Update on me :(

• 11-04-2009 8:06 AM

  Amber05 Joined on 05-13-2004 South Dakota, Lorena-4, Everett-3, 3 Angel Babies Posts 470

  Update on me :( Reply Contact First of all, thank you all for the support you've given me. I found out this morning that there's been no growth since last week. I will be stopping my progesterone and wait to m/c naturally. I go back in 2 weeks if I don't start bleeding before then. I'm pretty numb right now. I'm sad, hurt, confused, angry, etc. Everything but happy right now. I wish we had an answer why. The did discover that I have MTHFR (which I have renamed "mother fu@#er"). I need to start adding a additional 1mg of folic acid everyday. I really don't know what else to say right now. I just wish DH could be home with me.

• 11-04-2009 10:38 AM

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  Cali Girl Joined on 08-16-2004 San Diego Posts 610

  Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact I'm sorry Amber, I'm so angry!! This is so frustrating and just seems so unfair! I think you definately gave MTHFR the right nickname!! Ugh I don't know what else to say, I'm just so mad that this happened!! I wish I could hug you and shake your doctor and say FIX THIS!! I don't want you hurting anymore! I'm sorry I'm not saying sweet sugary pity filled things but I'm just plain mad this time!! They better continue to help figure out what's going wrong and empower you! Sending you big hugs and Love Mama!

• 11-04-2009 10:42 AM

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  Amber05 Joined on 05-13-2004 South Dakota, Lorena-4, Everett-3, 3 Angel Babies Posts 470

  Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact Thanks! I was hoping I didn't offend anyone by giving it that name. I'm angry too. My RE is really trying to figure out what's going on. I've had every test done that I can (except for the kareotype because insurance won't cover it and it will run $1500-$1800 per person tested, that's $3000-3600 to test both me and dh, or me and the remains of this one). It's frustrating. Hopefully the extra folic acid and possible heparin (I think that's what they said) will help if we decide to try again. We aren't making that decision right now, there are too many emotions running to make that decision.

• 11-04-2009 12:22 PM

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  Amber05 Joined on 05-13-2004 South Dakota, Lorena-4, Everett-3, 3 Angel Babies Posts 470

  Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact My MIL is such an idiot. I've pretty much made it clear that I really don't want to talk about it right now. I just need to grieve. She called to see how I was. I said "fine." She responded with, "No, you're not." My response was "Well, I'm as good as I can be for losing a baby". Then she proceeded to keep asking questions. Of course, she got me and her daughter (the irresponsible pregnant one, no one take offense, I'm angry) confused. She asked about the heartbeat that we saw last week (we didn't see one). "Oh!" she says. "So what happened?" I explained to her again that last week there was only a gestational sac, and the same this week. Then she says "Maybe this isn't the right thing to say, but at least there wasn't a baby in there." WHAT!!!! I said to her "Well, it was a baby to me. Now we've lost 3." I was pissed!!!!!! Oh, people are stupid.

• 11-04-2009 1:41 PM

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  Nikkani86 Joined on 11-18-2008 Altoona, Pa Posts 1,951	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact   Amber, I am so sorry. I am crying for you. It's just so sad that there are women like you who want a baby soooo bad and can't get/stay pregnant and then there are these women who hate kids and do awful things to them and can have as many as they want. I really am hurting for you, I'm so so sorry.

• 11-04-2009 4:13 PM

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  Dawn429 Joined on 12-29-2008 NM Posts 461	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact That just sucks, to put it lightly.  I am sorry.  and that was not very nice of your MIL.  Just know that we are all behind you and hope the best for you.  ***hugs****

• 11-04-2009 4:18 PM

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  Amber05 Joined on 05-13-2004 South Dakota, Lorena-4, Everett-3, 3 Angel Babies Posts 470	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact Thanks ladies!!! I just got a text from one of my students (1 of the 3 who knew). It was so sweet. She wrote in there that she didn't know what to say, but that she was sorry and she loved me. I LOVE my students!!!!

• 11-04-2009 7:31 PM

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  lifeismagick Joined on 07-22-2008 Ontario Posts 1,262	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact  I'm so sorry that this is happening to you.  I send you lots of hugs and prayers.  Your MIL sounds really insensitive.  I'm sorry.

• 11-05-2009 9:25 AM

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  Sonia1826635 Joined on 10-14-2008 Posts 1

  Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact I hope you don't mind me replying. I'm a June mama, but I've never posted. My husband and I were ttc #3 in '06 and had 3 MC's within 4 months. My midwife discovered I have MTHFR after MC #3. I have since been on an additional 3 mg folic acid daily and have had 2 successful pregnancies since. I just wanted to offer you some hope and let you know I will be praying for you.

• 11-05-2009 10:58 AM

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  Amber05 Joined on 05-13-2004 South Dakota, Lorena-4, Everett-3, 3 Angel Babies Posts 470	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact Thanks!!! All the positive stuff really helps.

• 11-05-2009 3:12 PM

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  YeeHawGamMaw9 Joined on 11-01-2004 Kansas Posts 1,943	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact Huuuuuuuuuuuuuge hug and praying 4 a miracle!!!

• 11-07-2009 2:45 PM

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  DScully92 Joined on 02-08-2006 Posts 806	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact Oh no :(  I was hoping that everything was going to be awesome.    What exactly is MTHFR?  Hopefully everything will clear out naturally and you can try when your ready and healed.  *hugs*

• 11-07-2009 6:19 PM

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  Shan1021 Joined on 09-30-2008 N.Y Posts 3,064	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact  amber i am soo sorry, i pray for you everyday. this just isn't fair to you at all and i am so sorry you have to go through this. i hope so soon you can have a pregnancy that leads to a beautiful, heathy baby in your arms because that is what you deserve. we are always here for you! ::hugs::

• 11-08-2009 2:59 PM

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  Amber05 Joined on 05-13-2004 South Dakota, Lorena-4, Everett-3, 3 Angel Babies Posts 470

  Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact Thanks everyone. MTHFR is a gene mutation. My body isn't absorbing/using folic acid like it's supposed to. There's a lot of controversy whether this is what causes some m/c. I've been reading up on it. I will take extra folic acid (total of 5mg) each day. I will also be taking extra B6 and B12 vitamins. Often with MTHFR, there is a vit B deficiency as well. Some women with MTHFR have to take BA and/or heparin during pregnancy as the mutation can also cause clotting issues. I go back to the dr in a couple weeks to be sure everything is expelled. At that time, I will be asking many more questions and inquire about getting in with a MFM/Perinatologist if/when we get pg again. Again, thanks ladies for all the support. I really feel more at peace this time. I think it's because we have a possible answer. Love you all. Give those babies lots of lovin!

• 11-08-2009 3:03 PM

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  DScully92 Joined on 02-08-2006 Posts 806	Re: Update on me :( Reply Contact I have a vitamin b-12 deficiency (it's linked to my anemia).  So during my pregnancies i have to take extra iron and I go get b-12 shots once a week.  B-12 shots are covered by most insurances.  Good luck!