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Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

Last post 10-27-2009 7:41 AM by Trisha3081350. 8 replies.
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  • 09-20-2009 8:40 PM

    Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    Sam was born May 31st 2009, I have just about two weeks before returning to work but I am already scared of leaving her with persons she not related to. I worry that she may not get the needed care, attention, stimulation she requires at this stage. At four months she's very alert and demands alot of attention. She's my only child and I am not sure that I will be able to have another child so I want to take the best care of her. I worry that if I send her to day care that other kids could poke her in the face/eye I also worry about the possible things that could happen to her. I have two options, my neighbour offered to care for her as she currently has another child the exact age of Sam that she currently cares for, I am concerned about the possible risk I may be exposing my little girl to. I am also playing with the idea to take Sam to a Day Care center but the convenience of drop offs and pick ups is a concern. I dont know maybe I just need some reassurance on the matter
  • 09-21-2009 4:24 AM In reply to

    • TashaNicole
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    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

     If your neighbor is trustworthy I would definitely go with her! First of all if she is only caring for one other child then your little girl will get a lot more attention and one-on-one care. In daycare centers the teacher to child ratio usually runs about 4-5 infants to 1 teacher. Second, in a daycare there is more of a chance of your child getting sick as opposed to sending her to your neighbor's house. However, if you send her to your neighbor I would be sure that your neighbor does activities that allow your little girl to learn developmental skills. In a daycare (if it is a good one) they will most likely require the teachers to have a daily or weekly lesson plan to promote the development of skills in the children.

    Daycare centers can be good too. I actually work at a daycare and we have very strict guidelines we have to follow. Unfortunately I can't afford for my girls to go to the daycare I work at so they go to a different daycare. I'm not happy with the situation but I have no other option right now. 

     I will warn you that your child will get hurt at some point in time whether it be at a daycare, your neighbor's house, or in your own home. Accidents always happen when you least expect it. My 4 month old got her first scratch at daycare last week. It breaks my heart that it happened, but as a teacher and mother I know that things happen. Her teacher had a child on the changing table changing their diaper and wasn't able to get to Eden before the other child scratched her. My 2 year old has had her fair share of injuries as well.

    Good luck with whatever you decide to do. If you have any more questions about daycare or anything I would be more than happy to answer them! :)

  • 09-22-2009 3:35 PM In reply to

    • rmsandoval7
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    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    I felt the same way about taking my two boys to daycare for the first time a little over a month ago. But they are both doing fine! I chose a family provider, so she has a few other children in her home and has another mom to help her out. Just make sure whoever you leave her with you are totally comfortable with them, and make sure you are allowed to drop by unanounced at any time. Like with mine, I walk in without knocking and it's fine with her, and I don't have to let her know if I'm picking him up early, things like that. If there are other children there, she will get her share of bumps, bruises, scratches, but don't worry, soon she'll be giving them out too! I would go with the neighbor if you trust her, private is definitely better - and cheaper!

  • 09-24-2009 11:53 AM In reply to

    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    thanks for the reassurance.
  • 09-27-2009 6:48 PM In reply to

    • abacak
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    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    It's natural to worry about being away from your precious baby.  No one can love your baby the same as you...  But if you leave your baby with a trustworthy person she'll be okay.  I have a 3 year old who is constantly face to face with my baby - and sometimes he bounces the bouncy seat a little to vigorously - and he whispers to loud in baby's ear - and he drives a matchbox car up baby's leg - and he kisses him while he's sleeping...you get the point...

     Given the choice though - I'd pick an environment with less kids for this age.

  • 10-25-2009 12:32 AM In reply to

    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    thanks. I didn't bother with the neighbor as I was not totally convinced about my child's safety. I didn't like the idea that so many person (friends/family) were in and out of the house daily and I didnt know if they were all trustworthy. Plus one day I saw my neighbor's niece(6years old) swinging front gate on the gate and there was no one in attendance. So I ended up at a Day Care. So far I do not have any bad feeling about it but it's early days. One big thing though (not sure if this should be cause for concern); by the Thursday of the first week at Day Care my little girl seem to have picked up something. She was having a fever, by Saturday she was having a noticeable cough, by Sunday it got worst... the next Tuesday my doctor ordered my little girl out of the Day Care for 10days as she was sick with cold and fever. She's better now but I seem to have picked up the cold and I am sneezing alot and I'm afraid she will re-catch the cold from me. She has not been back to the Day Care yet. She returns Monday but I'm concerned about her picking up the cold virus again. I hear it cannot be escaped but she's so young. I felt really bad for her but I know it happens.
  • 10-25-2009 7:28 PM In reply to

    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    You may want to let the daycare know that she got sick if you have not already. Most daycares will take this seriously and do an extra cleaning to make sure that others do not get sick. Unfortantely it is going to happen and no matter how clean your daycare is someone will get sick. Your best bet is to just take all the precautions you can to avoid it. Good Handwashing is the best way. Also as sad as it is that our little ones get sick this is not a bad thing. Getting sick builds our immune systems and helps us fight off the illness next time it comes around. I hope that she gets well quickly and you as well. Good luck!

  • 10-26-2009 9:52 PM In reply to

    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    Thanks. She's well now. I just brought her back to the Day Care on Monday after a week and a half break. I just hope she doesnt get sick too quickly again. Thanks for the reassurance
  • 10-27-2009 7:41 AM In reply to

    Re: Day Care: I am scared of sending my little girl out

    I'm glad to hear she is feeling better. I have a 3 year old and 5 month old in daycare. They are both doing GREAT! But the first 6 months of daycare are very very tough. No matter how hard the daycare and you try she is going to pick colds and bugs. I know it's upsetting to see them sick but it is also good for her to begin building up her immunce system to these things that are out there. Make sure that you are keeping your daycare up to date on what is happening. I felt the way you did when I put them in daycare at first. Even with my daughter as my second child I was very scared and upset. But after a couple of months and several colds she comes home each night with a big smile on her face and is happy to see her mom. I think it's harder on Moms than it is on the kids. Good luck!
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