I found out last week that I am 5wks pg after having the paraguard IUD for the past 3 years! I had a previous IUD for over 6 years with no issues. This makes baby #5 for us, completley unexpected. My husband is less than thrilled and now upset that I won't concider termination....He's coming around, he started realizing that this isn't only happening to him. This was after I told him he can leave anytime he wants.....it's not what either of us wants. We love each other very much, he's my best friend. I'm in shock that this happened, I feel cheated, and I cannot believe that this could be the reason my marriage falls apart.......Anyway, sorry not much help, but I understand what your going through...