For me it would drive me bananas having to hear eveyone pronounce it diferent then you intended. I understand me and dh are both from NY but dh is military so we have moved all over from one coast to the other and down south to AL,FL,VA. Its crazy but even little things like saying pecan for some pee-can for other pa-con i hate even getting: your saying it wrong or hehe did you here how she said that. And dam thats a nut my kids name would make me go mad lol
I would maybe hold it for a good middle name but be open to other options for the 1st. If majority of people say it diferent then its not just getting your family to say it but everyone you run into. I guess if its bugging you now how long will you be able to deal with it and the fact that even DH says it the other way isnt gonna make it any easier.
For me i think gabriel is a cute name( i wouldnt actually use it i dont love it) but anyway point is i hate gabe just a personal thing so i would never use it because i have to be realistic that i would have to hear people saying gabe all the time and for me yuk i would hate that lol
Now for you it maybe diferent because you love the name so i would just think hard about it and how much would it get under you skin hearing said the other way. can you correct people brush it off and no big deal or will you always be venting about people getting it wrong?
Of course this is all IMO good luck
ps I never even realized you would say it any other way then soy-er guess i was wrong thought this one was an easy name