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why am i the only one who understands this big responsibility!!??

Last post 10-25-2008 10:09 PM by Lovin' my Kids. 2 replies.
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  • 10-23-2008 12:28 PM

    why am i the only one who understands this big responsibility!!??

    hi.. im only nineteen and my boyfriend is twenty.. and yes im pregnant. im just really frusturated because he sleeps all day. he has yet to get a job. he barely says a word about the fact that we are having a baby. i just feel like hes not mature enough for this.. im scared. other than his lack of motivation he is perfect i love him and he is the one person i really can trust which isnt easy for me ive been through alot... what do i do???????????
  • 10-25-2008 9:11 PM In reply to

    Re: why am i the only one who understands this big responsibility!!??

    I'm sorry love but with or without him you have to step up and get ready for your little one. He might come around after he holds his baby or it might take longer. Men respond differently than women do. sleeping a lot is a sign of depression. maybe this how he is dealing with this. sit down and talk to him and tell him nicely that it is the wrong way to deal and that u need him on ur team. let him know he isn't alone, that ur life is spiraling into a big change too and that you guys have fun times to look forward to. Whatever happens you sound like a tough cookie, as soon as u see ur baby u'll know that there isn't a mountain u can't move for him or her. it takes work but good results.
  • 10-25-2008 10:09 PM In reply to

    Re: why am i the only one who understands this big responsibility!!??

    Heather2649743:
    hi.. im only nineteen and my boyfriend is twenty.. and yes im pregnant. im just really frusturated because he sleeps all day. he has yet to get a job. he barely says a word about the fact that we are having a baby. i just feel like hes not mature enough for this.. im scared. other than his lack of motivation he is perfect i love him and he is the one person i really can trust which isnt easy for me ive been through alot... what do i do???????????

     

    I have to laugh at that statement.  So other then the fact that he sleeps all day, doesn't get his butt up off the damn sofa and get a job, isn't/can't or won't provide for you and your coming child.  Doesn't seem to care whether or not you are eating or how the bills are getting paid... he must be perfect... you love him... he is the only one you trust... what exactly do you trust him with... do you trust him to provide for you and your child ... apparently not since he is sleeping all day and lacks motivation... do you trust him to keep a roof over your head and food on your table... apparently not since he is sleeping all day and lacks motivation... do you trust him to take care of you and your child like a man should... apparently not since he is sleeping all day and lacks motivation. 

     

    And apparently you are more then aware of this since you are posting how frustrated you are.  What you do is you go home to your parents, ask them for help, you get a job, you get on WIC, you apply for medical coverage... you go to your OB/GYN, and start planning for your child that will be here very soon.  If your baby's daddy gets a job and starts helping out and wants to work things out with you all the better...

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