  Not only was the pain physical but mentally I was broken for a very long time. I felt like I had no choice I wanted to keep this man in my life but it really did no good he left anyway. If you have your family as a support system definetly utilize them.  It is a very tough decision and to leave an abusive relationship (physical or mental) is hard especially when you are so dependent on that person.  But what is going on in your body is a miracle and you need to protect yourself and your unborn baby.  I wish you the best of luck and hope that it will all work out for you and your baby. Erin from the July board

• 05-18-2009 8:47 PM

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  ~willowtree~ Joined on 04-29-2009 Posts 287

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact yeah, i agree that him telling you that is a pretty serious thing, and i'm so glad you were strong enough to think about it and reach out for help! your choices for you and your body and your baby should be yours alone, and you have lots of time to have a great family with someone good in the future. i have known lots of guys that meet a girl with a kid or two, and totally fall in love with all of them. my one friend thought she would NEVER find someone else, but when her now husband---a great, stable guy----asked her to marry him, the FIRST thing he wanted to do was adopt her first child officially. they now have a baby together, too. i'm just saying, it's possible, it happens alot, and if your baby's daddy isn't coming through PLEASE waste NO time on him! you can do this, you really can. oh, and a domestic violence hotline could be a great resource for you, to ask questions, get any kind of help you need, or just talk about any comments or actions any domestic partner does that scares/confuses/upsets you. it's anonymous, or can be, and they are such a great resource.....i know first hand!

• 05-18-2009 11:06 PM

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  mommymooseof3 Joined on 04-16-2009 Hot Springs, AR Posts 183

  Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact Im so glad that you have decide against abortion. I have been there. When I was 17 i told my now husband that I thought I was pregnant. He was drunk so Im guessing i should have waited until a better time. he went crazy. Yelling, screaming, throwing stuff, and he even had the nerve to tell me that if I was pregnant that I did it on purpose and would beat it out of me. I went to chicago for a couple months to get away and she talked me into an abortion while I was there. I regret it with all my heart. It was very tramatic experience and I still think about it. It was so much worse after I went a month without talking to him and his mom finally called me to ask why I left. He didnt even remember me telling him. I told her I just wanted to see my aunt. I didnt get to see her much since I lived in AR and she lived in IL. When I came back we broke up and got back together a yr later. Almost 2yrs to the date of my abortion (11-16-02) our oldest daughter was born (11-20-04). I was so ashamed of what I did I didnt tell him until after our son was born 3-06. He was angry but not with me himself. He couldnt believe I actually listened to him. I dont know how things are with your bf but we had been together since I was 13. I had other options. If I believed he was a danger I could have left to have my baby not kill it. Im really glad you thought about it and decided not to have an abortion.

• 05-22-2009 1:57 PM

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  JenrEats Joined on 04-09-2009 Ontario, Canada Posts 67	Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact now that you have decided what you want to do, you need to make the right decision for your baby and not be with this threatning man. Your life and your childs is worth more that.

• 06-10-2009 9:13 PM

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  jacobpapp Joined on 08-19-2007 Posts 50	Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact Go home to your parents, so they can help. You made the right choice. I would report him IMMEDIATELY. There are sick people out there.

• 06-18-2009 1:52 PM

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  Mary030905 Joined on 07-17-2004 Expecting #4...Whoa Baby! Posts 144	Re: i'm 3 months pregnant and my babies dad wants me to get an abortion.................. Reply Contact You made a good choice.  I agree with the others that have said to get back home to your parents, if you can. You said that you had wanted a family and that's out of the question now...  Your baby is your family.  You guys can love each other now.  Peace!