he's in iraq

• 07-22-2008 6:15 PM

  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey my name is Shay. This will be my 2cd child. My first turned 10 on july 8th. Yeah, it took ten years. lol. This will be my soon to be fiance's first child. he was just deployed to Iraq at 4am this morning. I was just wondering, if anyone else is out there going thru this and how are you dealin or coping with it? Because I am finding myself focused on having a healthy happy baby but at the same time, I find myself ready to cry at every mention or thought of him.

• 07-22-2008 6:53 PM

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  joymarie Joined on 10-10-2005 Put on your big girl panties and deal with it..... Posts 1,296

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey. I am Joymarie. I am too pregnant with our second child. My daughter is 2! And I am crazy! lol We are in the Army Reserves and this is our first deployment, Kuwait. Those fist few months (I know you wanted me to say days or weeks but I would be lying!) are H3LL!!! I am just now in the groove of things. It slowly gets better. I honestly cry once a week still at least. Depends on my hormones! lol You will get threw this and try to have a postitive attitude. (He wont all the time and that can be really hard) This might sound wierd but even though I miss him so much it has made me really apprecitate him and love him even more. It is hard being pg and not having him here but we dont focus on that. I dont know if he will have acess to it or not but if he has a DSN line try to arrange big appts like hearbeat and gender to where he can be on the phone with you while you are getting it done. IF not there are places that can turn viedos into dvds and you can make a viedo diary for him of your pg and keep a journal for him and send it to him when it is full so he can read about all your crazy cravings and moods. If I think of more I will post. You can PM me if you want. Nice to meet you and hang in there. You can do this!!!

• 07-22-2008 7:59 PM

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  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact thank you for your words of encouragement. i have my first prenantal appointment tomarrow. he is upset he cant be there. i am trying my best to be strong and i appriciate him even more as you do your man. i always told him how much i appriciated him so at least he doesnt hafta worry bout that. i dnt knw wat a dsn is. could you tell me. i also found a fetal heartbeat monitor at walmart that will email the babys heart beat to him. i just hope to hear from him soon. i hope everything is going well with you! how far along are you?

• 07-23-2008 4:42 PM

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  joymarie Joined on 10-10-2005 Put on your big girl panties and deal with it..... Posts 1,296

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Well I dont know the tech terms for it but we are in Jacksonville so I call a number for NAS and they answer the phone and I ask to be connected to a DSN line and they ask for the number it is a number like 123-456-7890 So no country code or anything then it goes to his desk and it is a local call. He can call me from it too. I wouldnt be able to survive without it. Only cuz I am like a toy poodle and get seperation anxiety! lol You prob wont hear from him for 2 weeks or so just cuz they go to theater which is like a central area then he will go to where he is supposed to. They pick up more equiptment and stuff there then move on. You should have an address soon too. Good luck with the heartbeat monitor I could never hear my daughter on it even at like 37w. I am due Jan 7. I am 16w today. I go to find out the sex Aug 12 and cannot wait! I hope he can use a dsn line. They have them at every base (to my understanding could be wrong) but the lines are long and you might not be albe to call him like I do. But it is a 20min FREE phone call. I hope you hear from him soon. Hang in there! You have what 2 or 3 days down! Thats 2-3 days less than you had!

• 07-23-2008 6:53 PM

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  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact hey joymarie! are you in jacksonvile nc? so.... you are going to find out the babys sex soon. Exciting! I enjoy reading your replys, since I dont have any friends really here. dnt even knw anyone my age. So have you decided on names? I keep checking my emails and waiting for the phone to ring so I can hear from J. I knw it's childish because I wnt hear from him for a while. Im like a little kid at Christmas. I had my first prenatal visit today. I just had the interview and blood drawn they said they will do the rest at my next visit on aug 21st. we have a short supply of ob drs here that accept my ins. so i have to wait. oh my bad i just saw your thing said jville florida. well i hope all is well with you and the little one (and the one on the way) thank you so much. shay

• 07-24-2008 6:01 AM

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  Cyn 7707 Joined on 03-13-2008 Posts 1,189

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hi, my name is Cynthia. I'm really sorry that your fiance has just left...my DH went on his 1st deployment 6 months after we married. I am now 23 weeks preg. w/ our first child, and he's deploying to Iraq is 3-4 weeks. Sooo, I guess I can honestly say that I know just how you feel! The 1st deployment was very scary, and lonely for me, and I expect this one to be about the same, if not a little worse. I'm anxious for the baby to come so that I will be too busy to focus on the fact that I am here alone...you know? Please, feel free to PM me, as well- both you and Joymarie! We''ll get through this.

• 07-24-2008 4:45 PM

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  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey Cynthia! Wow, I geuss I am really not as alone as I feel. At least me wanting to cry all the time has calmed a little. I just miss him now. I am always thinking of him and praying for everyone to come home safe and soon! I dont know I just feel a little numb and if that keeps me from being sad then ....... I'm discovering new things to eat lol, strange how i'm pregnant and can't eat pickles or chocolate! or my favorite, Texas Pete Garlic Hot Sauce. Even italian salad dressing is like acid on my tongue now! So you are bout half way thru, how are you doing? I geuss it would help me some if I had some friends around here. Well I hope all is well with you and baby! You can hit me up anytime! shay

• 07-24-2008 5:24 PM

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  joymarie Joined on 10-10-2005 Put on your big girl panties and deal with it..... Posts 1,296

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact  Hey Shay, see you are not as wierd as you thought! lol When are you due? We are going to find out the sex I go Aug 12!!! I am counting down the days!! We are going to do Ameliah Joy and Issac Lee. I dont know what youre situation is but when I have time I do stuff with our FRG (Family Readiness Group). We have done car washes to raise money to send them care packages. We have gotten togeather and made over 160 care packages! That was a lot of cookies and snacks! Try to get to know some of the other spouses it helps a lil bit. I so cant wait to hear how far you are and when you are due! You have the perfect count down built in! lol

• 07-24-2008 8:14 PM

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  Cyn 7707 Joined on 03-13-2008 Posts 1,189

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hi, Shay and other military Mommies! I'm due in mid November, and we decided to wait until birth to find out the gender. I know what you mean about the food you can no longer stand...I was completely put off by my favorite foods for 3 months....garlic, onions, buffalo wings, and coffee. Talk about being bummed out!!! I'm still not too fond of garlic, or coffee, but I can at least tolerate  their odors again.

• 07-24-2008 8:36 PM

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  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact girl i have a loooonnnnggggg way to go. im due in march. wow. thats good that you all work together like that. im not in a milatary community, im in wilmington nc. j was stationed in jacksonvill nc about 34 miles frm my house. so he wold come up sometimes thruout the week and stay with us but always from friday to sunday. that was our time. during the week if he wasnt here we're on the phone lol. i just dont have any friends here i thought i did. but i was wrong. see im a dj at the radio station here. geuss the girl friends i thought i had just wanted to be around me at partyies and clubs and concerts and whatever else they could get out of me. since i found out im pregnant i dont go out anymore and i havent heard from them at all. ive called them and all that but i get the message. what makes it so bad is that one of them is almost a month further than me. geuss i wont be getting a baby shower again! lol. i didnt have 1 for my son 10 yrs ago because i have just moved here then and knew absolutely no one. i didnt know what i was missing until my sisters had 1 i was a little envious. but hey. geuss i will do it all on my own with this 1 just like i did with King(that's my son)it just hurts cus i lost my friends(so called neway) and my man is gone and im just here alone. i dont have anyone to talk to or hang out with. just to do girl stuff. im getting on my sons nerves cus im always bugging him and just getting in his lil boy space lol. we do things together but he needs his me-time to. i know you are so excited to find out. the names are beautiful. i dont even wanna count days for me its over 200!!! lol then i hafta think about labor.... been there done that. i didnt have an epidural with King. NO MEDICINE i was crazy. lol. did you feel anything in your first trimester? i keep feeling like something is off or not right. i cant explain it and its nagging me. well i geuss i should leave i been offa work for a hour and a half and im still here. dont wan go home yet. let me know how you are doing shay

• 07-30-2008 5:57 PM

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  Jill2973167 Joined on 07-30-2008 Posts 8

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hi Shay! My name is Jill, I'm 25 and from NJ. I am almost 3 months pregnant. My husband first deployed to Kuwait a month after being married, and returned a little over a year later, it was very tough, I'm not going to lie, but I kept a jornal which helped. I emailed him alot and he did the same when he had time. He would call me like 2 times a week, and when he changed jobs over there he was actually able to talk on the computer all the time which was great. I learned alot while he was first away on how strong we both are and as cheesy as it sounds absence does make the heart grow fonder. I was more and more in love with him each and every single day. I cried all the time, because we were frick and frack., we always did everything together. It took a while to get adjusted. But keeping a journal definitely helped me. We had a family readiness program (hes with the Army Reserves) but our family readiness leader wasn't a very good leader, I would reach out to her all the time because but she would never respond back. I just relied on the support of my family and friends. The time he will be gone seems like forever but it will be worth it in the end when he returns! Just stay strong and positive! But now I'm 3 months pregnant and found out my husband is going to deploy again to Afghanistan. He is supposed to leave actually this Monday for 1 months of annual training in Maryland, but never received his orders, so he won't be leaving until he gets them. Gotta love military, nothings ever set in stone and they drag there feet with everything, well in my husbands situation thats how its always been. It drives me nuts, but thats life. But if things go as planned hes supposed to leave for deployment in October for some training in California and Indiana then in December he'll fly out to Afghanistan and is expected to return Dec. 2009. So our baby will be 10 months old when he returns. When I found out he was leaving I was destroyed! It feels like my world is crumbling all over again. So you are not alone. It sucks! But your not the only one going thru it and theres alot of people that can relate. I try to be as positive as I can but sometimes its easier said then done. You do have my support and will be your friend! I don't have to many friends because same as you, when I wasn't pregnant they always wanted to go out to bars and wherever but now I'm pregnant most aren't even bothering with me. The same happened when he first deployed as well. But stay strong and positive and good luck with everything!

• 07-30-2008 7:17 PM

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  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey Jill!!! Congratulations! I am almost 3mos too. Well I will be 10weeks on friday. But it's close. I am sorry to hear of your husbands deployment. I will be here for you anytime that you need me! I am quite lonely, and I am working 2 jobs everyday-which has put alot of stress on me and gave me quite a scare over the weekend. i havent heard from J yet, but i don't expect to for another couple of weeks. Yea i still get very sad, especially when it's time to go home. He's not in my bed to be my pillow or on the couch watchin tv. It gets really hard sometimes so i try to just not think about it. I am not a real emotional person and crying in public hurts me more. So I just try to think about getting prepared for baby or just talking myself out of getting emotional. Well hit me up I hafta go. We have a really bad storm coming in and it's late and I just got off air. I will hit you back tomarrow ok! I hope you stay grounded and strong! shay

• 07-31-2008 4:33 PM

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  Jill2973167 Joined on 07-30-2008 Posts 8

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey Shay! Congrats to you too! I forgot to tell you that in my first message, sorry! And I'm here for you as well. Working 2 jobs is alot, I have enough trouble just working one, lol. Try not to stress out to much, which is easier said then done, I hear yoga really helps. I'm going to look into that, because I'm always stressed. I hope your ok now since this weekend. Hopefully you'll hear from Jay soon, what branch of military is he in? Do you have any family down where you are, besides your son? But I'm always hear for you if you need to talk, definitely don't keep things bottled up, I'm here to listen! But don't work to hard! I hope you stay grounded and strong as well, you sound very strong w/ everything your going thru, I know you will be fine! Jill

• 07-31-2008 4:57 PM

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  divakisses Joined on 07-23-2008 Posts 18

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey Jill! Hope all is well! Yeah, I work 2 jobs everyday except Sunday. My second job i am able to bring my son tho, he's 10 and been coming with me to work for almost 9yrs now so everyone knows him lol! Had another scare today. I swear, this pregnancy this time is taking more strength than I could have ever thought of. Get this... I was bleeding again today at work, so I left and called the er, they told me to come in. I also called the nurse at my ob office who said it could just be implantation bleeding... hello I will be 10weeks tomorrow. So I just stayed home laying on the couch with my feet up. The pain and the bleeding stopped. And Im ok now. It was real light, when I went in saturday morning for the same thing, they said it was a threatened miscarriage. And sometimes we just bleed for no reason, or they jus don't know why and it's not uncommon. I just need to take it easy some. If J had set up the allotment before he left I wouldn't hafta worry bout missing work or paying bills. Anyway.....How are you doing? Where are you at? Jay is in the marines. He's a jarhead alright lol!! Hope all is well with you. Well ima go and get my entertainment ready for my "Word on the street" segment. I get off at 10 so I will check back in a lil bit Otay! Shay

• 07-31-2008 5:24 PM

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  Jill2973167 Joined on 07-30-2008 Posts 8

  Re: he's in iraq Reply Contact Hey Shay! Well thats good you can at least bring your son to work. Thats not good you had 2 scares in a week! Didn't the nurse at the ob realize your 10 weeks?! I highly doubt its implantation bleeding! LOL. At least you were able to go home and relax! And thank god your ok! Yeah I hear that bleeding is common. Yeah you definitely need to take it easy! No more scares ok! I'm doing good, today I had some pains in my stomach which had me nervous, I was on my way home from work and had a rough day as it was at work, and as I'm driving I hear this wierd rumbling noise. It turns out I had a flat tire, so I quickly pull over get out of the car to see how bad it was and there was a big hole in my tire. So I called 911 so they can get a tow truck or whatever to change my tire. I waited on the side of the highway for 25 min. before they came. So sitting there waiting and watching all these cars whizzing by my car made me real nervous and I wasn't to patient sitting and waiting and how much this was going to cost me. So I started to get pains and just tried to calm down. But after the tire was changed I felt much better, and it was $30 to change it, so it wasn't to bad. But other then that, this pregnancy is going fairly well. I don't really get to bad of morning sickness, so I can't really complain. I just get really tired and normally fall asleep pretty early. But I'm in New Jersey. Have you been getting any morning sickness or anything? Good luck with your word on the street segment! Don't work to hard!