Hi there, i am hoping posts are read frequently and some of you mums might be able to give me a few tips, advice and support. I feel so mixed up right now, when i joined this sight i had just found out i was pregnant, me and gary were over the moon, i had 2 kids but this was gary's first, unfortunately i miscarried and had to have a d and c to take everything away :-( a few months later my oldest daughter who i hadnt seen in 2 years called me and told me she was pregnant and wanted my support, being a mum i was there for her, first scan etc, she gave birth prematurely at 28 weeks, to dylan, aww he is my amazing grandson who'm i adore like nothing on earth, its different from being a mum, however due to dylans vulnerability and certain difficulties my daughter has, cerebral pulsy, and behaviour and learning needs, i was asked by social services if i could take dylan and be his main carer when he was ready to come home, i said yes and he came home on the 7th of january this y ear, he is a great baby and me and gary love him tons, this hasnt come without it's problems, one being my daughter is supposed to visit and do some of dylans care which she doesnt, i have since been given residency and parental rights over dylan, which is good yet difficult too.
The bond between gary, dylan and I is so strong and we have admitted we love him like our own"phew" is this natural, should i feel this way over my grandson, the social worker said it will be natural to be over protective with dylan and i want to do my best by him and give him a stable and loving upbringing, he visits his other granma and grandad regularly, will this confuse him, have any other mums experienced any of this, i know granma's looking after their grand children is not uncommon.
Also please, please give me tips on how to settle him when he screams angrilly every single day at between 6pm and 9pm, he is sleeping all night which is great but at that time every day he screams so much and i try the things i can think of, changing him, bathing him, fedding, rocking him, hugs and calmly talking to him, lying him on his tummy and stroking his back, the health visitor thaught "teething" so he gets calpol just incase, he has lactulose for when he has an upset tummy and hasnt poo'd for 2 days "sigh" i just dont know what else to do and tonight i ended up crying too because i felt so helpless, exhausted, that i wasnt being a good enough grandma, i dont know, he is 6mths now but they take off the 12 weeks he was premature by which in medical terms means he is only coming upto 4mths, he is brilliant all day it is just that time of night when we think he gets tired and fights it until he exhausts himself and falls asleep, i worry what effect this will have on him and i feel so frustrated, gee'z i hope someone can decipher all this and help me out, to top it all i am getting married to gary in 5 weeks and i am so nervous, happy but nervous, i hope to hear from someone, pleeeeease xxx