Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous

• 08-25-2008 9:09 PM

  Lorii Joined on 08-26-2008 Posts 2

  Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact Hi Everyone, My name is Lori and today I took a pregnancy test and it instantly came up positive. My LMP was 7/15. I am 43 years old and very nervous. I have three children ages 10, almost 7, and almost 4. When I was 41 years old, I tried for nearly a year to have a baby without any success. I accepted the fact that my child bearing days were behind me. My husband and I used birth control just in case. It has been a year since I "tried". I am shocked that I am pregnant now. I did not think that it was possible to conceive a baby just a day after my montlhy cycle ended. My husband is convinced that when the stress of trying is gone, a baby will come. A year ago I would have been jumping for joy. Today I feel very uncertain and ready to cry. I am afraid of birth defects and the health of this child. I am afraid now to do this all again. I love having children. I am just afraid and I cannot even really say what I am feeling. My husband is very happy, but has mixed feelings too. He is 41 years old and a wonderful father. I am scared to death of the actual birth. I know that it is just one day of my life, but I am a wreck. I had natural childbirth with my first because it was too late to give me any epidural. My second one, the epidural worked like a charm and it was wonderful! With my third the epidural wore off and I felt everything. It was even worse thatn the first. I am scared of this again even though I know that there is a great prize at the end. I guess I am looking for a few words of encouragement. If you have been there or are where I am now, I would love to hear from you.

• 08-25-2008 11:47 PM

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  rosiebird Joined on 01-02-2006 Posts 66

  Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact Hey! I hear you. I am 45. Have a 9-yr old, 6 yr-old and 3 yr-old. We tried to get pregnant last fall and I had an ectopic. My husband said he was done like dinner after watching that happen. So I was just trying to get healthy and balanced and deal with perimenopause... and now I am pregnant. I am really excited. Very nervous. I am 12+ wks and it has taken my husband until now to real feel the joy. I definitely have those "OMG what am I doing?" moments. You can do early prenatal diagnostic testing to help put your mind at ease (or prepare you for something else). I had CVS done last week and now am nervously awaiting the results. I wish you the very best.

• 08-26-2008 6:51 AM

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  kt1967 Joined on 07-07-2008 Posts 67

  Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact Lori-You are not alone. I am 41 and 26 weeks pregnant with our 1st. We tried and tried and eventually turned to fertility treatments. However, as much as I want this baby, I am scared to death. So far I had bleeding at 5 weeks (luckily implantation bleeding), a false positive on the alpha fetal protein test and now I am taking insulin because I have developed gestational diabetes. It seems like every time I get a chance to breathe and relax, something else comes along. However, in my heart, everytime I feel a kick or a jump (our LB has been watching way too much of the Olympics!), I smile and get a little teary because this was something I thought I would never be able to experience. So, I guess what I am saying is that everything will be okay, this pregnancy happened for a reason at this time and come spring, teh prize will be in your arms.

• 09-18-2008 8:16 AM

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  Karen2652458 Joined on 02-02-2008 Posts 61

  Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact Hi Lori, I haven't had much time to check out these boards lately.....but I wanted to share my experience with you.......I am currently 43 and just had a perfectly healthy baby boy, who is now a month old. I was shocked too when I realized I was pregnant.....my other two children are 11 and 13. My pregnancy was medically uneventful, however, the usual aches and pains of pregnancy seemed much more difficult. I too, was terrified about delivery, but have to say that it wasn't too bad, although I did have an eipdural...(just my personal choice-no judgement or recommendations). I was very concerned throughout my pregnancy about complications/ birth defects, but opted to not have any "extra testing" because all my bloodwork and 20 week level 2 ultrasound came out ok......I just wanted to give you hope and encouragement that it all can turn out great.....and you are absolutely right, the prize at the end is unbelievable........and I am enjoying every minute of my "miracle baby".....I wish you the very best...and an uneventful pregnancy, and delivery............~Karen~

• 10-15-2008 12:44 PM

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  lisa3067474 Joined on 10-15-2008 walsall Posts 1

  Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact hello lori my names lisa im 41 and 5 months pregnant im the same as you at the mo im very scared got my second scan on the 24th oct bit scared bout it just want everthing 2 b ok ive just had a blood test at the docs just got 2 wait 4 the results waiting game at mo they said between 7 and 10 days dnt like waiting seems like 4 ever just want 2 say that i no how u r feeling and i wish u all the best lisa xxx

• 11-07-2008 1:47 PM

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  Renea3100895 Joined on 11-07-2008 Posts 1

  Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact Hello Everybody, my name is Renea and I am just turning 40 yrs. old Oct 29th. I have a very long and unanswered life! I have 5 children , my Boys age range from 23,21,16 soon 17 on 29th December. My Girls are 19 soon 20 on Christmas and 18 (she is my special needs child). Now I thought when I agreed to have a Tubal after my now 16 yr old was born that would be that.They were supposed to have clipped and burned my tubes so that I am not able to conceive anymore. Well..... Here I am getting ready to turn 40 with 5 grandson and 1/2 granddaughters, feeling fine until one night I am throwing my guts up, not thinking anything about it this goes on for more than a month or so. So I decided to get a check up and a Tubal testing. So I goes in and they shoot this dye in my blood and do an ultrasound. The doctor gets done and says "So girly are ready for a baby" I say"WHAT" then she goes on to tell me that all this time I am very fertile and that I could have a baby whenever I got ready. So I discussed this with my husband and he got excited. So I got on the prenatals and started eating betteror should I say healthier. I took a test in early Oct and it said neg. But just a few days after my teat I started with the throwing up again. I learned what to do if I were pregnant and that worked.So now I have a pooch when I was as flat as a pancake before. I mean I wore belly-shirts, and cute little pant suites that fit to the skin and was mistaken for a teeny bopper when I went to Wal-Mart with my daughter and daughter-in-law (ha-ha-ha) But anyway now with my pooch I have an up coming appt. I have a very (crampy feeling that the tests won't be neg. this time.I have the attitude already, the sore breasts which I don't remember, and wee-weeing every 10 to 15 minutes whioh I knew were coming.I am very nervous because of the things that are happening around the world but more about not having done this in 17 years and now I'm like ......( a Teeny Bopper) so much to learn all over I hope it goes well,I would just like to say if there is anything that you girls hear of or found out that is going to happen, that I have so weirdly forgotten please feel free to share.Like I said earlier I have 5 older children and now with a just turned 3months on my B-Day grandson I do see the signs, my boys love me and girls(grand-daughter,nieces etc..) they don't want me to touch them anymore

• 11-30-2008 4:46 PM

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  Candi298 Joined on 11-30-2008 Wisconsin Posts 5

  Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact Well my Dear I have you beat and I refuse to worry about it. I have a laid back relaxed attitude that things will turn out the way they will, and I have faith that they will be just the way they are supposed to be. I am 48 years old and am expecting my third child in early February. There are 27 years between the last child and this one, and I was sterilized at that time, so I have been so sure that I could play and not have to pay for all this time. It was true I went 27 years without a pregnancy, and now, I have 9 weeks left though it will be much sooner than that. I also have been told that this is an abdominal ectopic so I am sitting on a time bomb, hoping that nothing ruptures and sends me rushing for an emergency Laparotomy. We just discovered the pregnancy, though I have felt that I was pregnant from the very beginning. The doctors did surgery on me in August because they said I had a polyp in my uterus and 2 fibroid tumors on the exterior of the uterus. Guess what it was a gestational yolk sac in my uterus and a baby on the exterior and they just admitted it, after months of pain and problems. I haven't had any tests to determine if there might be any defects or problems, and I don't plan to. I am riding on a wing and a prayer and am just hoping that the baby and I make it through alive. It sounds like my baby will be delivered on the 34-35 week mark as long as all continues to go well. I wish you all the very best and hope that you can find some peace and comfort, even though you cannot control the situation. Blessings and Love, Candi

• 11-30-2008 10:35 PM

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  karen3088706 Joined on 10-19-2008 Eagan, MN Posts 228	Re: Over 40, Pregnant and VERY Nervous Reply Contact WOW!  Reading all your stories is amazing... IM 39 and pregnant with waht I hope will be my first baby ~ maybe my only one!  Due June 21 now instead of 23!