First off you need to contact her...she should know what kind of man he is because although she may think it catty. No woman deserves to be treated the way you both are. Secondly you need to get yourself set up for being a single parent...he may be the biological father but I doubt if he's going to be 'consistent'. Get a blood test when the baby is born and start him paying for his baby. Love or not that baby needs to be taken care of. And the next and most important thing...you need to get some self respect. Seriously. You know he's an ass, you know he's sleeping with someone else, you know he's got another baby and yet you don't know what to do next? You "LOVE" him?? You don't know what love is. Sorry but it's true, 'cause love is not a one way street...you just like being abused.