Am I over-reacting?

• 10-16-2008 10:12 PM

  Liset2575951 Joined on 10-17-2008 Posts 1

  Am I over-reacting? Reply Contact Have a new baby (10 weeks). My Fiance and I met on a dating site and have been madly in love since! However lately I have been seeing on the computers history some porn web sites. Our sexual realationship is pretty healthy and have not seen a change before or after the baby. By knowing that he is looking at porn by himself I feel like i am not satifying him. Should I confront him? or am I over-reacting?

• 10-17-2008 8:18 AM

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  Malinda Dixon2228753 Joined on 11-20-2007 Posts 1	Re: Am I over-reacting? Reply Contact You should always have open lines of communication. Let him know why you think its a big deal and tell him how it makes you feel. Always ask before assuming...

• 10-17-2008 10:14 AM

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  Williams-Jones_Freda Joined on 03-09-2004 Sunflower, Mississippi Posts 113

  Re: Am I over-reacting? Reply Contact   Maybe you should suggest watching porn together.....I watch porn a lot...My husband watched it with me if I ask him to..He knows that I watch pron without him because I tell him....While you all are watching porn together...be open and tell him what you like about it and ask him what does he like about porn....It may not be that he isn't satisfied...Maybe he wants more than what he is getting. It depends...There are some many different reasons why a person like porn......Don't be afraid to ask ....try to be open in your intimate relationship with him...Watch it with him....and slip in the conversation of what you like about it...It may make him comfortable enough to talk about what he likes.......

• 10-28-2008 1:57 AM

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  Heather2649743 Joined on 10-23-2008 Posts 7

  Re: Am I over-reacting? Reply Contact watching porn is a natural thing for men and for women most women just arent as open about it... you cant tell me your mind has never wondered or youve never had thoughts about things hes never done before.. hes not cheating, men are more visual than women! maybe try asking him what he wants in bed... that doesnt mean lose all sight of your own morals.. keep with in reason

• 10-30-2008 2:26 PM

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  Cookiethief2 Joined on 12-18-2006 #1 5/17/06 #2 6/11/07 Posts 6,939

  Re: Am I over-reacting? Reply Contact hehe I know how you feel!  Dh and I have had many fights over this.  We have 2 kids together and when I'm pregnant/just had a child, porn is viewed alot more often.  When I started asking him questions about it, "do you like that?" "what do you like?"  "would you like to try that?"  He stopped watching so often.  Apparently it was more of a "omg, I'm gonna get caught" feeling that he liked. :P  He'll still throw up a page once in a while when he knows I'm around....if I see it, he'll turn it off and laugh about it.  I just give him a hard time about it and he stops it.  It's alot better now than it used to be. btw, my husband and I also met on a dating site. :P