Can Daddy's get Post partum Depression

• 08-05-2008 1:57 PM

  SDelangel Joined on 09-11-2007 Posts 6

  Can Daddy's get Post partum Depression Reply Contact I've been married for 1 yr. My husband and I have been together for three. WE have a three month old and we have had a lot of intimacy problems. Ok, that's not all of our problems, but that is a big issue for me. Since I was pregnant, my hormones went crazy, all I wanted to do was have sex, but he was never interested. Sometimes he would fo it to please me, but he was never happy about it. 6 weeks after the baby, I wanted to have sex again, but he still remained un-interested. Sex in a marriage is very important to me, and I feel that if he is not interested anymore, I will go crazy. I will definetly want to end my marriage. I have talked to him about it, but he gets angry and immediately changes the subject. I know he is a sexual being because I've caught him masterbating in the shower. Why wont he make love to me? I've tried a lot of things to woo him to me, but nothing works. Ok, it's worked a few times, but it felt like he was trying really hard. I even caught him looking at me in disgust. I know I had a baby and all, but I am not disgusting. Help!! He's also said that he does not have the drive to do it! He says it's too much work. It's easier to masterbate. Am I going crazy because I think this is wrong?

• 08-05-2008 10:14 PM

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  BlessedOne Joined on 08-04-2008 California Posts 3

  Re: Can Daddy's get Post partum Depression Reply Contact Wowzers...i feel bad for you because feeling unwanted can REALLY hurt. I cannot even say what i think is wrong with him...especially if you catch him masterbating...what you need to do is ask him, if you already have not, if he wants to be in a relationship with you. If he says he does, then maybe yall need a sex counselor..maybe they will find out whats wrong with his sex drive. Keep me posted on your situation...IF i think of something I will let you know.

• 08-17-2008 7:27 PM

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  Cookiethief2 Joined on 12-18-2006 #1 5/17/06 #2 6/11/07 Posts 6,944

  Re: Can Daddy's get Post partum Depression Reply Contact Daddy's can get post partum depression.  You may want to sit down with him and talk to him.  Let him know that he can't hurt your body.  Get on some birth control so he can feel like he won't get your pregnant again either.  Also, let him know how important sex in a relationship is to you.  My husband used to say no to sex when I asked because he felt like I was asking just for his pleasure.  He knew I was tired, so he thought I just wanted to please him, to keep him happy, when in reality I wanted it!  He may want you, but may be too afraid that you're too tired.  Spend some time with him without the baby.  Even if the baby fusses, don't immediately jump up.  Show him that he is important to you as well.  Sometimes men feel less important because your "life" is all about the baby now and less about them.  Treat him like a 2 year old and you'll have a happy guy!! lol  I swear...mean are toddlers in adult bodies, show them love and attention and they are perfectly happy.

• 10-15-2008 10:47 PM

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  Felixia3084813 Joined on 10-15-2008 Posts 3

  Re: Can Daddy's get Post partum Depression Reply Contact I feel both sad and glad to find someone experiencing the same thing that I am. It's been a solid four months since the deed. He has given me the same excuse of being not in mood or tired. I haven't caught him masturbating but come on.. i'.m not retarded. His sex drive started to go downhill during my pregnancy and i had hoped that it would return to normal after the baby came. He believes that he is depressed and has seen a counselor. No magic little pill. THey spent the whole day talking about god knows what. He told me that he is unhappy and that I make him that way some times. I think he wants to get away from me and that is why he is distancing himself. I tell him that I can't take the non physical relationship but when i ask him about it he gets mad and says he doesn't know what is wrong with him. good luck. I told him that if our marriage was to work we had to get marriage counseling. The world isn't prefect but this madness isn't survivable for the rest of my life. Hang in there and see if he is willing to try. Tell him it could be your last chance.