pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room

• 04-07-2009 7:08 AM

  shanane3291944 Joined on 03-13-2009 ozark al Posts 171	pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room Reply Contact im pregnant with twins and i have a preteen im thinking about letting her in the delivery room when i go into labor so that she can experience it ..does anyone think this is a good or bad idea

• 04-07-2009 12:24 PM

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  Susan3342194 Joined on 04-03-2009 Posts 21

  Re: pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room Reply Contact Honestly, I wouldn't. What if, God forbid, there were some complications during delivery and she got shoved out of the room? That to me would be horribly frightening as a child. If she's fast, there's no guarantee that seeing a birth would necessarily scare her out of having sex. If that is your concern, I would suggest letting her watch a video tape of a live birth, or letting her go to the maternity tour class at the hospital so she can see the movie. (Check with your hospital to see if they have a movie they show, and if you can bring your child..) But that's just me.

• 06-02-2009 9:45 AM

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  zoraida2707992 Joined on 02-29-2008 Posts 6

  Re: pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room Reply Contact well, im 16 and pregnant, and my mom teases my cousins and sisters that she wants them to be in the room when i give birth to experience a real teen pregnancy. im not really sure. I think she will enjoy to see her new siblings and hear their first cry, Its really yours and your daughters call weather you want her to be in there. good luck and take care. I know when my mom was pregnant, i was 14 wanting to be in the room. :)

• 06-03-2009 5:41 AM

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  shanane3291944 Joined on 03-13-2009 ozark al Posts 171	Re: pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room Reply Contact Thank You. Im really considering it. but we will see.She really wants to be in there and i want her to see how it really happens she thinks the people on like a birth story are just acting..lol..But again thank you for your upbeat comment after the last one i almost felt bad for even thinking it..And Good Luck

• 06-22-2009 11:09 AM

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  verybusymom Joined on 08-17-2005 DFW, TX Posts 149

  Re: pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room Reply Contact My daughter was 10 when my son was born. We considered having her in the room. We discussed it at length with her. We watched videos and looked at the book "A child id born" because it has realistic, uncensored pics of the baby coming out. We had her consider if she thought it was something she could handle, seeing me in pain, and the blood etc..In the end we left the decission up to her. She decided that she did not want to be in the room but requested to wait right outside the door and be called in as soon as he came out. As they were putting him on my chest a nurse brought her into the room. She feels she "got the best of both worlds." She was included in the first seconds of his life but without the stresses of watching the "hard part." I am now expecting again (she will be 13 when this baby is born) and I asked her if she wanted to be in the room this time. She is sticking with her original decision. "We'll (her and my son) be waiting outside the door and will come in when the hard part is done" she said with a smile. In making your decision you have to consider 1) does your daughter understand this is a natural process and while it looks scary it is not as bad as it seems 2) can she handle seeing you in pain and bleeding? 3) is she emotionally and mentally able to handle the intensity of the situation? 4) the practices of the hospital (do they treat L&D as a normal process or a medical emergency) 5) your reasons for wanting her in the room (family bonding and sharing the experience or a way of scaring her into not getting PG anytime soon) 6) can you focus on this birth regardless of how she is reacting (you won't have time to comfort her or help reduce her fears while in labor) or will her presence inhibit you and distract you from the task at hand? In the end it is a personal decision. It can work and be a beautiful bonding experience. Or it can tramatize her and lead to unrealistic fears about PG & L&D. It depends on the situation and the child. Good Luck!

• 07-28-2009 10:51 AM

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  djcedillos Joined on 07-15-2009 Posts 9

  Re: pregnant with twins. wanting my 11 year old to be in labor room Reply Contact When my 3 yr was born in '06, my daughter who's now 10, was 7. My brother who was 12 and sister who was 11 were all in the labor room during the labor. Right before I was about to give birth the dr. and nurses had all the kids leave. They still saw all the labor pains and issues. I was on 3 different IV's and oxygen, but didn't see the blood and rest. They were able to come back in the room after the baby was cleaned up. I personally don't think it is a great scare tactic, but makes them feel included. I think 11 is too young to be invlolved for the entire show, but the choice is up to you. It has to be a pesonal choice that you both are comfortable with.