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• 08-25-2008 5:25 PM

  Coastiewife Joined on 12-06-2006 Kodiak, AK Posts 704	So who all... Reply Contact   Is oging to be in the room during delivery?? Has anyone talked about this yet and what might happen when itcomes down to labor time? Or how did it go with previous births?

• 08-25-2008 5:29 PM

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  Helena Swedegirl Joined on 03-28-2003 Rock Hill Posts 1,034	Re: So who all... Reply Contact Well....I am limited to hubby alone in the ER and then mom and dad will be in the recovery room with us!

• 08-25-2008 5:32 PM

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  Heatherlynn0408 Joined on 03-24-2008 St. Joseph, Michigan Posts 572

  Re: So who all... Reply Contact I'm kinda nervous about this because I told my MIL ages ago that she could be in the room, but what I meant was that she could be in there leading up to the actual delivery and then I want it to be just me and DH during the delivery.  I casually said something to this effect the other day in front of her, and I think that she probably has hurt feelings, like that I changed my mind or took back what I originally said.  Oh well... she'll get over it.  My mom will also be there during labor.  Depending upon how freaked out I am, I might have her stay in there during delivery but I don't know.  It might be a game-time decision.  But DH has strict orders not to be on the delivery end of things when our baby arrives.  Not that he wants to!  I think he'd be forever traumatized!  So he's staying up by me.  And no mirrors!  I don't want to see that either!  The thought of it makes me feel a bit faint myself!

• 08-25-2008 6:00 PM

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  paulette2744374 Joined on 06-23-2008 North East Pennsylvania Posts 650	Re: So who all... Reply Contact My DBF aka the baby's father. I am having a c-sec so I don't know if anyone else is allowed in.

• 08-25-2008 6:20 PM

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  *BrandyandConnor11/15* Joined on 02-18-2005 It's A Girl!!!!! Posts 474	Re: So who all... Reply Contact My DH and my mom, like the other 3 times!  My mom cuts the umbilical cord!

• 08-25-2008 6:37 PM

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  supersono99 Joined on 10-16-2003 Posts 938	Re: So who all... Reply Contact well, because we are scheduled c/s, only my DH can be in the OR. afterwards both of our families will come by and visit.

• 08-25-2008 6:58 PM

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  Cyn 7707 Joined on 03-13-2008 Posts 1,211

  Re: So who all... Reply Contact With my DH deployed, it's going to be my Mom and my best friend..he works L&D at the other hospital in town. so I think he'll be really great to have! Here's my BIG problem: my Dad, and MIL have both assumed that they will also be there. My Dad is a jerk, and is a huge jerk when it comes to my Mom- they've been divorced 13 years, for God's sake!!! My MIL hase never liked me, was a *** at our wedding, and has done all in her power to break up mine & DH's relationship...been dealing w/ her s*%t for 10 years. She is, and I quote, "gonna be there to hold your hand." Ha! Now, she wants to be kind and supportive?! No, thank you. I need to be as relaxed, focused and supported emotionally as possible, and they have nothing but negativity to add during everyday life, how can I have any hope that either of them would be different during labor? So, the two people who love me unconditionally(well, the two that will be on this side of the planet) will be there with me. I still haven't decided how to handle the other two. Arrrrrrghhhh!!!!  Sorry, I didn't mean for that to be such a vent session! Guess it's been weighing on my mind lately

• 08-25-2008 6:59 PM

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  kristi1470280 Joined on 06-07-2006 Chicago suburbs Posts 232

  Re: So who all... Reply Contact My parents and sister were there before our son was born but knew they would be kicked out during the delivery.  During the delivery it was just me and dh.  It will probably be the same this time but either my parents or sister will have to be at our house watching our son.  They have not decided who yet and it depends if it during the week because I do not want my sister using too many personal days.

• 08-25-2008 7:09 PM

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  Lena751 Joined on 07-25-2008 St. Petersburg FL Posts 528	Re: So who all... Reply Contact me and my DH decided we wanted my sister there for the delivery. I haven't really broached the topic with my mom or MIL. I wouldn't mind if they were there for some of the labor, but I don't really want the world seeing my lady parts.

• 08-25-2008 7:39 PM

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  Candy2949139 Joined on 07-21-2008 #4 EDD 11-13-2008 Posts 650	Re: So who all... Reply Contact Well originally it was supposed to be dh my mom and mil. But bc my dh and mom cant get along i have no idea!!! He wants his mom there and of course i want my mom there but as of right now its just dh

• 08-25-2008 8:28 PM

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  *Christa* Joined on 09-06-2005 Posts 1,537	Re: So who all... Reply Contact Dh & my doula & possibly a doula in training.  My mom maybe, but I'll have to see how labor is going, as of right now, no on my mom coming in.

• 08-25-2008 9:08 PM

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  Coastiewife Joined on 12-06-2006 Kodiak, AK Posts 704

  Re: So who all... Reply Contact With my daughter, My hubby and brothers were in the room for the WHOLE thing. My brothers were 17 and 11 but they both have this very special bond with me and wanted to be the first people to meet their little baby neice. They sat way behind me and didnt see anything until the placenta that the nurses showed them ha. Montana(11) almost passed out... I was more concerned about them tkaing him out of the room to get water then I was with them stitching me up. My mom disappeared a few hours before the birth cause she was mad at me (long story) so she missed it. My hubby was up front and center though. He LOVED it... He was coaching me on and telling me how everything looked cause I didnt want mirrors. This time we will have a midwife but I want him to pretty much "deliver" or catch the baby. My midwife is only going to be there for if I need her since were doing it at home. I dont know if My Mom plans to try to come (we live 3,000 miles away) but if she does, she gets too sick to actually watch so it will be to help with Rylin and thats it. Montana wont let her come without him so Im sure he will want to semi watch again. I have invited one of my aunts and my 2 grandmas but I dont think any of them will be coming. I also invited both of my best friends and I think one is really trying to buy tickets to come out here so as of now its just going to be my hubby but I really hope some people make it.Im VERY modest and plan to wear as much as I can the whole time but I think its such an amazing thing for them to see and I would love the support of them especially since Im going to be at home.

• 08-26-2008 6:12 AM

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  Jen960480 Joined on 09-26-2005 Davien 5.17.06 Jeniya 11.2.08 Posts 422	Re: So who all... Reply Contact Unless something changes, it's going to be DF, my cousin/bestfriend, MIL and DF's cousin. My mom was there last time but she's going to be watching Davien for me this time.

• 08-26-2008 6:17 AM

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  mamaof2bostons Joined on 11-21-2005 Hadessah (01/31/07), Matthias (10/12/08) Posts 591	Re: So who all... Reply Contact Just DH since we will be having a c-section. I don't have any other family here. My mother will be flying in the beginning of Nov to help me but she will have the my dd while the surgery happens so in the recovery room will only be dh too.

• 08-26-2008 1:30 PM

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  MichelleMcD2003 Joined on 04-27-2005 South Carolina Posts 764	Re: So who all... Reply Contact  DH and I, but if I can do a V BAC then I am welcoming my MIL & Mom, SIL and anyone else as long as someone will watch Patrick for us.