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3rd child at 19

Last post 09-26-2009 1:36 PM by brittani2870156. 9 replies.
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  • 08-05-2009 9:06 PM

    3rd child at 19

    Im 19 years old and I thought my husband and I were done for a while because I was on the pill. I had my daughter at 16 yrs old when I was a senior in highschool I was excited and scared at the same time. My husband then joined the US Navy when my daughter was 8 mths old. We got married when I turned 18 and I got pregnant with my son who is 11 mths right now. I was on the pill right after I had my son because we wanted to be done maybe not forever but for awhile. I then didn't get my period and I thought that was crazy because I thought the pill suppose to work. Well now I'm 3 mths pregnant and Im confused because Im not excited the way I was with my daughter and son and I dont want to ac differnetly to this baby. I dont know if its the shock or what but Im scared it looks so bad me being 19 and going to have 3 kids. Im just confused and shocked.
  • 08-05-2009 9:42 PM In reply to

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    Hey. I know exactly how you feel. I am 27 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child and I only just turned 20 in June. It is definatly hard that is for sure. When I read my pregnancy test, I flipped. I was mad and I hoped for a miscarriage. But as soon as I got my ultrasound, I fell in love with my little baby. My husband was in shock too. But I think he was strong for me because he knew I didnt want to be pregnant again. Especially with us not having our own place. And its really not a bad thing. Let people think what they will, but as long as you love your kids, you are doing nothing wrong. Let people talk, let them think what they want, but you love your babies and let them keep talking. Because if you let everyone else thinks affect you, then its just going to drag you down. Obviously there is a reason you have been blessed with another baby. God has a specific plan for all of us. Just thank God for this little miracle, and when you see that ultrasound of your little bean, you will feel better. And if you dont, talk to your doctor and let them know that your scared and upset. I am sure your doctor will understand. And there is a bright side to having kids young, we are going to be young when they are out on their own :) If you want to email me, you can. I am at staciepierce23@yahoo.com just let me know your from this site so I dont delete ya! .
  • 08-06-2009 8:22 AM In reply to

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    I know Im not worried about what others have to say because I was pregnant in highschool and so many people talked about me but I could care less they were all just mad because they wanted my husband. But Im more scared about telling my parents. I know Im grown and living on my own but thats still the hardest part just like when I was in highschool. My parents aren't going to be mad but they are going to be worried especially about money because everyone thinks the military gets paid a ton of money but thats DEFINATELY not true we are living pay check to pay check. It makes ot harder because my mom is pregnant with an unexpected pregnancy she had cancer and they told her with the radiation she couldn't get pregnant so thats what they thought and to make it better its with twins. So I guess my paarents already have so much stress I feel bad telling them. Also to make matters worse Im nervous because in a couple months we are moving to Greece for 3 yrs so the plane ride, the new environment its going to be very stressful and scary. I just dont know what to do.
  • 08-10-2009 7:18 PM In reply to

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    I totally know how you feel. I am also 19 and pregnant with my 3rd. Me and my husband were so careful, we used condoms everytime! Never missed once, but some how I am pregnant again. The day before I took my test, I went to bed and just cried myself to sleep. I've gained a ton of weight with my previous pregnancies and every time i start to lose the weight, I end up pregnant again. Its depressing to be overweight and feel like its never going to end. I know how hard it is to life pay check to pay check because my husband is the only one working right now while I take care of the kids. We actually had to down grade from a house to an apartment. Like some one else said, there is a reason for this baby, and thats what has changed the way I feel about this baby. Now With some support for my hubby, we are excited and we know its not going to be easy, but it will be well worth it in the long run, thats what keeps me going.
  • 08-10-2009 8:19 PM In reply to

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    I totally agree with you like Im starting to get a little better about it Im just really worried. The thing is im not fat but Ive always been the skinny girl ever since I can think and it probably sounds selfish but I was actually right before I found out I was pregnant I was actually starting to like the way I looked and I felt like I had no worries. I am just so worried that I am going to gain alot of weight and not be able to lose it even tho so far I havent gained any at all.
  • 08-11-2009 12:01 PM In reply to

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    Re: 3rd child at 19

    Yeah I bet it is difficult to have 3 babies when your hubby hasn't been in the Navy very long. The higher he ranks, the easier it gets, but it can definitely be stressful. when DH was an E4, we were living paycheck to paycheck and it was just the 2 of us and our dog. Don't be too worried about the plane ride to Greece. You won't be too far along for it to be an issue. You will be in my prayers cuz I'm sure it won't be easy to tell your parents and cuz you'll be so far away when you have the baby. If you ever want any support from other Navy SO's you can check out http://sailorsbetterhalf.com/forum/index.php?act=idx
  • 08-27-2009 7:50 PM In reply to

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    Yeah. It is really hard for us right now too. We just recently drove from Phoenix, Az to Denver, Nc because we got evicted from our apartment because of my husband getting laid off of his job. It sucked. Plus breaking the move to my mom was hard cuz she doesnt get to see her other 2 granddaughters as it is. But God will take care of us. We are His children and if you have faith in Him, everything will work out just fine. I am sorry to hear you have to move so far away from your family. That is always really hard. I hope all works out for your mom, too. You are all in my prayers.
  • 09-23-2009 2:16 PM In reply to

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    Hi I'm 19 and pregnant with my second baby my daughter is only 11 months and I am scared my husband just passed the asvab and physical and is waiting for a job I don't want to be alone when I have the new baby especially because I will probably have a c section it was so hard last time and he was there to help me so I'm freaked out because now I'll be alone with 2 babies ... I really hope everything turns out okay for you keep in touch
  • 09-25-2009 11:20 PM In reply to

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    I feel that first that the military benefits will definately be a plus but I was just wondering did they tell you that you need to have a c-section because I had a c-section with my daughter and then 2 years later had a vaginal birth with my son and it went perfect. But is there any way for you to be around your family and how far along are you because if you're not that far along maybe he'll be out of bootcamp and his school by the time you have the baby. I found out that unfourtanely I won't be going to Greece with my husband they didn't read his orders right when they gave it to him so I will be back home in New york with my 2 kids and to make a situation even worse me and my husband went to my doctors appt. when I was 13 weeks and I wasn't excited about the baby until they did a sonogram because they wanted to check the baby out and I saw the baby and even my husband started getting excited but they were taking an extremelly long time looking at it so they stopped and the doctor told me that my baby had no heartbeat and an abnormal placenta he had to explain everything to be and I was like ok I'm not guna start crying but I started bawling my eyes out I just got excited about this baby and now it was taking away and I had to get a D&C about a week later it hurts so bad so it's taken me a while to get back on this website because I tried unsubscribing to the emails but I keep getting them right now I would be 18 weeks and it just hurts to have to see in my email every week how far along I would be. I never thought it could happen to me I don't know what went wrong I did everything right.
  • 09-26-2009 1:36 PM In reply to

    Re: 3rd child at 19

    I'm so sorry you can't blame yourself it is just very hard and you will eventually feel better I had 2 miscarriages before my first daughter but they were never that far along you will be in my prayers ... To answer your question I am due in march and I will most likely end up with a c section because I have a hernia that will be repaired at the same time but I'm just tryibg to take everything one day at a time so I don't get overwhelmed
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