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sex, yay or nay?

Last post 11-09-2009 4:12 PM by roniluver. 15 replies.
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  • 11-06-2009 9:32 PM

    sex, yay or nay?

    i am 8 months pregnant and just had sex for the first time in a while. what would it mean if after a bled a little?
  • 11-06-2009 10:27 PM In reply to

    • ~Bernadette~
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    Re: sex, yay or nay?

     I was peeking in from the January board and saw your post and thought I'd comment. I'm sure the blood is just from your cervix. It can get easily injured at this point since it is engorged. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about.

  • 11-06-2009 11:20 PM In reply to

    • Mommy-Megan
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    Re: sex, yay or nay?

    It is common to have minor spotting after a cervical exam, or having your membranes "stripped"... Your cervix is going to be pretty sensitive right now. However, if you're really concerned, or the bleeding gets heavier or doesn't stop, I would call your on-call OB.
  • 11-07-2009 2:37 AM In reply to

    • anne79
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    Re: sex, yay or nay?

    It's normal to bleed a little bit. . as long as it isn't heavy.

  • 11-07-2009 8:09 AM In reply to

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    I've been told to stop having sex when i was like 12 weeks pregnant and we would take breaks but i can't say no to sex completely and i love my man and want to experience the intimacy so every now and then we would have. I bled once, at 12 weeks after a pap and some sex the same night, but since then it was ok. However for various reasons we were told to abstain anyway. I say do it but carefully. Like (sorry for details) not too deep and not too vigorous. That is what we have been sticking to, although of course it sux cause i want the whole shabang, but hey the little one is more important right? We are planning to pick up on pace though in the next week cause i want her out after 37 weeks at whatever time she pleases, i am so tired.
  • 11-07-2009 12:44 PM In reply to

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    Well as long as it wasn't alot of blood i'd say it's normal and go for it. Sex durning pregnancy is healthy and can actually help u go into labor. I know I have sex all the time still and i'm 34wks so i say do it!
  • 11-07-2009 1:17 PM In reply to

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    Yeah as long as it isnt heavy. But we stopped doing it last month b/c it was just too painful and uncomfortable for me. Plus we want the baby to stay in til my due date so I can get maternity leave. Its hard tho. But I'm just not into it right now anymore.

  • 11-07-2009 3:37 PM In reply to

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    Don't worry about it, seriously. My husband and I have sex every couple of days, and I've bled several times. Mention it to your doctor, because bleeding should always be kept an eye on, but I bet you 99% it's just that he hit your cervix. If that happens, your cervix can let off some blood. Also keep in mind that if it's mixed with his semen, it will look worse than it really is. -Mary
  • 11-07-2009 8:21 PM In reply to

    Re: sex, yay or nay?

    thank you for all the help. um i read in my book "What to expect when your expecting" that it wont make you go into labor any faster. i dont know if its true or not but what are other ways that you can do to make it come faster but the baby be healthy. cause i know the doctor wont enduse early unless they need to but i just want the little guy here early (but not too early). any suggestions??
  • 11-07-2009 8:32 PM In reply to

    Re: sex, yay or nay?

    dont try wives tales. they'll only piss you off. i tried every one i knew to try during my first pregnancy and my son was STILL overdue. the baby will come when it wants regardless but sex does help ripen your cervix more from what i'm told if its already somewhat ripe and just not budging. the dr's on the show "deliver me" said having sex really works most of the time to help the labor process as well as moms on here who have tried it.. also i heard eating pineapple slices makes you contract as well as chai tea or raspberry tea. but didnt work for me like i said lol

  • 11-08-2009 8:01 AM In reply to

    Re: sex, yay or nay?

    haha oh great!!! now is it true that your first baby always comes late?
  • 11-08-2009 9:09 AM In reply to

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    kristen3372531:
    haha oh great!!! now is it true that your first baby always comes late?
    Oh man I hope not, lol
  • 11-08-2009 9:36 AM In reply to

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    Amanda6185:
    kristen3372531:
    haha oh great!!! now is it true that your first baby always comes late?
    Oh man I hope not, lol
    Definitely not true. Both me and my fiance were first babies and we were both born early, he was born 37 weeks and i was born just a few days short of 38 weeks. So that is i guess depending on your genetic make up and your baby. All of my fiance's mother's kids were born early. My mom only had me so i don't know how it would go with her, but we are already trying to take steps to try to make the baby come out starting next week. I dont want to wait until 40 weeks, 37 is fine for me. I know from some of my friends that have tried to onset the labor, that taking a bit of castor oil will do the trick a lot of times. Just try to make sure you don't take too much as it could be not too good for you. A little bit should be sufficient to jump start contractions in a couple of days. My doctor told me that i can start having sex however i like starting 36 weeks, which is today. So here we go :) I want my girl here next week waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
  • 11-08-2009 10:05 AM In reply to

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    hannah100877:
    Amanda6185:
    kristen3372531:
    haha oh great!!! now is it true that your first baby always comes late?
    Oh man I hope not, lol
    Definitely not true. Both me and my fiance were first babies and we were both born early, he was born 37 weeks and i was born just a few days short of 38 weeks. So that is i guess depending on your genetic make up and your baby. All of my fiance's mother's kids were born early. My mom only had me so i don't know how it would go with her, but we are already trying to take steps to try to make the baby come out starting next week. I dont want to wait until 40 weeks, 37 is fine for me. I know from some of my friends that have tried to onset the labor, that taking a bit of castor oil will do the trick a lot of times. Just try to make sure you don't take too much as it could be not too good for you. A little bit should be sufficient to jump start contractions in a couple of days. My doctor told me that i can start having sex however i like starting 36 weeks, which is today. So here we go :) I want my girl here next week waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    Ok, that sounds better. I heard that anise helps to start labor too. Tomorrow I will be 36 weeks so I should start trying different things now. lol. I am so ready to have my baby girl here with me. Shower is next sat so as long as I don't go too far after that, I'm fine.
  • 11-09-2009 1:42 PM In reply to

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    With my first I tried everything. Tried the castor oil. It was disgusting but all it did was make me puke my life away. No contractions...nothing. I even tried the primose oil tablets that u puncture and stick up your who ha and that didn't do anything. Tried sex, raspberry tea, etc. and nothing worked. Ended up having to be induced, which then caused the baby to go into distress, which then caused me to have to have a c-section. Which is why 13 months later I have to have another c-section when all I wanted to was have a natural birth. And, now with this baby the hospital had to stop labor at 33 weeks and 34 weeks and now that I'm over 36 weeks there's nothing. No more contractions. I hope they didn't stop them completely because I'm hoping for a baby by mid to end of next week so I can have my baby, stay at the hospital for 3 or 4 days and then get to enjoy Thanksgiving with the newest family addition. I just feel most of the time things don't happen that perfect. It'll be just my luck to have him on Thanksgiving and have to eat hospital version of a Thanksgiving dinner.....DISGUSTING!!!!! I say try what you're up to trying and maybe just maybe those things will work for you. But I have to agree with everyone that your baby isn't going to come unless he's ready. These things will only help if in fact your baby was already gearing up to come so I wish all you ladies good luck on trying to get them out earlier.
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