Ectopic Pregnancy

• 07-03-2009 6:55 AM

  Rebecca3443912 Joined on 06-25-2009 Posts 11

  Ectopic Pregnancy Reply Contact I just found out last night that I am having a Ectopic Pregnancy and I have to go today to have the injection to end the pregnancy. I am so upset and having a really hard time with this idea. My DH and i have been trying for over a year and a half to get pregnant with out second child. When we did We were so excited but that was short lived. Now I have to tell everyone that we are not having a baby now and I am so tired of everyone telling me that I am young enough to have more kids and its was a blessing that it happened now. i just want to ask them how is it ever a blessing to lose a child. I just want to know if this gets easier or will I be crying for a long time to come!

• 08-24-2009 2:59 PM

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  Leah3306719 Joined on 03-14-2009 Posts 44

  Re: Ectopic Pregnancy Reply Contact hi so sorry to here you had an ectopic pregnancy , hope you get better, my cousin had one and it burst she nearly died. so you caught it early. she has only one fallopian tube now. she still got pregnant with only one. she had a few miscarages. it will get better as time goes on, i told people when i was pregnant then lost it at 8ws, then had to tell everyone i lost it. hope you get better soon and have a healthy pregnancy xx

• 08-25-2009 5:14 AM

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  Jessica3428071 Joined on 06-10-2009 Posts 27

  Re: Ectopic Pregnancy Reply Contact Losing a baby is never easy... Everyone is different when it comes to the grieving process as well, there is no set time. When I lost my baby I couldn't even look at pregnant people or babies and it was hard for me when my SIL told me she was pregnant. It's difficult for people to understand unless they have gone through it themselves and you will probably hear alot of "you can try again" or "it happened for a reason". I just wanted to say shut up!!!!! In time it does get easier, I still think about the baby I lost and what he/she might have been like, I was due April 25 and my baby would have been almost 4 months old..... I am however pregnant again and due in just over 3 weeks so that has helped me to move on a bit easier... I hope you find the peace you need and Good Luck with whatever you decide for the future.

• 08-25-2009 6:55 PM

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  corajalem Joined on 07-11-2004 lost another precious baby. Posts 464

  Re: Ectopic Pregnancy Reply Contact Rebecca, I am so sorry. When it takes a long time to conceive it seems to hit real hard when a loss happens. My DH and I tried 4y3m to finally conceive our 3rd child (um, battled infertility for the first two as well) and we just lost this one at 11 weeks. It is hard. The grieving process is crazy. Feeling one way and then changing and then going back. I had my first 36 hours filled with nothing but tears and my eyes were terribly swollen. I looked horrid and had to go to my school new student rally. I gradually got past that and now I still cry once in awhile, am a little depressed at least a few hours each day and yet I am making progress. I was so in love with my baby from the time I found out I was expecting. Losing them was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. No one knows what it is like unless they have been there too. A good fried of mine told me that most people are uncomfortable about a m/c if they haven't had one and either say things hoping to make you feel better or completely ignore you because they are scared of hurting you. It is hard for them to understand. The one that I hate the most is someone who hasn't m/c'ed or battled infertility saying "I understand". I have been known to actually say "Really? How do you know? Have you walked in my shoes?" But most of the time I try my hardest to just ignore or say something a little more on the nice side. I do not know what it is like to have an ectopic pg, but I do know what it is like to lose a child. I am sorry for your loss and will say a prayer for you.