Enomrah:I am new to this board but I am strongly hoping that my next baby will be born at home. I have 3 children and each birth at the hospital has gotten worse. I check in here from time to time to read the latest. Did anybody else find it odd that their recomendations to ask your midwife were if she has malpractice insurance maybe I don't understand the issue but how would that have prevented what happened? The second was do they work with a doctor it also didn't seem they had a hard time getting her to a doctor when they chose to go.
Oh yeah. THat part hit me, as well. Make sure your midwife has malpractice insurance, you know, because lawsuits aren't the reason that so many physicians and hospitals place unreasonable restrictions on mothers and babies during birth, right?
I've grown to understand that homebirth is not for everyone, and it has nothing to do with the pain or fear factor. It has to do with accepting personal responsibility. Women who choose to home birth are typically more educated in their options, understand the physiology of labor and birth, have read and learned about the process, and understand the built-in rates of complications as part of life, no matter how tragic.
In some ways, home birthing IS becoming a fad, because women are birthing at home because...well...they think its cool! There is a crucial difference between homebirthing with a midwife and birthing in a hospital. In the hospital, a mother can let loose. She obeys orders and the doctors take over, assuming all responsibility for monitoring and reacting to complications as they see fit. At home, mom has WAY more responsibility. She needs to understand the physiology of labor and familiarize herself with rates of complications to make an EDUCATED decision.
Knowing what I know about labor, I would never allow myself to labor for 4 days. That's just BS. We don't have her medical records, so we don't know if she was in active labor for 4 days or if her water broke 4 days before birth or if she was just having sporatic contractions for 4 days. Moms who birth at home need to be willing to assume partial responsibility for what happens in their birth. If they are not willing to do that, then home birth is not the way to go.
But that's just my personal opinion on the whole thing after being confronted with so many women accusing me of doing something trendy.