please help!

• 11-21-2008 11:41 AM

  aida2584862 Joined on 01-03-2008 Posts 2

  please help! Reply Contact i have been with my husband on and off since i was 15 i am now 26 . we have 2 sons one is 3 and the 2nd is 3 months old.but our intimate life is not doing too good right now well actually it hasn't been in a while . we don't really talk to each other anymore and we sleep together in the same bed but he is on one side and i am on the other the only time he gets close to me is when he wants sex.i still love him very much but i have been thinking lately on cheating on him i really don't want to but i need some affection too. i need someone to care about me! i have tried to tell him but i don't seem to get anywhere what should i so?

• 11-25-2008 2:54 PM

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  PixieFairy1981 Joined on 11-20-2008 Utah Posts 3

  Re: please help! Reply Contact First of all, cheating is never the answer. If you want affection from someone else, you need to divorce first. Cheating will only make things worse and end up leading to horrible things with your children. Do you show him affection? When he wants sex, do you want it too? Have you tried to move close to him and just show him that you want to be close? If so, how does he react? If you have talked to him about this and he doesn't react, you may want to see about either marriage counseling, or threatening to leave him. I think some guys don't feel that women are being serious until something actually happens. I hope this helps!

• 12-03-2008 5:49 AM

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  zacsmum Joined on 09-12-2007 Australia Posts 21

  Re: please help! Reply Contact welcome to married life lol! Try taking to him about sex, what u like, what does he like, fantasy's...Tell him when he holds u in a way u like how much u like it. Ask him what type of affection u give him dose he like? Start taking about sex. Watch porn together@! I never thought i would say that! But things do get stale and its good to get some ideas for u to both try and have fun with... Surprise him, get someone to mind the kids for the night and make a romantic dinner, dress up (formal or in sexy underwear), light candles - when was the last time the two of u had a date together? I agree with PP don't cheat. Talk, counselling, if that fails then move on. Good luck