TTC after multiple losses

• 08-08-2009 11:35 AM

  Kate29 Joined on 08-05-2009 Posts 2

  TTC after multiple losses Reply Contact I have had quite the last 6 mos. I conceived last August, and was more than excited. I have a 5 year old and everything during that pregnancy was perfect, as first ones can sometimes go. So when I started hemmorhaging in November I was more than a little concerned. I went to the ER and was diagnosed with a subchorionic hemmorhage. I was told to take it easy until it fully healed. Well when i went back a month later for a follow up ultrasound all was healed but now other issues were detected. My baby had trisomy 18. I lost Lucas at 24 weeks in January of this year. It was DEVASTATING for all of us. Especially my son, as he so wanted a little brother. We went thru the funeral and all of the emotions that a child lost can bring. Then came April. We decided to try again. I had gone thru 2 cycles and all was well. I became pregnant on the first try, yeah! Only to discover at my 10 week ultrasound, this past June, my precious baby had passed in the womb at 9 weeks. I had a D and C to ensure gentic testing, and found that it was another baby boy, and he had Klinefelter's syndrome. The two genetic issues were deemed unrelated, and I was denyed, by insurance, chromosomal testing done on my husband and I. Which is otherwise pretty pricey out of pocket. I am at a loss. Maybe we tried too soon, but knowing that the issue was genetic, I dont think that matters. I am only 28 years old and feel that my pool is now that of a 40 year old, as my specialist has told me. Is this a run of bad luck, or am I destined for "bad eggs" indefinitely? We want to try again so badly but I dont know if it is the smartest decision. Which is why I wanted the genetic testing. I wanted to see if I or my husband had something genetically to "look out for" If that was the case I could make a more educated decision, and if we are blessed with one and only one, than so be it. But now knowing anything makes it so much harder to call it quits. Is there anyone out there that has the knowledge that their losses were due to chromosomal abnormalites and gone on to have healthy babies? And if so how did you make it thru trying to conceive again??

• 08-23-2009 11:22 AM

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  corajalem Joined on 07-12-2004 lost another precious baby. Posts 464

  Re: TTC after multiple losses Reply Contact Kate, I am sorry for your losses. I am sitting at 6 losses and a total of 8 pg's. I have had each of my confirmed losses after having my DS who is now 4.5. I just had the latest loss at 11 weeks. I am somewhat at a loss of what I can do as well. We so desperately want another child and our kids beg for a brother and a sister. It is heartbreaking to say the least. We did do genetic testing at $500 each and found no issues. Ours are apparently all bad luck. We have not had genetic testing on our babies as we were not able to either to early of a loss and this last one I hemorrhaged and we were unable to identify the baby with all of the blood. Terrible hard to think about trying again and having to go through another loss yet we so desperately want another so we will try again. It comes down to what you want more. It doesn't make it easy at all though. I know my next pg I will be on pins and needles the whole time and won't enjoy it near like I should as the innocence has been lost.

• 09-13-2009 3:52 AM

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  Kelly2914330 Joined on 07-06-2008 Surrey, UK Posts 20

  Re: TTC after multiple losses Reply Contact Hi Kate I'm so sorry to hear of everything you have been through. I also lost a baby last August through Trisomy 18 at 15 weeks gestation, the baby also had holoprosencephaly and bilateral abnormailites of the hands and feet as well as an 8mm nuchal fold, we had chromosonal analysis done on the baby as I had to have an ERPC. We weren't offered chromosone testing ourselves as we both have healthy daughters from previous relationships which count highly in our favor. We were told by our consultant that the chance of recurrance is less then 1% and whenever we were ready to try again then we should. I am also 28 and it's taken me a whole year to fall pregnant again (with the help of metformin as I was diagnosed with PCOS in June), I am currently 6 weeks and am petrified something will be wrong - trying to be rational thinking, of course I'm going to worry but until I'm told there's a problem I should try my hardest to stay calm. All the medical advice I have received has been that I am young and that the Trisomy was just unlucky, and we have everything going for us. I don't know anything about Klinefelters syndrome, sorry. But my advice to you would be to try again when you are ready, yes you will worry, yes it'll be hard but when you have your healthy baby in your arms, it'll all feel worth it. If you want to ask me anything else please feel free to message me. I hope this helps ((((((hugs))))))).

• 10-02-2009 1:34 PM

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  FaithfulFaith Joined on 02-04-2009 South Africa Posts 29

  Re: TTC after multiple losses Reply Contact Sorry about the loss.I must admit it makes me feel a little better reading through your experiences.I have had four losses thus far, greatfully so i have a four year old son.I never thought in a million years i would experience what i have experienced.After all these losses i have come to a stage where i want to know why? With the 2nd m/c uterus content results indicated there was no problems, other tests were not done right.With the 3rd one, i was not interested in the why?i just wanted to try again and have enough faith to pull me through the pregnancy.It was not be.It has been a week since it happened.I went to the OB/GYN for a routine visit, when we did the ultrasound there was no heartbeat, felt like de javu.I was at 11 weeks.Since then uterus contents results indicated there was acute inflammation on the cord.I will be going for further tests one for bacterial infection in the womb and thrombophilia.If none of those reveal anything, we will have to move to chromosomal testing with all its expenses.It was only with my thrird m/c that i started to find possible causes of recurrent losses.I see from reading the posts that my knowledge on the issue is only toe deep and need to educate myself more and hopefully get support from people who have experienced such.I even had thoughts of stopping to TTC, but after seeing that others have had 6 and more losses, i am reconsidering.I am 27 years and one would say i still have time on my side, but its not about time for me.Its about me knowing whether i am going to come right or not and start dealing with it.I desperately want a sibling for my DS.