I've just started buying cloth too and there's a lot of answers at www.diaperswappers.com
You can hang your diapers in the sun to get stains out, you shouldn't use bleach on diapers. Most people keep a diaper pail. (Just a cheap plastic trash can and usually a waterproof liner. You shake any poop into the toilet and you can get a diaper dprayer that connects into your toilet to rince off loose stool into the toilet. It seems best to wash every night or every other night.