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WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO??????

Last post 03-05-2009 11:24 AM by Rebekah79. 2 replies.
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  • 02-24-2009 9:16 PM

    WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO??????

    My name is Taylor and I am 38 weeks Pregnant. I think since I have been pregnant me and my husband have had sex MAYBE 12 Times. Sex for me isn't the same it doesn't feel good as a matter of fact it hurts. I've tried so many times to push the feelings aside but I just simply can't. All it does is cause conflicts between us and end in him telling me "Oh it doesn't matter anyway it's not like I get sex". I just wish he could feel like I feel. When I try to explain to him what's going on he simply tells me "Well I make sacrifices for you so you need to do the same". WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO??????????? I love my husband and I am so blessed that we are starting a family together. It's not like I'm not sexually attracted to him or anything. I'm just scared that the hurting I'm feeling can cause harm to not only me but to our daughter as well. IF THERE IS ANYBODY OUT THERE THAT CAN GIVE ME SOME ADVICE PLEASE DO I'M GOING RAZY HERE
  • 02-25-2009 7:30 AM In reply to

    Re: WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO??????

    I am so sorry Taylor, it can be frustraiting when your significant other just cant understand what is going on.  Maybe you two can come to a comprimise,  find other ways of pleasing one another without having to have innercourse, that way he cant say that you arnt trying, bottom line is though at 38 weeks it is going to be uncomfortable and if it isnt something you want to do them he needs to be understanding.  Cause once you have the baby your not supposed to have sex for six weeks and what is he going to do then?  Ask you to sacrifice because he does?  Men have this instinct for knowing how to play the game so to speak to get what they want.  My husband did it to me for a little while till I learned how to play back and now we only play like that for fun cause it can cause a rift but non the less no one should have to put up with it.  So when he tells you that he makes sacrifices for you tell him that you understand and you appreciate it, but when has he sacrificed his well being and that of his daughters for you and I am sure that you have made sacrfices for him and you just need to remind him of that as well.  Sometimes mens testosterone just gets the best of them and they just go nuts when it gets to that point with him, help him get some relief and you dont have to have sex with him to accomplish that.  Best of luck to you and crongrats on your daughter, you are almost done and will be holding your little one soon.

  • 03-05-2009 11:24 AM In reply to

    • Rebekah79
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    Re: WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO??????

    if intercourse is uncomfortable, have you considered other ways of being sexual with him? you can both manually or orraly help eachother out. I think taking sex away completely is difficult for the relationship, but there are obvious alternatives to intercourse. Hope that helps
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