I'm pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want/like babies... How do I tell him?

• 06-15-2009 3:19 PM

  bluyndrdrms Joined on 06-15-2009 Posts 1

  I'm pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want/like babies... How do I tell him? Reply Contact Hello, I took two digital pregnancy tests today and they are both positive. I've been taking oral contraceptives for over three years and have never had any problems. I don't miss pills or take them late in the day or anything, so I am completely floored right now. My last period was a few days early, and was very very light, so I'm thinking it's been 1-2 months... Have some questions about that too, but I'll get there in a minute. My main concern right now is how the heck to break it to my BF. We've been together for a year and a half, lived together for a year, and are completely in love. But he always talks about how much he doesn't like babies (loves older kids though). Our best friends just had their second baby about a month ago and he calls her 'it', refuses to hold her or touch her or anything. He gets on fantastically with their 9 year old daughter, and every other walking+ child I've ever seen him around, though... I am really scared about his reaction... we don't have a lot of money right now and I've lost my health insurance because so many hours have been cut at work due to the economy lately. We both still like to go out and have a good time, him more than me (he's 27, I'm 24). I highly doubt he'll run off or anything, but I'm afraid he's going to react badly, be angry, etc. I'm going to the doctor on Thursday to get the blood test and everything, so I'm thinking I will wait until then, just in case of a huge releiving fluke with the OTC tests... (I'm crossing my fingers here!) My other concern is how the contraceptives have been affecting the baby if I really (probably) am pregnant... If it's been almost two months, that is an awfully long time to still be taking all those hormones... Please please please reply with any and all advice you can give me! Angela

• 06-15-2009 3:39 PM

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  Jessica3428071 Joined on 06-10-2009 Posts 27

  Re: I'm pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want/like babies... How do I tell him? Reply Contact Hi Angela, sorry to hear you are having a difficult time with this right now. I hope that when you do tell your BF he warms up to the idea. I think you have the perfect time to tell him with Father's Day being Sunday:) Maybe get him a balloon that says Happy Father's Day:) As for the Birth Control pills I would ask your Dr about that and you might be able to find some info on the internet, although that is not always the best source. I really hope things turn out well for you!

• 06-16-2009 10:46 AM

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  Jessica1613261 Joined on 08-07-2006 Pennsylvania Posts 53

  Re: I'm pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want/like babies... How do I tell him? Reply Contact Hi Angela, I was with my EX when I found out I was preggo with my first and he was not a baby person AT ALL. I just went to the dr with a friend of mine and when we got back I just blurted it out, and told him that I was 4 months at that! He was not happy about it at all and flipped out when I told him, although after a day he got over it and when the baby got here, he fell in love with her. So I would not worry too much about his reaction, it is how he reacts when he meets the baby that will determine what kind of a father he will be. I am sure it will all work out in the end! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you! I was on the pill when I conceived my oldest and did not find out for 4 months (I was taking the pill the whole time). Apparently when I was on some antibiotics they counteracted my pill and I ended up preggo. My oldest is perfectly healthy and is 11 years old now, and smart as a whip. I would just talk to the dr when you go in, that is what I did and they will do any tests you would like or that they would have and you will feel more comfortable when you get the results. Plus at your ultrasound you will feel more confident about the baby being healthy when you see him/her. Just relax and talk to your doctor, all will be well, I am sure. I am preggo with #3 now due in November, so if you ever want to talk I am around. Love and Mommy Hugs, ~Jes

• 06-18-2009 4:07 AM

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  Chere123 Joined on 06-01-2009 Soth Africa Posts 79

  Re: I'm pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want/like babies... How do I tell him? Reply Contact Hi. My fiancé isnt a baby person either, handles any child that can walk with no issue at all, but when it comes to babies he doesnt want to come near them. When my period was late i told him and i had been on my pill for 5 years, so what a suprise when two lines appear. I am not going to lie, the first day he was so dispondent and didnt talk to me or touch me (and that hurt) but he has warmed up to the idea, we had an extra shock ofter out first OB visit when we find out we are expecting 2 instead of one and that threw him off again, but now he is coping with it better than i am. Just let him vent, and get upset and say all those nasty thoughts that are going to cross his mind, if he doesnt get it off and out it can make him bitter, if he talks about his feelings (encourage it) he should fall in love with your baby just like mine did =)