Newly separated and pg w/ #4

• 06-01-2009 6:44 PM

  ~HappyCamper~ Joined on 01-09-2006 Missouri Posts 103

  Newly separated and pg w/ #4 Reply Contact I found out a week and a half ago that I'm pg with #4. Not long before my husband and I separated and will be divorcing when we are able to. I'm finally accepting this and becoming more and more okay with it, but it is still a shock and I can't believe I'm in this situation. A few months ago I had 3 kids and a marriage (sort of) and now I'm single going on 4 kids. Just thought I'd share my story. It doesn't look like this board is very active, but I'll keep checking back to see if it picks up a little. I'd like to know if anyone else has gone through this or is going through something similar.

• 06-22-2009 2:39 PM

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  Preggowith4th Joined on 06-22-2009 Posts 2	Re: Newly separated and pg w/ #4 Reply Contact Hi, I am not in this situation, but I felt really bad that no one posted anything to support you. I hope you are doing well and figuring out what you are going to do. I know that life seems hard now, but do the best you can for yourself and your family. {{HUGS}}

• 06-25-2009 11:34 AM

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  ~Manda'sTribe~ Joined on 06-25-2009 Posts 43

  Re: Newly separated and pg w/ #4 Reply Contact Hi. I'm not exactly in your situation, but kind of. I separated from my husband a little over a year ago (still not divorced). We have 2 bio children + 1 adopted daughter together. I found out two weeks ago that I am also pg with #4. However, it is my bf's, not my ex's...obviously. It was definately unexpected, as I've had a 5-year i.u.d in for almost a year, that apparently fell out on its own w/o me knowing. So, I can somewhat relate to your situation and stress. My bf also has 2 of his own, so this will make 6 for us all together! I just look at it as another adventure in the game of life. :) Not much we can do about it now except prepare. Anyway, I'm here if you want to chat! Amanda

• 06-25-2009 9:30 PM

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  Elizabeth3446738 Joined on 06-26-2009 Posts 6

  Re: Newly separated and pg w/ #4 Reply Contact I'm kind of in the same situation. My husband and I have been having problems for quite some time but I tried sticking it out because of the 3 kids we have. My oldest is 5 1/2 then 3 1/2 and my youngest turned 2 in April. However I had enough when he called me a *** in front of our oldest so i found a new place to live and moved out Feb. 1st. I felt so much better and happier. I thought I was going to get a fresh start and be able to concentrate on my children more. Up until I moved out I worked 85 hours a week while he sat home with the kids all day. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying that staying home with 3 small children is an easy job but he didn't do ANYTHING around the house. No supper, no laundry, no dishes, no cleaning, absolutely NOTHING. I know this is going to make me sound like a bad person but whatever. I started talking to this guy at work about 3 years ago. We had so much in commom. Both of our spouses didn't know how to work. He's older than I am so at first it was nothing more than friendship and a person that could COMPLETELY understand what I was going through at home....of course it never stays that innocent so I guess you could technically say him and I have been dating for about 3 years. Obviously not officially but there is definately something there. Everyone at work can see it to. Anyway, March 30th I found out I was pregnant. I also had an I.U.D. in place....that didn't fall out. It was definately a really big shock. And I feel bad cause I'm trying to be excited but it's really hard. I'm scared out of my mind. I don't know if I can do this on my own. If you ever want to talk you can message me anytime. Good luck and I hope things are going good for you. ~Elizabeth~

• 07-07-2009 9:59 PM

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  ~HappyCamper~ Joined on 01-09-2006 Missouri Posts 103

  Re: Newly separated and pg w/ #4 Reply Contact  Thank you guys!  Elizabeth, I know what you mean...my husband stayed home with our 3 kids when the youngest was a newborn and he did NOTHING also.  The house was a wreck every night when I came home and then I had to cook dinner, clean up, do laundry, bathe the kids and put them to bed.  It was miserable.  Thank God he finally went back to work.  Things never got much better after that (and weren't a whole lot better before, either).  At any rate, I know I'm going to be okay, I've finally told my family and friends, all are supportive, I'm still overwhelmed but dealing with it a day at a time.    Thank you again for your kind words.  Hope everyone is doing well!