Expecting and my toddler is wanting to nurse.

• 08-31-2009 12:14 PM

  M.3518137 Joined on 08-31-2009 Posts 2	Expecting and my toddler is wanting to nurse. Reply Contact I breastfed my first son for 2 yrs 3 mos. A wonderful experience. Now that I'm in my 3rd trimester my nipples are once more appealing to my now 3 yr old. He "pretends" to nurse through my shirt when we cuddle, he knows there's nothing there now and that the new baby will be breastfeeding but it's a little unnerving. Should I worry?

• 09-01-2009 9:04 AM

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  Lena751 Joined on 07-25-2008 St. Petersburg FL Posts 1,559	Re: Expecting and my toddler is wanting to nurse. Reply Contact I wouldn't worry too much about it. Once the baby comes, there might be some jealousy issues, but if your toddler is able to understand reason, tell him that only babies are allowed to nurse and since he's a big boy, he has to let the baby have it's turn.

• 09-02-2009 10:02 PM

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  Aubrie'sMommy Joined on 01-08-2008 Posts 739

  Re: Expecting and my toddler is wanting to nurse. Reply Contact  My dd self weaned at about 14 months and when she was 16 months my ds was born. My dd has always asked to nurse since ds was born. I actally just let her, and she wanted nothing to do with actually nursing I think it was more the cuddling and me holding her she missed. But every now and again she'll say "Mommy, I hungry, I eat boobs too?" and I'll invite her up (with my shirt fully covering me)- and she'll just rest her head on me and snuggle. (by the way she'll be 2 at the end of Sept.) Every time though I remind her all of the awesome things big kids get to do.. drink juice, eat pez (her fav. candy) play outside etc..   Honestly, if it were *me* I'd just let him sit with you like you would nurse, but be fully covered. 1 so he doesn't feel replaced and 2 maybe he just wants to snuggle. But also remind him what a big boy he is.

• 10-10-2009 12:21 AM

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  Cara2454751 Joined on 11-07-2007 Lincoln, Ca Posts 6

  Re: Expecting and my toddler is wanting to nurse. Reply Contact Hi... I am also expecting!!! I'm determined to breast feed longer this time. I have a 15 month old son and I only BF him for about 5 weeks and I was so sad about it. :( Anyway... I talked to the my sons doctor about giving him breast milk when I am BF-ing the new baby. She said that if I am comfortable with it, that I could have him latch again or give him pumped milk- as long as the nutritional needs of the newborn come first in terms of getting enough milk. But she said he may or may not want it. But, if he is does want it, he would benefit from the nutrients and antibodies. I just thought that was very interesting and exciting seeing as though I always wanted to give him more than I did. I would be very happy to pump milk for my DS if I am able to make enough. If he took an interest in BF-ing again, I think I would let him-we will see. I don't think you should worry at all... in fact, the Dr. said that I should expect this reaction from my son, and it is normal. She said to just do whatever I am comfortable with. :) I also read that this reaction from the older sibling (toddler age) is completely normal! :) Best wishes.

• 10-11-2009 2:44 AM

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  Quinault Joined on 08-12-2006 Seattle, WA Posts 697

  Re: Expecting and my toddler is wanting to nurse. Reply Contact My third child weaned when I was 6 months pregnant with my 4th child. My husband is currently deployed. When he left after his scheduled leave to meet the baby my son started nursing again. One big factor is the in all likelihood a toddler's latch will be AWFUL. The start having the "straw latch" after they have been weaned awhile. Tandem nursing has it's benefits and drawbacks. You just have to see what you are willing to do. My second child weaned while I was pregnant with my third child. She wasn't interested in nursing but she stole every bottle of pumped milk I produced. And virtually stalked me everytime I pumped. So you might try pumping to see if that will interest him.