Feeling let down

• 07-21-2009 5:08 AM

  Yana3406040 Joined on 06-18-2009 Posts 8

  Feeling let down Reply Contact I am a mother of four and found out I was pregnant after being in a situation that is too long to even begin to explain. In that situation I had a couple express to me that they wanted a baby. When I found out I was pregnant I immediately went to that couple and told them. I thought I was pregnant. When it was a possibilty everything was peachy keen. There were promises of helping with the co pays for Dr visit, accompaniment to appointments, assistance with the clothes I would need for the pregnancy. Again as long as it was a possibility there were promises galore. Now I am 15 weeks in and reality set in. This possibilty is a serious reality and where are they now. I have been to 3 appointments, a sonogram, $200 worth of clothes, we all know maternity clothes are not cheap. There is no sign of all this help. No help with clothes, no help with copays, no help with visits and days missed from work. Not that I need this but one reason I did not want another baby is because I have 4 children andmy ex was not always there. I did not want to do this alone again. At this point I am all alone all over again. I now do not want a baby. I want to go to an adoption agency and find another family that is willing to take the baby and do what they promise to do. I feel guilty about even thinking of not giving them the baby but if I do not get support this early int he little things what will happen in the end when I really get further along and the bills pile up and the real time to take the baby comes into play. Will they let me down then as well?

• 07-29-2009 12:17 PM

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  KylaandDravens*mommy* Joined on 10-08-2002 Colorado Posts 33

  Re: Feeling let down Reply Contact Aww sweetie, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through that. I am just visiting this board myself, but I would say, if you haven't already done so, Talk to this couple if you can, ask them flat out if that's what they want or not. If they aren't sticking to their word, that's not good at all. And what does that say for the baby after it's born? Will they just let the baby down too? I think in all honesty, your best bet would be to go to an agency and find a different couple for your baby. Usually, people that go to an agency to find a baby do so because they REALLY want a baby, and some of them too have been let down by not getting babies that they were sure they were finally going to get. You'll have a much better chance at care for you aand the baby and financial support for your pregnancy if you go thru an agency.

• 07-29-2009 2:22 PM

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  Yana3406040 Joined on 06-18-2009 Posts 8	Re: Feeling let down Reply Contact Thanks so much....i have learned in life to always have a plan B.