Discouraged

• 11-14-2008 12:28 PM

  leslie_coker Joined on 07-12-2006 *Mommy to Maddy, Izzy and baby Katy *due June 4th* Posts 133

  Discouraged Reply Contact  I shouldn't have done it, but I did!  This afternoon while my daughters were napping I watched TLCs the baby story.  Sigh.  Both women labored on their backs, in bed, hooked up to every monitor known to man (ok not really I'm exagerating a little).  They both had beautiful healthy babies.  But the show made birth and labor look so painful and hard.  Haha don't get me wrong, it is hard!  But it was so discouraging to see women give up........labor on their back......sigh. Sorry to vent I just was discouraged!  Since this is my home birth I guess I shouldn't be watching things like that, huh?

• 11-14-2008 3:08 PM

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  Coastiewife Joined on 12-06-2006 Kodiak, AK Posts 35

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact Yup... I dont watch ANY baby shows anymore because they all p*** me off. There have been a few homebirths on there though and they are always amazing. I wartched one where the woman had her baby at a birth center in the tub and she did amazing andf then another where the mom had the baby in the tub at home with dad in the tub with her... and the dad was a professional football player. It was great!

• 11-15-2008 10:36 AM

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  Keeger Joined on 05-06-2008 BC Canada Posts 895

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact I don't watch any of those shows either, they also just make me mad. Have you read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth? She address the issue of how TV and film make childbirth look so horrific and how if what was shown on TV was nautral childbirth that was peaceful women would think that was the norm.  I just want to take that book and bash those TV show producers over the head with it.

• 11-15-2008 1:48 PM

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  Chamelyan Joined on 10-30-2007 Midwest Posts 119

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact  I watch some of those shows grumbling under my breath, and other shows seem to be okay.  I couldn't really watch them while I was preggers because I'd be too emotional over how I thought the docs were screwing the moms out of a perfectly normal birth.  If you want to watch some of the baby shows, I'd recommend House of Babies.  It's a little more tuned-in to those who are looking for a natural birth and doesn't make it seem so horrific all the time.

• 11-15-2008 7:21 PM

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  softsnowbunny Joined on 08-30-2005 Due with #3 May 8th 2009! Posts 1,430

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact Yea, I cant watch them anymore either, I think in 7 years of those types of shows being on I have seen maybe 4 vaginal births, and one with out medication of any sort, (that one was good, I am actually doing hypnobirthing this time b/c of that show) but all the ones I ever see are women, who get scheudled C sections, It drives me absoultly crazy.!!!  Im expecting my 3rd child, and look forward to not having meds and breathing through the contractions and enjoying the birthing process. I look forward to remebering everything of my birth instead of parts  of it.. I was reading in my Bradly Method book and many other birthing books the key to having a pain free pregnancy is not to watch those shows, since the pain can be handled as a mind over matter thing. Good Luck with your home birth! If I had the space in my place I would do it also, but I am going with hypno birthing and taking the advice from Ricki Lakes documentary to heart and using it in the hospital. :) Candice in Colorado

• 11-16-2008 4:40 PM

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  Nicole3116881 Joined on 11-16-2008 Posts 2

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact Those shows are very sad most of the time, but I also think we benefit from seeing what we don't want as much as what we do want. I had my first homebirth in '06 and gained a great deal of strength from reading inspirational stories of women's birth stories. I admit that I also watched my share of birth shows, which only strengthened my resolve to do it my way. May you be blessed with the birth of your dreams.

• 11-17-2008 6:58 AM

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  leslie_coker Joined on 07-12-2006 *Mommy to Maddy, Izzy and baby Katy *due June 4th* Posts 133

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact   I'm so thankful for each and every one of you ladies!  I hope you all know that! I'm so glad I'm not alone on this subject! I'm doing it again now.  The first birth was a homebirth.  She struggled, got to 9 1/2.  Went to the hospital and had her epi and a beautiful baby girl.  The second is a scheduled repeat c-section. This time around, during the first birth, when the lady was having such a horrible time, I practiced my slow breathing, my positive affirmations, my good thinking, etc.  So I think watching that show actually helped some.  I hate that she had such a hard time with her birth and was in so much pain, but it truly affarmed why I am also doing hypnobirthing and practicing now!  Even though I'm just 3 months preggo!! I tell you, I can't wait to give birth to my third child at home with my amazing midwives!  I have my second appointment today I'll update ya'll this evening! ~Blessings~

• 11-18-2008 8:09 AM

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  YeeHawGamMaw9 Joined on 11-01-2004 Kansas Posts 1,922

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact While watching DIL deliver her baby in hospital last week, she had an IV in each arm, epi in her back, catheter, 2 monitors on her stomach so they could tell when her contractions were coming, heart monitor for her baby and another on her arm.  They did not use the internal heart monitor on the baby that they screw in his head (I prayed and asked God to please not let them use it ,as they were walking into the room with it!)  Even though they could see her contractions on the monitor, which they watched like an 80's video game instead of watching her. I could tell when she was having a contraction by just listening to her breathe. She could only lay there, and of course, not stand or move around it was like she was an invalid.  High tech is not always good, doctors and nurses are losing their natural touch. My son told her a day later, that since the catheter hurt her so much, she might want to have a nat. birth next time

• 11-18-2008 8:20 AM

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  Mom~of~Munchkins Joined on 09-14-2005 Posts 236

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact I get suckered in sometimes, too.  My HATE show is "Deliver Me."  UGH!!!!  I hear the physicians giving some awful misinformation on that show about birth...about breastfeeding.  Its rediculous.  One physician was responding to a patient who was worried about her "big" baby boy getting enough from the breast.  The physician says something like, "You know, those big babies are never satisfied by the breast.  You almost always should supplement with formula for a baby that is bigger than average."  WTH?  I hate, also, how I get suckered in sometimes by a birth that looks to be a natural labor.  Its a woman homebirthing or in the hospital doing everything right.  But they ALWAYS fail on those shows.  The mother always opts for an epidural or goes for cesarean or has to have pitocin or something.  They hardly ever (IF ever) show a successful natural delivery.  And that just ticks me off!!!!

• 11-18-2008 12:43 PM

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  don'tswiminthemainstream Joined on 08-31-2004 Posts 592	Re: Discouraged Reply Contact  Yes!!  Deliver Me is the worst!!!!!!!  I hate how they seem like a groups of "Sisters" yet lie and spread misinformation and bully their patients.  Get me in a room with them alone.........

• 11-19-2008 12:22 PM

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  YeeHawGamMaw9 Joined on 11-01-2004 Kansas Posts 1,922	Re: Discouraged Reply Contact  Giv me that oooooooooole time birthin' that ooooooooooole time birthin'.....!!!!

• 11-24-2008 10:52 PM

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  Keeger Joined on 05-06-2008 BC Canada Posts 895

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact Mom~of~Munchkins: I get suckered in sometimes, too.  My HATE show is "Deliver Me."  UGH!!!!  I hear the physicians giving some awful misinformation on that show about birth...about breastfeeding.  Its rediculous.  One physician was responding to a patient who was worried about her "big" baby boy getting enough from the breast.  The physician says something like, "You know, those big babies are never satisfied by the breast.  You almost always should supplement with formula for a baby that is bigger than average."  WTH?  I have never seen that show or heard of it before, but I echo your WTH. My 2nd son was EBF for the first six months and at his six month check up was a huge 27 lbs. He was very statisfied by the breast. That kind of misinformation just makes my blood boil.

• 11-25-2008 6:23 PM

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  leslie_coker Joined on 07-12-2006 *Mommy to Maddy, Izzy and baby Katy *due June 4th* Posts 133	Re: Discouraged Reply Contact   Breast Milk is like supply and demand! You make what your baby needs, usually!

• 12-15-2008 2:45 PM

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  Katrinangel Joined on 06-05-2006 California Posts 7

  Re: Discouraged Reply Contact Thankfully, we don't have TV at all this time around, so I won't be tempted. During my first pregnancy with my son, I watched a ton of those shows, thinking it would prepare me for what was to come, but it's true that they don't shown successful natural births. Of course they wouldn't. Where's the salaciousness in that? It's awful, and it psyches us all out. I won't watch those this time around because I'm not even going to a birthing center like last time. That castor oil just about murdered me. Bring on the hot tub and my husband's back massages. Let the baby (babies) come when they are ready!