New & Nervous!

• 09-03-2008 3:14 PM

  Ctink8189 Joined on 09-03-2008 Fort Riley, KS Posts 291

  New & Nervous! Reply Contact Hello all! I just found out last night around midnight that I am pregnant with baby number 2. My husband and I are both excited but at the same time I am sooo nervous! He deploys October 8th to Iraq and will be gone for 12 months, so he won't be here for any of it. I just don't quite know what to think about doing all of this alone! He was such a big help to me during the first pregnancy!

• 09-03-2008 4:35 PM

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  joymarie Joined on 10-10-2005 Put on your big girl panties and deal with it..... Posts 1,414

  Re: New & Nervous! Reply Contact Girl you are not alone! lol I found out two weeks after dh got into country that I was pg with #2 and our daughter is 2 right now too! He wont be home for this birth either. Check out the post I just added. It is something I am checking into. What branch is your hubby in? Dh is in the Army reserves and is coming home for leave in 50 days!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant wait. He wont be done with this tour till end of Feb and I am due Jan 7. He has been gone since march  (training in MS) came home for 4 days in april (ughuh) lol and was in country by mid april. It really sucks in the begining but it gets a lil better. We are finally over the hump but time seems to be standing still now. I can say though I am getting a new dh he has realized some stuff I was getting blue in the face about while he was here so it can benifit your marriage. Makes you really appreciate eachother.

• 09-14-2008 11:27 AM

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  me_at613 Joined on 08-07-2008 NY EDD 12/28 w/#1 Posts 187

  Re: New & Nervous! Reply Contact I really feel for you... I’m due with #1 Dec 28 and my husband is supposed to be deploying to Afghanistan 28Dec-5 Jan... Talk about bad timing... so hopefully he will be here for the birth, but right after I am all by myself for the remainder 12 months... It's going to be quite the experience... from being a new mom to worrying about my Dh and his safety... maybe your Hubby will get his R&R when you give birth, if that could work out for you, it would be great... its something that he has to talk to his chain of command about...

• 09-14-2008 12:43 PM

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  Cyn 7707 Joined on 03-13-2008 Posts 1,211

  Re: New & Nervous! Reply Contact I'm in the same crappy situation. Pregnant w/ our 1st baby, DH has been home maybe a total of 10 weeks this pregnancy- most of that was before I even knew I was expecting! He was in training at Ft. Bragg for two months, then at Ft. Bliss for 2 months, he's been in Iraq for a month now, and I'm due in mid-November. 'Ain't that some ***?! The good news is that his leave is right around Thanksgiving, so he will get to see the baby soon after birth. The bad news is that he will then go back for 9-12 months before coming home again. I was really scared to go through this on my own, but the trick is to not think about it. Which I pretty well mastered with his last deployment, but honestly, the nights are when it gets really hard. I try to keep my self happy, but inevitably, the tears and overwhelming sadness do get me. And then I feel tremendous guilt b/c if I feel sad, my baby feels it too - and that just makes me cry more.  Just do your best, and don't be afraid to ask for help, or emotional support. Or ask your OB for a referral for counciling. Good luck, Honey, and PM me if you want to! -Cynthia