I just started reading the posts on this site recently and came across yours today. I know it's been a while since you posted, but I wanted to say I hope you are feeling better. I'm pregnant for the first time too and have been coping with the same issues you mentioned, but I keep reminding myself that this is a miracle in the making. I'm 37 weeks now and have put on 50 pounds. That freaked me out for a while, but many people have reassured me that most everything goes back into place after pregnancy. Sometimes it takes a number of months, but it does happen. As for stretch marks, they have a lot of products on the market that can really make them barely noticeable and sometimes they disappear altogether. And as far as life never being the same, just believe that your life will be more fulfilling now. Since I haven't gone into labor yet, can't quite help you with that, but I watched a video that helped put my mind at ease it's called Laugh and Learn about childbirth. The woman who explains everything about prelabor and labor is a little goofy at times, but the information is really good. I got the DVD through Netflix, so if you're a member you can get it through them. I'm sure you can buy it too if you want. Try Amazon.com for that. Well I hope this helps in some way and when you start feeling down, just try picturing your little girl's face smiling up at you. And now that it's all well worth it.