IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES?

• 03-01-2009 3:15 PM

  stephanie3242458 Joined on 03-01-2009 WAUTOMA, WI Posts 2

  IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact I HAVE BEEN DATING MY BF FOR ABOUT 3.5 YEARS AND WE KNEW EACHOTHER FOR 4 YEARS BEFORE THAT. I AM 13 WEEKS PREGNANT WITH OUR FIRST BABY. WE ALREADY HAVE PLANS TO GET MARRIED THIS SUMMER.WE ARE BEST FRIENDS... BUT LATELY ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS GO TO THE BAR AND HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS. WE USED TO DO THAT STUFF TOGETHER BUT I CANT SIT IN A BAR FOR THE ENTIRE NIGHT, I DONT SMOKE AND I CANT DRINK ANYMORE. I HATE BEING BY DRUNKEN RETARDS WHEN IM NOT DRINKING. SO I STAY HOME AND HE GOES OUT AND HE IS GONE ALL NIGHT, SOMETIMES UNTIL THE MIDDLE OF THE NEXT MORNING. AND WHEN I CALL HIM AND ASK WHEN HE PLANS ON GETTING HOME HE SAYS "ILL BE HOME IN A LITTLE BIT" AND WHEN THAT LITTLE BIT TURNS INTO HOURS I GET SO MAD AND I START TO BAWL (WHICH I NEVER CRY) USUALLY THIS STUFF NEVER BOTHERS ME! HE WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON ME BUT THAT IS WHAT I FEEL LIKE . I KNOW HE LOVES ME. IT'S LIKE IM AN ATTENTION HOG. AND EVEN THOUGH HE SAYS HE ISN'T DOING ANYTHING WRONG,(AND I BELIEVE HIM) I CANT HEPL BUT THINK THAT HE IS.......WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? WHEN HE GETS HOME ALL IS FORGOTTEN AND THE WORLD IS A HAPPY PLACE AGAIN. UH WHAT THE HECK? PLEASE SAY ITS HORMONES CUZ IM DRIVING MYSELF CRAZY!!! I CANT EVEN SLEEP WHEN HE IS OUT AT NIGHT! I WAKE UP EVERY HALF AND HOUR. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK.

• 03-05-2009 11:43 AM

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  Rebekah79 Joined on 03-05-2009 Wisconsin Posts 459

  Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact Hi... I am in wi too btw. Anyways... I don't think its the hormones.. its that you are growing up and taking responsibility and the new life you two have together has not hit him yet. I personally don't think he should be out partying without you all the time.. . I can understand a once in a while guys night.. but at the club is out of the question. I would ask him how serious he is about a lifelong commitment with you. And ask him if he is attempting to "live it up" before the baby and responsibilities come.

• 03-06-2009 10:32 AM

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  kcpicard Joined on 03-04-2009 Idaho Posts 117

  Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact I did that too when I was preggo with my first. It's hard but you really need to talk to him about it, it's not right that you have all these extra responsibilities and he gets to have no change to his life. I told my dh that he can grab some beers and have a few at home with me, if he cares about you he should understand your feelings. I think him going out once in awhile should be fine but if it's all the time I would be upset too. Hope things get better for you honey!

• 03-10-2009 11:49 AM

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  Shan2006 Joined on 03-02-2006 Ohio Posts 238	Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact I would tell him that if I can't do it then he can't either. It is his child too. Why should you have to make all the sacrifices? There is no reason why he should be out all night any ways. It is totally disrespectful of him to run around all night while your home alone.

• 04-02-2009 12:23 PM

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  rice4660 Joined on 03-17-2009 Posts 10

  Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact My husband is doing something simular. He doesnt drink but he stays out almost every night with his friends. I thought about this for a while and realized he is probably just a little freaked about having a baby. As the one carrying the baby we feel a connection everyday and we have an easier time adjusting. Give him some time. Try not to overwhelm him with baby talk. Maybe go out with just him and have a date without any baby talk unless he brings it up. Do worry he will adjust and become a great father and husband. Good luck!

• 04-09-2009 7:34 AM

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  Ctink8189 Joined on 09-03-2008 La Marque, TX Posts 970

  Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact Hi there. I don't think this is hormones at all! It isn't fair for you to have to give up certain things that you like doing and for him to still be out doing them ALL OF THE TIME. As hard as this is for guys, he needs to learn to be more sensitive to the fact that you can't do these things anymore. Making him stop completely would be a little too dramatic for him at first, but he should definately cut down on it. Good luck, I hope you two can talk this thing out and come to an understanding!

• 05-25-2009 10:14 PM

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  teresa3348325 Joined on 04-08-2009 Posts 14

  Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact guys freak when they get a girl pregnant and I think all of us girls have had to deal with this problem, yes it is somewhat your hormones, but mostly you're jealous that he has a way out while you have to think all day and every day about this baby without being able to get away from it like he does. This is the not fair part and it pisses you off. dont feel bad.....its totally okay to feel this way and later after the baby is born you two will laugh about how "crazy" you were and all will be good again. If you try to cut him off though you could make things worst instead keep him busy with plans for the two of you like movie nights and dinner and this way it looks like you are wanting to spend time with him not telling him he cant go out. He will only resent you if you try to tell him what to do trust me.............. i spent many nights crying over my dumb husband doing the same thing and the only way i got through it was patience. it will be okay it just sux right now. good luck lady :)

• 07-06-2009 2:20 PM

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  ShaTerra 1690568 Joined on 09-11-2006 Fairborn, OH Posts 261

  Re: IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT HORMONES? Reply Contact I am going thru that now. My fiance still wants to party and think he's gonna be the same after the baby comes as he is now and it pisses me off. He's calmed down somewhat now cuz I brought it to his attention that its a problem and that it needs to stop or slow down ALOT. Its normal to feel that way. But you shouldnt have to sit home and be barefoot and pregnant. This aint the 1700s when women would just do their motherly duties and not say anything about it. Speak up. Its really frustrating that they also blame everything on your hormones and tunes you out instead of dealing with the problems. MAKE him listen. Tell him you didnt get pregnant by yourself. If he really loves you and cares for you, he'll slow down on the going out. Sometimes it takes your belly growing and feeling the baby move themselves for them to realize the reality of a baby coming into your life. But its no excuse and you shouldnt just let it go when he gets home cuz you're happy again. If you never deal with it and let it be known that its a real problem/concern for you, then he'll keep doing it and will never change. And that is not something that you want to go on even after the baby is born.