Just need to let it out....

• 06-27-2009 8:44 AM

  Jessica3428071 Joined on 06-10-2009 Posts 27

  Just need to let it out.... Reply Contact This pregnancy has been hard on me, I had a m/c in Sept. I found out I was pregnant again in January and I was happy. DH had finally gotten a job on January 1st so things started to look up for us. The job he got was making half as much as he used to but we were making it work. I have however felt alot of pressure and stress to make neds meet and I am now getting worried about having another baby. I already have 2 kids and we are just above water. I know people always say things have a way of working out but I just don't know what we are going to do. DH wants to get a part time job but we barely get to see each other now so I'm afraid if he does that we will never see each other. I have a demanding job and at times work 12 or more hours per day, most times we have weekends together with the kids. Although he usually works on Saturdays for over time. I do talk to him about the way I feel but then it usually makes me feel worse because I know we need the money but I also want to spend time with him. We were so used to not worrying about money and I think that is the main problem. I feel bad because I can't do things for my kids that I used to, my son keeps talking about all the things he wants to do this summer and he's only 5 so how do I explain it to him?? I'm trying to find low or no cost activities for him but he's used to a real vacation. Being pregnant and moody def does not help my situation in the least. I only have 12 weeks left so I'm hoping I can keep my sanity and figure out a way to get through this. Thanks for listening. Jess

• 06-30-2009 7:33 AM

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  ~willowtree~ Joined on 04-29-2009 Posts 287

  Re: Just need to let it out.... Reply Contact oh honey, that all sounds very rough. thanks for sharing. i would say that a 5 year old is old enough to understand about things costing money, and where the money comes from. he is only asking out of what he knows-----when you enjoy swimming at the city pool or hiking together, he'll start asking for that. i don't tell my three year old things like, "we won't be able to pay rent this month", i just explain that we get money from mommy and daddy working, so we aren't going to buy that today so mommy and daddy can be home a little more.  i was one of many kids, one income, but saving money was like a game, a challenge, and we all had so much fun doing stuff together. we didn't know until later that we were poor. i hope that helps you feel a little better, and that things look up for you soon. hugs.

• 07-02-2009 7:14 PM

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  Troops187 Joined on 05-06-2009 Posts 1

  Re: Just need to let it out.... Reply Contact Sweet heart just be thankful for what you have right now.two incomes are alot better than one.When your new bundle of joy arrives,sh.. is really going to hit the fan.your 5 year old can adapt and stretch further than you may think. Make other simple things like once a week trips to libraries,malls,have waterballoon fights, geet a 40$ pool and have fun.An if weekend time is the only time you get some you time with your husband than so be it.If you guys can send heartfelt notes to each other by putting them in luch bags,pockets or leave one in the car. Texting,leave a sexual message on the phone, an I'm telling you his mind will paint a picture an he will want you you to back up what you have been telling him.My mother always seems to inform me when she senses some stress in my life, "TIME IS YOUR HELPER'. TO ME IT SEEMS LIKE AN ETERNITY,BUT SHE'S RIGHT. IT TO SHALL PASS. HANG IN THERE IT DOESN'T SOUND LIKE YOU HAVE ANY INFEDELITY ISSUES OR TRUST,so be blessed to have a healthy an slowly prospering family. I could write a book on my life so take it slow.