Should we Wed?

• 02-16-2008 12:05 PM

  Tashena2662614 Joined on 02-06-2008 Posts 7	Should we Wed? Reply Contact So I am about 15 weeks along and thinking if we should be married so the baby is not born out of wedlock? We've talked about it but I'm not sure if I am ready. He's been married before...so I want to be sure (if that is possible) that we will stay married.

• 02-23-2008 2:25 PM

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  mommy2-2boys Joined on 01-29-2008 Posts 137

  Re: Should we Wed? Reply Contact in my honest opnion if you are unsure than i think you shouls wait!  i have a 20 month old and am pregnant with number 2 but we are not married, we ahve been together for 3 years, we want to get married but  laso want to enjoy our wedding and honeymoon, so we will wait a little longer. in todays society it isnt as big a deal.. if you both love each other and know you love each other, what difference does a piece of paper make?

• 03-12-2008 7:56 PM

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  Sarah2005028 Joined on 03-11-2008 Posts 2

  Re: Should we Wed? Reply Contact Nikki...How do you do it? I'm in a similair situation. Been together 2 years have a 6 month old and thinking of number 2....I just have always wanted to be married to him and he use to not wanna get married til he met me and realized how much t meant to me. But now he says it will happen soon and he wants to wait to have a nice wedding and ring for me...But i hate waiting...i feel like why should we have baby number 2 when he cant even marry me! How are u patient enough to wait?

• 03-22-2008 4:24 AM

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  welovescott4ever Joined on 09-13-2004 IN Posts 3,767

  Re: Should we Wed? Reply Contact nikkis new baby: in my honest opnion if you are unsure than i think you shouls wait!  i have a 20 month old and am pregnant with number 2 but we are not married, we ahve been together for 3 years, we want to get married but  laso want to enjoy our wedding and honeymoon, so we will wait a little longer. in todays society it isnt as big a deal.. if you both love each other and know you love each other, what difference does a piece of paper make?   That piece of paper makes a lot of differences for things like insurances, if something happened to you or your SO then neither of you are entitled to anything including social security.  The child would recieve survivor benefits but the parent may not(and if you were able to get them it is a lot of work to get without being married 9 months prior to the death I know because it took me 2 1/2 yrs to get caretaker benefits since DH and I weren't married 9 months when he died), it makes a difference if you try to buy a house together.  There are a lot of things that "a piece of paper" matters for.  I defitnly think you should be sure it's love and not just because of a child but IMO if you love them enough to screw and have a kid w/ then you should love them enough to marry.  Again IMO

• 04-14-2008 7:10 PM

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  MaevesMomma Joined on 02-06-2005 Iowa Posts 11,179	Re: Should we Wed? Reply Contact If your unsure, don't do it. You'll just end up regretting it later. No one should ever get married just because their pregnant.