Hate sex

• 04-19-2009 6:04 AM

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  rocky3228186 Joined on 01-31-2009 Posts 16	Re: Hate sex Reply Contact so as a husband who understands this not wanting sex....can we use movies (porn) to helps us through these long stretches without intimacy?

• 04-20-2009 5:46 AM

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  Cookiethief2 Joined on 12-18-2006 #1 5/17/06 #2 6/11/07 #3 12/18/09 Posts 993

  Re: Hate sex Reply Contact rocky3228186: so as a husband who understands this not wanting sex....can we use movies (porn) to helps us through these long stretches without intimacy? That is something you'd have to talk to your WIFE about. Every woman is different and by looking at those skinny, non-pregnant women while your wife/woman is getting bigger because she's carrying YOUR child is likely to upset her.  Talk to her about it, don't ask other women. Each woman is different and what bothers one woman won't bother another.  And there is more to intimacy than sex.  Try romance, cuddling, acknowledgement throughout the day, and other ways to get her interested instead of "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" which seems to be what alot of men want.

• 04-20-2009 7:40 AM

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  Susan3342194 Joined on 04-03-2009 Posts 21

  Re: Hate sex Reply Contact Honestly, that is between you and your wife. I didn't like porn prior to getting pregnant, and it would be hurtful to me if my hubby looked at it now. Other women have no issues with porn. Personally, and the research proves this out...I think that there is too much chance of a person becoming addicted to porn. It's designed to be addictive. It flashes from scene to scene, little dialogue, with shots that focus on specific body parts. It disengages sex from intimacy. And studies have shown that viewing it actually does change brain chemistry. So for my family, sex is not allowed. Now, I know that there are other couples that have no problem viewing porn together..that's why I say it's between you and your wife. Just make sure that if you do watch it, it's with her full knowledge. Don't let her stumble across it.

• 04-20-2009 1:40 PM

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  Susan3342194 Joined on 04-03-2009 Posts 21	Re: Hate sex Reply Contact doh! make that porn is not allowed.... :) Yes, I still have sex with the hubby...I don't enjoy it, but he does and I love him enough to try to make it so that he doesn't have to go without....

• 05-10-2009 5:08 AM

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  rocky3228186 Joined on 01-31-2009 Posts 16	Re: Hate sex Reply Contact hope all is well with everyone.............its been a month and a bit since we were last intimate....i understand but its tough......how is everyone else doing in this area?

• 05-11-2009 9:15 AM

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  Susan3342194 Joined on 04-03-2009 Posts 21	Re: Hate sex Reply Contact Actually, hubby and I get intimate on an average of 2-3 times per week. It's a compromise. :) He's got a much stronger libido and would love intimacy multiple times every day....me, once every couple weeks. So we meet in the middle. :)

• 06-30-2009 8:09 PM

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  cindy3447598 Joined on 06-26-2009 anaheim ca Posts 56

  Re: Hate sex Reply Contact i could also relate because me and my partner would have sex like everyday i was as in to it as him but know i do not want to have sex and when we go to sleep i dont even want to cuddle and we would always cuddle and yes i am faking it as well i feel bad that i have to fake it but i feel once i have the baby everything will go back to normal so dont feel bad its maybe just a faze of pregnacy....

• 07-05-2009 6:33 AM

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  rocky3228186 Joined on 01-31-2009 Posts 16	Re: Hate sex Reply Contact i hope so too...it is not often and not enough....i have to take care of myself...oh welll....do u do other intimate stuff other than intercourse though

• 07-05-2009 4:04 PM

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  hcjfctc Joined on 01-24-2008 Keira Joy born 10/19/2009~Virginia Beach, VA Posts 390

  Re: Hate sex Reply Contact Yeah if I were you I would definitely do other intimate things with her and maybe even ask her to do non-intercourse things with you as well. Cuddling, hugs, non-sexual touches can make a woman more likely to want to have intercourse. Still, just cuz she's not in the mood doesn't mean she can't be the one to satisfy you orally or manually. There is a book that I think all men should read though it does have to do a little with God, but mostly porn and it's addictiveness among other sexual things and that's Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn.

• 07-06-2009 1:30 PM

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  melonjuice Joined on 07-13-2006 southampton, england Posts 87

  Re: Hate sex Reply Contact porn is one of the reasons why me and my husband can hardly ever be intimate anymore. He used to drink alot and was violent and basically did what ever he wanted as our relationship wasn't a partnership with him, more of a superficial front so people would think he'd grown up. I'm having our third child now, and although the drinking stopped just before the birth of our second, because of the things he did with no regard to my feelings it has crushed our relationship. we very rarely have sex because if he wasn't sleeping around he was watching beautiful skinny women on the computer, trust me when i say there is nothing worse for a woman who has no choice but to grow bigger and bigger to know the man she loves is disrespecting her in such a way. for the sake of your marriage i hope you can talk through your issues and keep more intimacy in your relationship than what we have. Helen x